Friday, 20 July 2018

YOU THINK HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU?

Just because he doesn't say sweet nothings and wow you with the craziest gift in town? You think he doesn't love you, just because he doesn't call per minute, per second? You think your husband doesn't love you because he doesn't look into your eyeball every now and then and tell you you are beautiful?
Those things are good and a great partner does that to his lover but real men are beyond what Hollywood portray in romantic movies!
This guy is not a play boy who wants to get into your pants and jets off hence telling you every damn craziest thing you need to hear to make you swoon and fall flat on your face! Your husband is not that EX or male friend who has no single responsibility over you except chat with you 24/7 till you lose guard and end up falling for him!
Real men who genuinely love their partners ACT more than they TALK to win your love.
He thinks about how to take care of you so much he is out to make more money and may forget to tell you you are the most beautiful woman in his world though he thinks about you all day.
Your well being is his concern.
How you will eat, live well and fulfil your dreams are his concern.
Your sound health is his concern.
He doesn't want you to starve or suffer under his roof.
He doesn't want you to beg or run to another man to take his responsibility over you.
Though men will do well to verbalize their love and be more affectionate, tender and kind towards their women. We respond to loving words as well as care and provision.
But understand that if your man is not doing all this every time, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you.
He cares. His working and labouring hard daily shows he cares.
His raw, naked jealousy when another man tries to get your attention shows he loves you so much. Making love to you regularly shows he's still very much attracted to you. His refusal to have sex with you in courtship till your wedding night shows his high level of love, respect and honour for you.
Don't another guy smooth talk you into losing what is real for what is fake.
Real men are not just talkers, they are doers!
Love is a verb!
Thanks for reading. 

God bless you. 

Cheers!


© Seun Oladele

Mastering your Sexuality.

