DON'T ALLOW THAT WOMAN TO LEAD!

Men, stop believing the lies that you can't lead in your marriage, that the woman can take over, no! You are the leader, you are the father, you are the role model. Take up your role brother! You are the head, you are not the tail!

Do not accept feminism in your marriage, accept the word of God in your marriage!

You are to love her like Christ loves the church. You are to train her, mould her, Shape her, correct her, compliment her and die for her!

You can only take her advise. You can't take instructions from her, you can't take orders from her, you can't submit to her. Jesus does not submit to the church, the church submits to Jesus! This is the correct order!

May you not become useless in your marriage! May you not lose your relevance! May you not lose your authority! May you not be a bad role model to your wife and children in the name of Jesus!

Thanks for reading, God bless you, cheers!

© Seun Oladele.

WHY IS IT HARD?

Submission will be hard in marriage if you don't have the power to submit.

That inner power comes up from picking up your Bible and doing what He says you should do.

When simple obedience becomes a source of pleasure, something you easily do and it gives you delight, submitting to your husband will come with ease, delight and pleasure. 

But if you hate to read your Bible and commit sin without your conscience pricking you, submitting to your husband will be very hard! Listening to your wife's advice will look like hell to you. 

You can't live in sin and enjoy your marriage, it takes God to enjoy marriage to the peak. It takes God submit!

"For it is GOD that WORKS IN YOU both to WILL and TO DO of His good pleasure..." Do you submit to God?

© Seun Oladele.

MOTHERHOOD AND YOUR SPIRITUAL LIFE.

Recently, I planned to spend 5 hours with the Lord. 2 hours studying the word and meditating, 3 hours praying. I was in the high mood to fellowship with my lovely father in heaven. While getting set, my 2 kids barged into the room where I was to pray, chirping, telling stories, calling my attention with the second shaking his head in "prayers" and the first climbing the table ready to tell stories I had heard over and over again till I lost count!

God! My prayer mood was deflated! I almost burst into tears!

Sending them out and concentrating on the prayer is a waste. With the two boys fighting, kicking, playing around, making noise and reporting back and forth, I just have to find my way round the whole thing.

Hubby had to rescue me. He helped me stay with the boys and I ended up spending 1 hour instead of 5 hours.

Balancing motherhood especially when the kids are small with one's prayer life can be so challenging. Millions of Christian women face this world wide!

What makes us spiritual giants is not how many hours we spend on our knees, shaking our heads and binding the devil (of course, tarrying in God's presence is great and we all should aspire towards it), it is how REGULAR we pray in faith and fellowship with the Lord. Meaning, you can spend a million years praying and get nothing out of it and you can spend twenty minutes and achieve monumental results, the key here is faith. Pray consistently in faith.

With kids running around the house, lots of house chores to do, going to work plus the regular love making in between, there may be no perfect time to build your spiritual life my dear fellow mothers. Lots of women feel guilty for not having time to spend with the Lord, then give up altogether till they grow cold and their spiritual life is no where to be found.

The bible says we should "Pray at all times...", "Pray without ceasing..." That's fair enough for mothers.

To keep your spiritual life hot and alive, pray at all times. Don't wait for the perfect time to arrange the room and spend 24 hours you may not have it!

Pray as you get up from the bed, pray in the kitchen, pray in the toilet, pray on the road ( with your eyes opened of course). Pray when the kids are sleeping (encourage them to go to bed early so you can have time for the Lord), pray when they've gone to school and you are at home.

Use every available time the kids are not around to pray. Install Bible apps on your phone. Read your Bible at break time, read while the kids are with dad. Read while awaiting transaction in the banking hall. Read in the vehicle, read at night.

There is always time to do what's most important in life. There will always be some little time to spare for the Lord while taking care of the kids. And there is always the big time in the night.

Don't kill yourself if you are not praying for several hours at a stretch. Those little times count. The 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there, 20 minutes here, 30 minutes there means a lot. If you add them up, you have spent a seizable amount with the Lord, keeping your spiritual life in shape and being happy with the Lord is very crucial for every Christian. This is end time, we cannot afford to joke with our spiritual life.

