Tuesday, 19 February 2019

Why Relationships Ends in Immorality.

There's a thin line between good and evil, love and lust, feelings and lust, sexual purity and sexual immorality. 
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Most opposite sex relationships often start on a plane of sexual purity but before the partners involved could say, "Jack", they have crossed over to the line of impurity. 
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All relationships that ended in premarital sex, unwanted pregnancy, extramarital sex, caressing and sexual sins started from immorality. When relationships starts on the plane of immorality, the end is always disastrous. 
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Sustaining a relationship that's sexually pure doesn't come by chance, it's a product of mutual effort of the parties involved where boundaries are set and the relationship is clearly defined. 
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Whether it is a relationship kept by singles or married, if care isn't taken, the following has a way of making your relationship nosedive into immorality. 
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1. Communication 
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The lifeblood of every relationship is communication. Relationships die a natural death when the parties involved fail to communicate with one another.
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If in a week or more you only talk once or twice, do not expect emotional intimacy to occur in such relationship.
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On the other hand, when the frequency of communication between two persons becomes much, it's easy for them to exhaust all meaningful discussions and deviate to irrelevant things. 
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Immorality sets in when you start to complement her body part and she does same. When communication becomes erotic, immorality comes in and it'll lead to indecent touches before the final act is carried out. 
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What do you say when you both talk? Avoid filthy communication because it corrupts and defiles. And when what you say often is all filthy, you'll loosen your guard for sexual purity. 
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2. Purpose
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When the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. When the purpose of a relationship isn't known, it'll be easy for you two to tolerate immorality. 
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When the purpose of communication isn't defined, immorality would creep in. 
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Why do you want to talk to him or her? When you don't have something meaningful to say, it'll be easy to say irrelevant things that would gratify the flesh. 
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How are you? Where are you? What are you doing? I'm missing you. Hope you're fine? All these aren't bad but when it's all that you both say, it'll be easy for you two to say something else. 
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Literally, evil communication corrupts good manners in every relationship.
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There are many things that makes people delve into immorality in their relationship but major one is the issue of communication - its frequency and purpose. 
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How often do you call him or her? What do you discuss when you call (voice, data, video)? Don't get it wrong, it's not bad to communicate, watch the frequency, check the purpose; what signal does it send? 
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What's the purpose of the conversation, does it promote the flesh (carnality) or it's geared towards godly purpose? 
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3. The condition of their heart
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A good man out of the good treasures of his heart brings forth that which is good and an evil man, out of the evil treasures of his heart, brings forth that which is evil. 
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If you're with a carnal person, do not expect them to relate with you in a godly way. Likewise a naturally minded person will relate with you based on their physical senses.
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Only those who have the nature of God in them, shunned filthy conversation and pursued godly purpose can achieve a pure relationship with the opposite sex. 
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Do you notice that your relationship is moving in the order of immorality? Are your conversations filthy? Does he or she touches you indecently? Or compliments you carnally? 
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It's not too late to make amends in your relationship now. You can still end the year on a good note towards purity and continue with that in the years ahead. All you have to do is to ask God for a new heart. Watch the frequency of communication in your relationship and what your relationship is centered on - godly purpose or pleasure. 
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How were you able to get out of the immoral relationship you once had? Kindly share in the comment section. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.

Monday, 18 February 2019

"HE IS GOD'S WILL FOR ME, BUT I DON'T LIKE HIM!"