The most powerful sexual organ is not the sex organ but a part of you which you do not pay attention to - your mind. It is the mind that determines your mood, it dictates what you feel, it determines your response to touch and what moves you when you see what you see that triggers you for sex. 
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A mind that is not programmed for sex can never fall victim of illicit or marital sex. It is the state of your mind that largely affect your sexual life. A woman whose mind has been warmed up for sex will easily open herself up for sex at the slightest touch or whisper, the same happens with the male folk.
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When your mind is activated for sex, it sends signals to your brain and it releases a chemical substance that activates your sexual organs for sex. However, regardless of your sexual triggers, you can control what goes on in your body if you can regulate what is in your mind. 
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You do not lose the battle of sexual sin in bed, you were first defeated in your mind. Joseph did not run away from his master’s wife sexual invite because he did not like sex, the state of his mind made him flee. But unfortunately, it was Samson’s condition of mind that made him seek rest on the laps of Delilah. From these two instances, you can agree with me that it is not your physical strength that wins the battle against illicit sex, what makes you overcome is the state of your mind.
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Have you been having issues overcoming illicit sex? Do you rise and fall in sexual sin – you cry today for repentance but tomorrow you are rolling under the sheet of sexual defilement? Or perhaps you have not understood how you can avoid becoming vulnerable to sexual sin? I bring you good news.
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And the good news is not another gospel, but that you work on your mind. I can give you 21 ways to avoid pornography, masturbation, premarital sex and the likes, they can only scratch the surface but they will never uproot the major cause of your sexual problems. Taming your mind is the surest way to master your sexuality. How?
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‘’Do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind’’ – Romans 12:2. Your mind is the engine of your life. If your mind is lustfully polluted, you will think sex, your words will be laced with sexual expression, your touch will be immoral and your relationship with the opposite sex will be for the gratification of your sexual desires.
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Two things that helps you to renew your mind: Accept Jesus and daily meditate on the Word of God.
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‘’O, I have been born again since 19… or since 20...’’ but the truth is that have you accepted Jesus? It is not about being a Christian, it is about becoming who God wants you to be through Christ. Many people accepted Christ with their old habits and lifestyle still remaining intact. It is impossible for you to live the life of victory over your sexual challenges if you do not totally accept Christ into your heart. 
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Transformation starts from the inside of you. Conforming to the world system and practice also starts from within. Jesus and the world cannot reside in you. When Jesus has taken over the seat of your life, it will become very easy for you to gain mastery over your mind (will and emotion). When He comes in, with your mind you will serve the law of the Spirit of life but when He is not there, with your flesh, you will fulfill its lust thereof.
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However, for as many as received Him, to them He gave power to become the son of God and when the sons of God are led by the Spirit of God, they will overcome and master their sexual life. So, when you ACCEPT JESUS into your heart of a truth, wholeheartedly, He gives you the power (Holy Spirit) to become the son of God and when you use the power He gave you, you will gain mastery over your mind and challenges.
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Another important way to master your sexuality is to RENEW YOUR MIND IN THE WORD OF GOD. The word of God, the Holy Bible is not just a historical book, it is a compendium of God’s instruction to mankind, written by men who are inspired by the Holy Spirit. Just like a car engine, if your mind is not ‘oiled’ with the word of God, you will be defeated from your mind before it becomes evident in reality. Don’t just study your Bible to fulfill all righteousness, meditate in it and let the Holy Spirit breathe life into what you read. 
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It is the Spirit that gives life, when you read your Bible with the flesh, it will either kill you or do nothing in you. If you do not renew your mind daily in the word, what you hear, what you see and what you think will defeat you and cause you to fall victim of sexual sin. It is with the renewed mind that you can master your sexuality. When your mind is renewed, you will fear (love and respect) God and depart from every appearance of evil.
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Lastly, GUARD YOUR HEART (mind) with all diligence because out of it are the issues of life. To guard means to keep or to protect. What you do not guard will be exposed to theft and vandalism. Guard what you see, what you hear and the thoughts that flows in your heart. That you have accepted Jesus does not mean you should live a careless life or focus your attention on everything that you see or allow what you hear seep into your mind. You must learn to discipline yourself and everything that makes up your life. An unguarded mind is a defeated life. 
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When the internet throws sexually explicit pictures at you, delete or close the site; when someone complements you sexually, shun it immediately before it gets into your mind and when sexual thoughts flashes through your mind, immediately replace it with what is true, honest and godly so that the thought doesn’t become an act.
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Other ways to master your sexuality are: Watch your company and bring your body under subjection (Self-control). You are not different from the kind of friends you keep, if they do not influence you positively, they will do so negatively. Who are your friends? All these that I have been privileged to reveal to you by the Holy Spirit are the surest ways to master your sexuality regardless of what triggers you for sex.



© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi. 

Thursday, 19 July 2018

"PLEASE, HELP ME TELL THEM TO CHANGE..."

They are paying millions of people's school fees from primary schools to the university...

Through them, many men and women are graduates today...

They have built homes and given out free to hundreds of thousands of the homeless...

They have flown hundreds of thousands of people abroad for medical treatments...

Presently, millions of people are eating today, because of them...

As you are reading this now, millions of people are in the university on their own cost...

Yet, they won't tell the world these things...

But when they acquire new private jets and build new ultra modern cathedrals they will tell us...

If they can talk us about the news cathedrals why won't they tell us about the billions they spend in paying school fees of stranded youths?

They are the ones giving people the nerves to talk against them...

It is not carnality to employ a nice media driver to start covering all the numerous humanitarian activities the church is carrying out...

The church in Nigeria is trying her best to assuage the suffering imposed on us by bad leadership and government...

But the myriads of challenges can't let anyone know how much the church is already doing...

Recently, there has been an attack on our fathers who God has blessed...

Some people out of genuine concern while others out of envy and bitterness are raising voices...

And they are amassing millions of people on their sides...

Ignorant people are joining them to stone men who are doing a lot to contribute their own quota in Africa...

But, will you blame those who have not seen or read about these humanitarian activities?

All they read is how many private jets we have and how many big auditoriums the church is building...
Naturally, man is allergic to oppression...