Motherhood does not have to douse your spiritual fire! You can be in tune with the lord and still be a great mum to your kids.

Wisdom is key! May the Lord give us all the wisdom we need to balance motherhood with our spiritual life. May your spiritual life not go into the cooler!

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele.

MOTIVATION MONDAY: THIS IS THE ORIGINAL SLAY MAMA!

Ladies who sleep around instead of working hard and making their own money on the excuse that there is no job, please, learn.

Hard workers will always find something to do regardless of the economy. The lazy ones will rather chase men and beg them for money or sleep with them. You are not a whore please, you are an embodiment of virtues and treasures. Value yourselves ladies!

You may not do brick laying but you definitely can do something legitimate. Learn a trade, do good business, sell online, offer free services as a form of advert to prospective customers who will eventually patronize you.

You can do something. DO SOMETHING!

© Seun Oladele

Royal Madness SA: New Video Release.

Royal Madness SA's logo (Source: Facebook)

Royal Madness SA is at it again with the release of their latest official video for "The Statement".

The Statement is one song out of their official mixtape's songs. Info has it that the speculated mixtape is the pipeline to be dropped sooner or later in April or May, 2019.

The release of the video is to create indulgence for all lovers of rap music across the globe that Krayze, the Lord over Royal Madness is still busy doing what he does best and

more great rap is yet to drop.

In the same vein; Krayze would be shooting the official video of "Money my motivation" on 27th April, 2019 and is going to be a bomb.

Please rally round Krayze (Royal Madness) by supporting this video on Youtube: https://youtu.be/MLyM1wl01SI





For: Royal Madness SA
By Olagunju, Success Taiwo.

UNDERSTANDING A MAN'S SILENCE.

When a man keeps quiet and gives up on you, it means, he has tried all his possible best to change you, nothing has come out if it. He is tired of wasting his energy nagging, shouting or screaming, he has decided to find an alternative to you, when he finds an alternative, he shuts down completely, no longer cares about you, or suddenly becomes passive, accepting every damn thing you do without complaining and does his things without acknowledging you or seeking your support!

Don't wait until your husband shuts down or become passive before you work on your marriage. Pride and stubbornness will throw you out of marriage. If you are stubborn, rigid and opinionated, your marriage won't work!

What is he complaining about, work on it. Men as a rule don't complain until they can't take the shit any more.

Some women are just so stubborn! They won't just wake up till there is competition. They won't know their husbands are suffering until they see a strange lady with a protruding tummy in their matrimonial home. Pride won't allow them to see their husbands as the head who deserves some respect and submission!

If he wants you to get a job to support him, get the job, if he wants you slimmer, slim down for God's sake! If he asked you to end certain friendships please do so. If his food gets late, prepare them earlier, if he is ashamed of the way you dress, my dear, work on it. If he wants lingerie in his bedroom, please wear lingerie for God's sake, If he is tired of a single sex position, initiate others or follow his style! If he wants more sex, give him more sex!

Marriage is not static! You are either moving forward in your marriage or moving backward, you are either getting better or worse! You are either enjoying your marriage or not, there is no middle ground in marriage!

Learn to adapt, learn to be flexible, learn to submit. 2 Peter 3:1-2 says,"In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands (subordinate yourselves as being secondary to and dependent on them), so that even if they do not obey the word (of God), they may be won over not by discussion but by the (godly) lives of their wives.

When they observe the pure and modest way in which you conduct yourselves, together with your reverence (for your husband; you are to feel for him all that reverence includes: to respect, defer to, revere him-to honor, esteem, appreciate, prize, and, in the human sense, to adore him, that is to admire, praise, be devoted to, deeply love, and enjoy your husband)". AMPLIFIED VERSION.

Your husband is the most important person in your life after God! Place him above your needs and desires, that is what the Holy Book says. Your desires are secondary to his. You don't do anything he does not approve of! If you can't take the shit you shouldn't have married him in the first place. Now that you are married, bend down to work!

Adapt, be flexible, change! What your friends say about your marriage is not your business, God's approval is your business! Your husband's happiness is your business! When you make him happy, God will make sure you are happy! What goes around usually comes around. When you adapt to your spouse he will also adapt to you! When you change, he changes too.

