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Most opposite sex relationships often start on a plane of sexual purity but before the partners involved could say, "Jack", they have crossed over to the line of impurity.
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All relationships that ended in premarital sex, unwanted pregnancy, extramarital sex, caressing and sexual sins started from immorality. When relationships starts on the plane of immorality, the end is always disastrous.
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Sustaining a relationship that's sexually pure doesn't come by chance, it's a product of mutual effort of the parties involved where boundaries are set and the relationship is clearly defined.
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Whether it is a relationship kept by singles or married, if care isn't taken, the following has a way of making your relationship nosedive into immorality.
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1. Communication
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The lifeblood of every relationship is communication. Relationships die a natural death when the parties involved fail to communicate with one another.
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If in a week or more you only talk once or twice, do not expect emotional intimacy to occur in such relationship.
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On the other hand, when the frequency of communication between two persons becomes much, it's easy for them to exhaust all meaningful discussions and deviate to irrelevant things.
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Immorality sets in when you start to complement her body part and she does same. When communication becomes erotic, immorality comes in and it'll lead to indecent touches before the final act is carried out.
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What do you say when you both talk? Avoid filthy communication because it corrupts and defiles. And when what you say often is all filthy, you'll loosen your guard for sexual purity.
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2. Purpose
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When the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. When the purpose of a relationship isn't known, it'll be easy for you two to tolerate immorality.
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When the purpose of communication isn't defined, immorality would creep in.
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Why do you want to talk to him or her? When you don't have something meaningful to say, it'll be easy to say irrelevant things that would gratify the flesh.
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How are you? Where are you? What are you doing? I'm missing you. Hope you're fine? All these aren't bad but when it's all that you both say, it'll be easy for you two to say something else.
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Literally, evil communication corrupts good manners in every relationship.
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There are many things that makes people delve into immorality in their relationship but major one is the issue of communication - its frequency and purpose.
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How often do you call him or her? What do you discuss when you call (voice, data, video)? Don't get it wrong, it's not bad to communicate, watch the frequency, check the purpose; what signal does it send?
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What's the purpose of the conversation, does it promote the flesh (carnality) or it's geared towards godly purpose?
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3. The condition of their heart
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A good man out of the good treasures of his heart brings forth that which is good and an evil man, out of the evil treasures of his heart, brings forth that which is evil.
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If you're with a carnal person, do not expect them to relate with you in a godly way. Likewise a naturally minded person will relate with you based on their physical senses.
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Only those who have the nature of God in them, shunned filthy conversation and pursued godly purpose can achieve a pure relationship with the opposite sex.
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Do you notice that your relationship is moving in the order of immorality? Are your conversations filthy? Does he or she touches you indecently? Or compliments you carnally?
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It's not too late to make amends in your relationship now. You can still end the year on a good note towards purity and continue with that in the years ahead. All you have to do is to ask God for a new heart. Watch the frequency of communication in your relationship and what your relationship is centered on - godly purpose or pleasure.
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How were you able to get out of the immoral relationship you once had? Kindly share in the comment section.
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.
