Thursday, 20 September 2018


Should married couples watch porn? Will it boost their sex lives? Lots of people have asked me this question, the answer is capital letter NO. I had to make a research on it as I do not like writing on something I know next to nothing about. Here are my findings:
1. PORN IS DEMONIC! It's rock bottom aim is not to help you improve on sex in marriage, it is to spread lust and break marriages! You can't watch porn and not lust! You will expect your wife to have something bigger, rounder, flatter or toner while the wife expects the husband to have it larger down there while going on for as long as the business men cum porn producers lied that a man can go!
Some of those women's bodies are fake! They did plastic surgery, breast enlargement, butt enlargement, manhood enlargement, etc and they do not have to battle sagging and stretch marks because they ain't producing babies and breast feeding! Never compare your wife with a porn star, never! She is not a prostitute! Never expect your husband to have a bigger manhood, you are not a whore!
2. THE PORN STARS ARE NOT MARRIED so they can't be your role model for satisfying sex. What you are watching is a display of lust between two singles who do not understand the meaning of marriage, responsibility and commitment. All they wake up to do is have sex in front of camera and make money, that's all!
3. MOST OF THE ACTS ARE NOT REALISTIC! They are under the strong influence of drugs. The man goes for 10 rounds and he is not tired while the woman is moaning all through! That is simply crazy! In real life, you don't go 10 rounds at a time unless you want to die before your time, neither is your wife on cocaine or sex boosting drugs! If she goes 5 rounds, she deserves an award!
4. THE SOUNDS ARE CRAZY! Those moans are artificial and based on business arrangement not out of pleasure, there are some moaning that simply doesn't make any sense! You can't expect your spouse to moan that way because you are not producing a movie and grunting to keep your job, this is real life. Real life moaning is based on true pleasure not grunting and "ooshing" every now and then. Pornography doesn't teach reality!
5. IT IS PAINFUL! In a loving marriage the man is gentle, tender and affectionate towards the woman but in porn, he is rough, aggressive and blind to her pains.
There is a way a man handles a woman she will experience pain no matter how long she has been having sex, and there is how deep he goes, she cringes in pain. This actresses have been trained to moan through their pain, they must not complain or cry, they have to act like they enjoyed it. It is physical and mental torture of women who are nothing but sex toys to the money hungry porn producers. If you handle your wife that way, you will keep giving her pain, not pleasure! The end result is divorce!
6. UNREALISTIC SEX STYLE: some sex styles are just not realistic unless you want to break your spouse's spinal cord! I don't know how a sane person will have sex with head down and legs hanging up. Some would even be handcuffed like criminals!
7. SOME OF THE ACTRESSES ARE KIDS: children between age 13 and 18 who ought to know nothing called sex and should be busy with their studies flood the porn market. You should cringe seeing a girl young enough to be your grand daughter, throw her body opened before the camera, have sex like that is the only thing she's born to do and shed tears instead of burning with lust and plan on getting a young girl like her. You should be the one teaching her self dignity, not you learning how to have sex from her! That's crazy! Can you learn how to have sex from your daughter or grand daughter? It's madness!
8. IT CAUSES MASTURBATION! You can't watch those heavy scenes and not masturbate when your spouse is not around and when you start enjoying masturbation instead of sex, you quit the sex altogether. Worst still, your sex life becomes a nightmare as you suffer from pre-mature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation or erectile dysfunction -the resultant effect of masturbation!
9. YOU BECOME ADDICTED to porn and your thinking about the opposite sex gets warped. You see them as sex toys and go after anything in skirt including girls young enough to be your daughter! Pornography turns your thinking upside down!
10. YOU COMMIT ADULTERY! Ah! You can't watch that thing consistently and not desire another man's wife/husband or simply run after young boys and girls.
Learning from porn just doesn't make sense, it will do your marriage more harm than good and you will eventually lose what you are desperately trying to keep.
Read godly books on sex instead. Listen to godly tapes and read godly articles on Internet. Those are objective and realistic. They help you love your spouse and not See them as sex objects. You draw closer to God not far away from Him and your sex life gradually becomes better.
Avoid pornography at all cost, it will damage you. May you not lose your marriage to porn in Jesus' name.
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© Seun Oladele.