Don’t blame those that says the church is using tithe and offerings to build personal empires when you are hiding the millions of people the church is feeding, training, housing and paying their school fees...

I don't like such humility...

This kind of humility is causing damage to the church...

It is giving weapon to the enemies of the church to scatter what God is doing in Nigeria...

Jesus said: "There is nothing that is hidden that shall not come abroad..."

It is not good to hide light with a bushel...

It is the kind of humility that made Former president of Nigeria to lose favour before men and women...

He was doing a lot, yet, nobody knew...

Goodluck Jonathan was not weak...

His media team are the ones that were weak...

They never showed Nigerians all the wonderful things that man was doing for Nigeria...

Why will you blame those that said he never did anything?

If not for the media drive, nobody would have known what former Akwa Ibom State governor did in his state...
And that was why he, Godswill Akpabio was loved more, both by his people and by outsiders...

Because when you buy any newspaper daily, you will see pages dedicated to his newly constructed raids and bridges...

Show us what to talk about and if we refuse to talk, then, let our sins be upon our heads...

Rochas Okorocha, present IMO State Governor started wining the hearts of Nigerians long ago, through his ROCHAS FOUNDATION, where he pays people's school fees, etc...

If he was hiding that humanitarian activities, he would not have been loved enough to come 3rd position in the presidential election held in 2003... (If I am not mistaking the year)

The church is doing more than the world knows that we are doing...

And some one must talk about it...

60 percent of the people hanging around Pastor's office after each service are not waiting for prayers...

They are waiting to take money from the pastor which they will either use to feed their families or pay for their expired shop rents...

But the media will not talk about it...

I know some men of God that employs people specially just to be reminding them about families that need house rents and school fees etc...

Every month end, they are busy sending money to those in need in the churches and even those in their host communities that doesn't come to their Church...

But the media doesn't see those things...

But when those same pastors buys new cars or sends their children to expensive schools, the media will start shouting that they are eating member's money...

Friends, don't join people to talk nonsense against men of God you don’t know the sacrifices they are making for the gospel in Nigeria...

You are heaping curses on your life and that of your generations unborn...

Until I got close to a particular man of God, I never knew he is not what people that doesn't know him are calling him...

His children will call from school, begging him for just 30k for their feeding and handouts, but he wont respond...

Instead, he will give me 250k to go to the bank and send to a family that is about to be thrown out by landlord because of house rent...

Sometimes, his children will not go back to school after 2weeks of resumption, because of money...

While he will be busy paying school fees for other people's children to return to school…

Yet, when people see men sow seeds of expensive Jeeps into his life, they will start saying he is using church tithes to buy cars...

Please, don't join them to destroy your self...

If why you bought android phone is for you to be online daily cursing the men of God you don’t know the sacrifices they are making for the gospel in our time...

You better sow that phone as seed into my life and start using Nokia 3310...And you shall not miss your reward... 

Hallelujah... Lol...

Please, don't use your money to buy data just to scatter pastors matter...

You must not talk...

Who are you to even start judging men you don't know from Adam?

I didn't know that they coronated you as a chief judge over the General Overseers in Nigeria...

Is there no old man around to warn you to leave men you don’t know their hearts for this generation and look for something else to talk about?

Who is sponsoring you in this journey of self destruction?

How many state governors have you gone on air to insult?

How many times have you spoken against the police force that are being hired to kill those they are being paid to protect?

If you are bold, why not start with politicians? 

My brother, I understand your concern about the many things not going on right in the church in our time...

But don't take it personal...

There is a lot going on behind the scene you don’t know about...

Winners chapel paid my elder brother's school fees for a 5years course in the University...

If not for that church, my brother and millions of others would have been an illiterate today...

And since that 1997 or so, they have been doing it till today...

Giving scholarships to hundreds of thousands of people every year...

Yet, the Media won't talk about it... 

Nobody will come on 'Facebook live' to talk about it...

We won't see it on the YouTube channel of those that thinks they are fighting for God in Nigeria...

When my elder sister was to travel to America and there was no money for flight ticket etc...