A man can die for a woman who meets his needs. A man will lay down his life for a woman who honours, respects and submit to him. A man can move heaven and earth to stay with a woman who makes him enjoy marriage.

Be humble sister. Humble women are virtuous women. Humble women make their husbands happy, humble women have great marriages, you will not lose your husband in Jesus name. 

Feel free to share. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele.

OVER CONFIDENCE!

Is the reason many lose their virginity, are rape victims, commit adultery, sleep around and end up broken, shattered, battered and in perpetual shame and regret forever!

The only cure to sexual temptation is FLEE, no more no less! I love my Bible like crazy! It is down to earth practical yet full of faith! The Bible says the only solution to your red hot, burning hormones is to take to your heels, FLEE! To flee means to run, vamoose, jet off, disappear, avoid, keep off, stay away from, erase, delete, step aside from, etc!

Some over spiritual, foolish people, who either has lost their virginity, are battling with lust or deeply enmeshed in adultery they have even lost count of how many people they have slept with will tell you you can't run forever! They make you feel something is wrong with you for running! You are accused of being WEAK and has serious SEXUAL PROBLEMS! They even call you wicked! You ought to stay there and preach to the man/woman till they come to repentance! Why would you abandon them when they need your help. Help you say?

Joseph tried to help Portiphar's wife, he preached so much saliva almost dried in his mouth, the demon possessed woman didn't hear any damn thing he said, all she was screaming was sex, sex, sex, no one told that super sexy guy to flee! I love Joseph, he is a super smart guy upstairs! Samson like some anointed men today didn't flee, "great men don't flee, they face temptation", he must have reasoned! He tried different tactics to keep off Delilah but she didn't back off till she hacked him down!

When a man is hell bent on getting you lady, you are in soup, unless you flee for your destiny! When a Delilah wants to bring you down brother, none of your powerful messages are heard till she brings you down! Flee from all appearances of evil is what the Holy Book says! Tamar too preached but Amon didn't hear anything, all he wanted was sex and he raped her neat! You can't hang around sexual temptation and not do it! Proud people run towards what they should run away from! The Bible says "Let he that thinketh he standeth, take heed lest he fall". He is talking to proud over confident people!

A relationship should move from friendship to love to chemistry to marriage! If it hits off in strong sexual chemistry, it is no longer straight, it is bent, and you need to back off! It is an abnormal relationship!

Some people say, "Can't you keep the relationship and control your sexual feelings? NO! Sexual chemistry is so powerful! Your brain has identified that person with sex, each time you see them there is a spark from your inside that floods your entire being with unusual warmness leading to strong sexual feeling and desire! Some people call it love at first sight, there is nothing like that, it is lust at first sight!

What about strong sexual chemistry in courtship, does it mean you should run away from your partner? Nay! Chemistry in courtship is understandable, simply avoid tempting, lonely environment and plan your wedding if you can't keep your fingers off each other anymore! When I started needing sex, I simply got married, full stop!

Your courtship shouldn't hit off on a strong desire to kiss, romance and have sex, it should start with friendship! If you pursue her and choose to marry her because of her busty front and loaded back, you are in lust and your marriage won't last!

What about sexual temptations from opposite sex friends? Avoid them! Your Pastor? Report him to God if he won't leave you alone and if he persists, leave his church! "What about my boss? I don't want to lose my job in this present economic recession!" If he is not responding to your language, report him to God, God knows how to deal with people like that! He either removes him temporarily or permanently! And if God is not removing him for reasons best known to Him, quit the job and pray for another one! It's better to lose a job than lose your precious destiny! Too many ladies are sleeping with their bosses out of the fear of losing their job! But they do not fear the God who is capable of throwing their sinful soul into hell fire! He is a married man and he is chasing you around? Hell, no! Get him out of your life!

God's warning is clear, "flee youth full lust"; flee fornication, flee adultery! May the lord grant you the grace to do what is right before it is too late. FEEL FREE TO SHARE. God bless you cheers!

© Seun Oladele.