Forget about your neighbour's wife and admire yours, kit her! A woman is a costume being. With a change of cloth, hairdo, the right cream and make up, you will be surprised at the transformation.
There is nothing your neighbour's wife has that yours doesn't, you just need to spend extra money and show her extra care, that's all!
If her stomach is too big, buy her a waist trainer, teach her kegel exercise or get her resources that will help her shape up. If she's too fat, encourage her to drop the weight, if she has stretch marks, help her get the cream that will help her solve the problem. If her breasts sag, help her get nice push up bras!
The easiest way to damage a woman's ego is to condemn her looks, she can commit suicide as a result, it happens!
The rate at which more men including Pastors and Bishops have affairs is alarming! Let's apply brake please! Each man should derive maximum satisfaction from his wife and do all it takes to keep his eyes at home.
Stop drooling over your secretary, stop chasing teenage girls all over the street. Stop wishing you married your wife's younger sister. Be CONTENTED with what you have. Make your wife what you want her to be like. The making of a beautiful wife is in the hand of her husband. Your wife looks exactly your pocket, spend more and see her glow more.
Kit your wife. There is a beautiful queen on her inside waiting for the right motivation, motivate her, encourage her and make your wife a superstar worth envying.


© Seun Oladele.


I used to think flirting is about wearing a lingerie, battling eyelashes, rubbing your hands all over the guy, pouting at the lady and circling your hand around her waist, current research has proven me wrong! Flirting is more subtle and most married and singles are guilty of it, yes, married people also flirt!
You often flirt without knowing and you need to put a full stop to any of these if you do not want to commit fornication or adultery.
1. You call the opposite sex dear a lot. "Thanks dear", "Yes my dear", "When should I be expecting you dear...?" If they are your mentees, sibling, sons/daughters whom you have, pure, godly relationship with, it's a different ball game entirely but if they are just friends or secret admirers whose emotions you are manipulating to your own advantage, that "dear" is flirty!
2. You wear sensitive clothes to attract their attention -nothing serious, just a little branch off from your normal wears to get their attention to your curves, muscular biceps or body build -that is flirting.
3. You are using words you don't normally use in your everyday language for them like "cool", "joor", "na", "k" etc in order to show emotional intimacy, you are flirting!
4. You say things that are ourightly sexy or show deep intimacy -that is full blown flirting!
6. You say negative things about your spouse/partner to them while praising their good qualities, it is flirting!
7. You chat about very personal/emotional issues far into the night, you are seriously flirting!
8. You outrightly call them pet names -that is no longer flirting, it is an affair!
9. You visit them in their apartment without informing your spouse -emotional affair has started -that is serious flirting!
10. You touch them a lot, you will soon strip each other naked.
Married or single, avoid flirting at all cost. It adds nothing to you, neither does it help your marriage in anyway. Men should avoid touching ladies carelessly. It doesn't speak well of you. Married people should mind how they address and talk to the opposite sex. Always remember you are married, if you often forget, you need a larger and bigger wedding ring with a mighty rock on it to keep pulling your mind back to where it should be.
All these holy hugs we do in church while enjoying the sisters full breasts should stop. Sisters should stop helping men pick dirt from their beard, you are not a refuse picker.
Married women should please, stop confiding in the opposite sex unless he is your father, brother or a disciplined marriage counsellor. Personal problems bond us to the opposite sex.
Single brothers should stop calling sisters pet names in the name of brotherly love and sisters should stop hugging brothers in "Holy Embrace" all these are flirting.
"Flee all appearances of evil" is what the Holy Book says, Flee!

© Seun Oladele


Strictly for the married!

Lots of articles and books have been written encouraging or warning wives to give their husbands sex as often as he wants or else, he will have an affair. No sane woman wants to starve her husband sexually but if you do not co-operate to make this a smooth ride, you may not enjoy the sex you desperately need from your wife. Here are the reasons women starve their husbands sex:
You hiss, "What happened to family planning?" Excuse me, family planning is not easy! Swallowing those pills every day has serious side effects talk less of the injections every six months! Apart from the headache, nausea, vomiting, dizziness, rapid weight gain or unwanted weight loss, those pills or injections often fail. Then, she is also at the risk of cervical cancer and fibroids. Women don't like living all their lives on this pills! Worst still, if the side effects hits, and she gets fat, you are the first to make jest of her and threaten to get a skinny chick if she doesn't slim down! Why can't men also do family planning for God's sake! Use condom, you don't want! You must do flesh to flesh, yet she must not get pregnant, the monthly pills also make her sick, tired and too weak to have sex!
Men should please learn to co-operate and make sex easier for their wives. Use condom once in a while. Abeg, it's not compulsory you must travel to Jerusalem every time, let her use her hand too, or give you BJ if you are not against it. There are other ways you can enjoy intimacy without intercourse, teach her how to help you use her hand, thighs among others reach orgasm, once that thing is out, you should calm down. If you can make things easy for her, she will be more available and respond passionately to sex.
2. YOU DON'T ROMANCE ENOUGH: Some men like to barge in and out and go to sleep, that is not sex, it is rape. Please, I beg you in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, our father in the Lord, kindly spend at least, 20 minutes, "playing" with mummy before you go in, please! No one enjoys "prison break" intercourse! Until she is wet, please, don't go near her paradise! Please, read Songs of Solomon five times, before you have sex, it will help a lot, Praise, the Lord!!!
You always disappears when she gets pregnant. That apart, you don't take care of the children and you want her to add another one. You abuse her when she vomits, sleeps a lot and refuse to eat because of her morning sickness. You yell at her because her change in hormones won't allow her to enjoy sex and you are no where to be found when she delivers her baby. Haba, Baba xxx, eleyi o daa ooo!
If you want her to get pregnant, be there for her. Take care of her, endure the smell of the vomit, that is what marriage is about. Help with house chores, honestly my brother, she will have sex throughout her nine months pregnancy! When a man is romantic, his wife will respond sexually.
4. POST DELIVERY: Doctor says you should give her at least 6 weeks for that place to heal and bleeding to stop! To ask her for sex after one weak is inhuman! To sleep around after 2 weeks of delivery because she is refusing you shows you seriously need to grow up. Abeeegiii! Let her heal brother! She can give you BJ if you want, if you don't want, she can use her hands to do signs and wonders on you. You may even love the feel and try it occasionally, hmmm? Please sir, let that place heal, especially when she had tears and went through stitches!
Women respond passionately to men who take care of them. If you don't care for her, you treat her like a sex slave, you don't care about the children, you rarely spend on the family, your wife may eventually grow frigid!
Wives like it when their husbands go for at least 5 minutes before exploding, 7 minutes will be great, pre-mature ejaculation can frustrate any woman and make her hate sex altogether, please, do something about it.
The stress of work, running the house and taking care of 3 kids, talk less of 4 or 5 can make a woman completely fazzled and too tired for sex. Pleasy! Assist at home, it won't kill your manhood if you help in the kitchen and take care of the kids while she rests.
So men, these and more are the reasons your wife may be starving you sex. Please our bros and daddies, kindly do something about it as soon as possible especially in the area of family planning, please, reduce the stress on your wife.
Try condom and other alternatives. Safe period is not always correct and withdrawal most times fail, just a drop of sperm before withdrawal can lead to pregnancy so oga, sit madam down and talk about better ways of making sex more enjoyable and easier for both of you.
Feed your wife please, take good care of her. Sex requires energy. Stress can make a woman too weak to have sex, assist with house chores and she will have time for you.
Mummies in the house, please, don't use these as excuse not to have sex anytime oga wants ooo, abeg! Let him visit his paradise anytime he wants, na im get am. Work together on your sex life, you will both be happier for it. Sex is one of the tools satan use to destroy marriages, your marriage will not fall to the onslaught of satan in Jesus name. 

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© Seun Oladele,