It was the same church that paid for her flight and other things ...

They didn't care that we were originally from another denomination....

If you calculate the offering we have given in that church since we started attending, it won't even be enough to pay transportation from Umuahia to Ahiazu Mbaise in IMO State...

But yet, the branch of that church stood where we just started fellowshipping stood for my family...

Till today, they are still standing for many families...

If you have not heard, please, shut up...

Men who wants to be heard at all cost will never tell you such things...

I pray you don’t drive yourself to destruction because of people who are on radio and YouTube looking for attention...

Anyone can go on YouTube to talk ... 

And people will be hailing them as if the church has become a socialist cum political struggle...

Where a party is fighting another party from every available loophole...

Recently, Winners Chapel sent relief materials to the displaced people in Plateau State...

And till now, I have not seen it go viral...

But if they hear that a pastor Bought a private jet, they will run out to start judging another man's servant...

And when some of us raises voices, to passionately halt this ineptitude...

They will say that we are looking for favour for the sake of pulpits ...

And I laugh... 

But It is well friends...

I refuse to join this madness of fighting people I dont know how much is leaving their bank accounts every month to poor and helpless people all over the world...

If you call it weakness and cowardice, let it be...

When Jesus was here, people were still poor ...

He left them here and ran back to heaven...

And Holy Ghost came...

The same forces that created the world has been here with us, yet people are still poor...

Why has He not made everyone rich?

Even God still have very faithful servants that are still poor...

Why hasn't He made all of them rich?

Who told you that pastors are responsible for the poverty in Nigeria?

No matter how much you try, you can never eradicate poverty totally in your community...

There are people you are born to help and there are people that will wait for others to rise and help them...

I think you should be more concerned not to disappoint those waiting for you to help them than monitoring how a man of God somewhere is doing his own...

Some members don’t need money, they need prayers...

Some of them have controlled money and they lost millions...

No matter how much you give them.again, if you have not dealt with their spiritual problems, they will still lose the money...

I am talking from the advantage I have as a preacher's son, born inside the church, who grew up inside the parsonage...
Who have served pastors and are still serving pastors...

As an insider, please, take it from me...

Pastors are suffering more than they appear...

No amount of money can make up for the emotional and physiological pains they go through for their members...

Sometimes, there children will be dying, yet. they will leave them and rush to pray for a member's child whose child is also dying...

Friends, I think it is very risky to talk nonsense against such a separated people...

Use that your temerity and eloquence and start fighting PDP and APC...

I know that there is a lot anormalies in the Nigerian church...

But if you have pastored a church in Nigeria for 5years, there are things you will never open your mouth to say against pastors in Nigeria ...

If you told a pastor to help you financially and he told you there is no money, leave him and go to God...

Don't come online and start saying that pastors are wicked and greedy...

You dont know how many people that pastor sent money to last week before you brought your own need...

You dont know how many people that are on the line, waiting, before you came...

Forget the nice suits they and their wives put on...

Those people are carrying people's loads...

Remember that they have relatives... 

They have in-laws... 

They have personal bills to pay...

Leave them alone and cry to God to favour you...

When He favours you, you will be the one bringing money to them to help you dispense it to the needy...

But if you can, please, help me tell our fathers in Nigeria that we need to be seeing what they are doing for this nation...

Let them not be like Goodluck Jonathan that did many things that were never seen till he left office...

It doesn't mean that they are making the right hand to see what the left hand is doing...

But, it is also encouraging the young generation of ministers to know that this gospel is not about personal grabbing...

Let them show the world those bridges they are constructing for those communities ...

Those blocks of flats they are building for poor widows, let them show us...

Let them start showing us the graduates of all their scholarships schemes...

We need to see the thousands of beneficiaries of those free housing projects they are doing...
It is not pride. 

It is not carnality...

It is not show off...

It is information...

We are in the last days when Satan is trying so hard to scatter what God is doing among his people...

We too must upgrade our game...

This is just my 'carnal' piece of advise...

May God give us understanding...


Let us pray!