It may be his looks -physical structure, height, complexion, tribal or no tribal marks. Diction, spoken English, type of job, bank balance, educational disparity; she is a degree holder, he is an OND struggler, he is squatting, still schooling while she is ready for marriage, etc.
Guys have their own complain too. Not physically attractive, too "spirikoko", immoral past life, unwanted baby, bad character, hot temper, being too friendly with guys, over bearing, over demanding, etc!
Not all happily married couples initially liked their partners, in fact, some took to their heels! Omotola said she didn't like her husband initially. Late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya said Pastor Taiwo didn't look like the man of her dreams. Dr Emmanuella, wife of Damilola Mike-Bamiloye said, she didn't like him. I certainly didn't like my husband's mode of dressing when I first met him, it was too awkward and crude for me! Apostle Suleimon wasn't excited when God told him the extremely beautiful lady on his street was his wife. A friend of mine took to her heels when God revealed her husband to her! She ran 440! She flatly refused to obey God. The guy was not anything near her standard. It took the mercies of God to arrest her proud, stubborn mind. By the time she went back to the guy, ladies were already flocking around him. It took divine intervention to get them back, they are happily married today.
Dr. Mike Murdock said, "The greatest gift of God comes in the simplest packaging." Jesus is the saviour of the world, yet was born in a manger. The man/woman who will transform your life and help you fulfil destiny may not appear in apparels of gold and five star 6 piece suit! It takes humility to yield to God's will.
Watch out for peace of mind! No matter how you dislike them, if they are God's will for you, you will have peace, inner joy and their nature/temperament will please you. No matter how you like them, if you have no peace, joy and contentment, it is not God's will. If you don't like them and you don't have peace, let them go!
Regardless of your complain about them, deep down, you will know you are with the right person. If you heard God, you will have His assurance. If you don't know how to hear God. Read " How To Hear From God" by Joyce Meyers, it will help a lot.
Deep down, I loved my friend. I always had peace around him. His presence gave me so much joy. There were lots of other things I liked about him minus his looks at that time. Since he is God's will for me, working on his looks is a minor problem. It's something we could both work on. He has changed a lot. I'm so in love with his looks today.
If they are God's will for you, God will give you the ability to help them look better, make more money, further their education and with your encouragement, work on their weaknesses. If not, your relationship will get worse and your marriage will end in divorce! Hearing God is key!
Dislike is different from hate! If you hate them with passion, you can't identify with them in public, you so much despise them, opening their mouths make you want to vomit or you can't accept their past for whatever reason under heaven, loose them and let them go! That's an extreme case! God will not give you some one you hate. It's either you didn't hear God or you are under spiritual attack to miss God's will for you in marriage! Some people just develop hatred for their destiny helpers and push them away! If you don't know how to attract your soul mate or you are having issues keeping relationships or getting married and age is no longer on your side, my ebooks: "Overcoming Marital Delay" and "How To Attract Your Perfect Soul Mate" will help in that regard. They are available at affordable price. Inbox me for details.
Marrying God's will is the best choice you will ever make in your life. I thank God I married my husband! That guy is the greatest miracle of my life. Dewunmi is my dream come true. My best, my all after God. I love you so much my crown, Muuuuaaaah!
Make sure you marry God's will. Do not miss it for any reason in the world. You will be glad you did. May you not mis-choose!
Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele.

YOU SHOULD OUT DO YOUR HUSBAND!

In this last days, God is out pouring his wealth on givers, whether you give to the poor, the church or your family. Every giving you do should be seen as a seed not a waste of money because its coming back to you in multiple fold whether you like it or not!
If there is any area you must actively outdo your husband in marriage, it is giving! Most women today are pathetically selfish. They want to collect everything from the man and give little or nothing! "Shebi it is his responsibility" is the usual chant.Yes, he should take care of you and the kids, it's his primary responsibility but you are there to help, that is why he married you. Give, help, be ready to be blessed, God rewards givers! Selfish people don't break out of mediocrity! They don't leave a level, they remain stagnant for a long long time, the secret to being blessed is being a blessing. Be a blessing to your husband, children and the people around you and watch God lift you!
Some women complain their husbands don't take financial responsibility in the home. All effort to get him change proved abortive. Great! Roll up your sleeves darling lady, get down to work and take his responsibility. God must bless the giver in the family, if you are the giver, he will open doors of opportunities for you and bless you beyond measures! Never see giving your family as a waste! It's an investment that will yield results in due time!
You don't need to sleep with men to get money woman! The same money making brain the Lord gave to men, he gave to you too. Pray for ideas, think, ask questions, open your mind, heart, senses and learn ways to make and multiply money! It will amaze you where you will find yourself in 5 years!
There is nothing I have given the Lord has not multiplied for me especially in my family! My husband takes his financial responsibility very serious and I seriously look for ways to be a blessing! I want to be a blessing! My antenna are always up to see where I can contribute in my home and of course, there are several ways to contribute! I have always been rewarded by the Lord.
Men will do well to take their financial responsibility in the home serious so that God can keep blessing them. If you don't and allow your wife take over, all the blessings that suppose to go to you will be channeled towards her. In a godly marriage, both the husband and wife contribute in every way to the financial, spiritual, material and physical success of the home but the man takes the lion share. If you refuse to do your share and she does it all, don't be jealous if God starts blessing her.
Don't compete with your husband's authority, he is the head, he must be respected and honoured as the head. But if there is one area you should " compete" with him, it is in giving! Help your man, take care of your children if he refuses to. Work harder, start a business, diversify, think, pray, be hardworking and be a giver and watch God immensely reward you!
Do not wait for your man to do everything. You are bigger than that. Be a woman of substance, a wealth commander, a CEO, top notch consultant in your field. You can move from zero to hero. Start today and the Lord will lift you in due time!
May the good Lord grant you understanding. Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele.