Friday, 15 December 2017

Skate Society Soweto is inviting you!

On Juta & De Beer street in Braamfontein; Skate Society Soweto serenades the street with a rock and instrument kind of music performance and got us grooving to the delight of Red Bull energy drink.

It was a wow performance for people to rally round the society that dedicates it campaign on skating boarding in the township as a way of reaching out to community members to show their love for the sport.

Founded on 25th December, 2010; the society is gradually grasping the heart of the youth of Soweto and cutting across other suburbs as a platform where youngsters can have good times.

By Olagunju, Success Taiwo.

ENJOY YOUR SINGLENESS.

Very recently, I planned to spend 4 hours with the Lord precisely from 8pm to 12am. My heart was yearning to fellowship with the love of my life -the Lord Jesus Christ. Unfortunately, I ended up angry and frustrated. My toddler whom I did everything to 'cajole' to sleep kept his 2 eyes wide opened, cackled, pranced around and didn't sleep till I poured cold water on his head and fanned him to sleep, that was twenty something minutes past eleven. I was so angry he 'hijacked' all my time, I had no energy to pray. I had to re-adjust my inner system, asked the Lord for grace and 'forced' the sweet feeling back.

Yesterday, same. I couldn't go for my prayers, I had to sit beside him on the bed and commune with the Lord by fire, by thunder, by force!

What I'm I trying to say? Marriage is responsibility, it is sacrifice, it is servant hood and it is a place of compromise. You won't always have all the time you have now as a single person to pray and attend attend programmes as much as you want. Now, that you are single, instead of rushing to get married, enjoy your singleness, serve the Lord, pursue your vision.

Ecclesiastes 12:1 says, "Remember the Lord thy God in the days of thy youths." Most youths don't care if God exists these days talk less of remembering Him. Your single years is for serving the Lord, maximize this opportunity before you get married!

I so much enjoyed serving the Lord as a single lady I was in no hurry to get married, I never wanted my singleness to end. It was so glorious, beautiful and fulfilling. I boasted to anyone who cared to listen I would marry at 30. 'Unfortunately', I got married 3 months short of my 30th birthday.

Marriage is beautiful. It has its own benefits and enjoyments. It also comes with lots of sacrifice and compromise. To everything there is time and season (Ecclesiastes 3:1).

Serve the Lord in your single years. The Lord who sees your faithfulness in His time will reward you with a good, godly spouse in Jesus' name.

"To everything, there is time and seasons." Never forget that! God bless you, cheers!

© Seun Oladele

Thursday, 14 December 2017

HOW TO PROVE YOU ARE A REAL MAN.

1. You are good looking (you take good care of your looks).

2. You are clean (you do not wear one boxer for 3 days).

3. You know how to make clean money.

4. You know how to save money.

5. You know how to multiply money.

6.You know how to give the woman you love the biggest chase of her life!

7. You know how to propose (you are not the kind that wait for ladies to 'toast' you).

8. You keep 'pursuing' her when she says NO the first and second time.

9. You have a functional bank account.

10. You are generous (you do not earn a 100k and give her #200 for hair do).

11. You have a strong control over your libido (you do not harass her up and down the moment you have an erection).

12. You are not gay.

13. You are not a double-dater.

14. You can stay faithful to one woman for the rest of your life.

15. You have self control.

16. You are a professor in the university of patience, long suffering and endurance.

17. You are born again.

18. You speak in tongues.

19. You are a prayer addict.

20. You are a word addict!

These are not all, but you sure must have these qualities if you wanna get married soon. If not, you ain't ready for marriage...mar what? A beg, go and sleep (smiling).
Kudos to all the men in the house. Your wives are waiting for you. Give her the big chase and get married soon. Don't forget to send me your wedding I.V. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele

PLEASE, DON'T LEAVE ME.

Don't allow anyone tie you down in a toxic, destructive, frustrating and sinful relationship because of their emotional plea...
Lots of singles are trapped in negative relationships because of those emotional, manipulative words.
You have your life to live. You are solely responsible for your own happiness. If someone choose to make your life unbearable and you choose to stay in such an awkward, destructive, energy draining relationship, you have yourself alone to blame!
Jesus said, "love your neighbour as yourself." Meaning, love yourself first, then love your neighbour. Take care of yourself first then you can take care of your neighbour. You can't be unhappy and make them happy, its not possible! If they are draining your happiness, your joy, your positive energy, which one do you have left to give? You need to get out and find your own happiness!
If they want you in their lives, they must stop hurting you. If they really, truly need you, they have to stop those habits driving you crazy. If they are not ready to change, asking you to keep wasting your time praying for their incorrigible, cold hearted, unrepentant attitude, you should take to your heels!
A person who genuinely loves you will seek your happiness above theirs even if it takes losing you. You read that right, EVEN IF IT TAKES LOSING YOU. Love is not selfish, it is selfless. It does not hold tightly to somebody against their will and happiness. Hubby lovingly told me while we were courting, "your happiness means a lot to me Seun. If ending this relationship and marrying another man will make you happy, I will gladly do it, I love you that much. " An immature mind will think that's pride in display! Why would you release her if you claim you truly love her? My husband has clearly displayed God's love to me.
God loves us so much, died for us yet will not FORCE us to obey him or spend eternity in paradise. That wouldn't be love, it will be selfishness. He loves us so much, he still gives us the power to chose (Deuteronomy 30:19). I told hubby countless times in the relationship he is free to go anytime he wants, I'm not tying him down in any relationship. What is yours will never leave no matter how you push (I'm not asking you to push your fiance/fiancee away, so many of you are too chicken hearted to trust God anyway). If they are yours, they will stay, if not, a little pressure will end the relationship. Never beg anyone to stay in any relationship with you, never! It is called desperation. If they want to go, they are free to do that and the door is wide opened. The Lord will bring your own man/woman who will never leave and stay loyal to you forever!
Bottom line, don't force anyone to stay in a relationship with you and don't be forced to stay if you really need to get out of a toxic relationship.
A little word is enough for the wise. God bless you. 

Cheers!

© Seun Oladele

YOU GET ME ANGRY!

It's okay to get angry in relationships, it's okay to let your partner know they are doing things you don't like and you want them to change or they will keep frustrating your life!
It's okay to express your emotions. It's okay to express your anger as long as you do not sin with it. "Be ye angry, but do not sin..." (Ephesians 4:26-27).
God knows bottling your emotions and pretending all is well will damage your health and ruin your relationships! It's the reason people are breaking up engagements and divorcing like crazy! One or both of them keeps pretending all is well while the other person keeps hurting them over and over and again!
Learn to open your mouth and talk! Tell your partner, those things you don't like! Let him know his body odour drives you crazy or her laziness is just not acceptable. Yes, correct in love, correct gently, correct firmly. If they are not changing after multiple attempts to drive sanity into the relationship, either air your displeasure or end the relationship! Amos 3:3 must function 100% in your courtship before you head the altar!
You are not sinning by expressing your anger at what you hate. God said, "in my anger I smote you..." (Isaiah 60:10). Express your emotions. Jesus was down to earth real while on earth. He got angry and drove the unscrupulous elements out of the temple. He wept at Lazarus' grave. He also wept over a city that refused to repent. It is the devil that pretends, lies and hide when he is boiling with anger, wrath and rage!
You sin with your anger when you keep malice, beat your partner, get enraged and damage things. Domestic violence is as a result of anger poorly channeled and uncontrolled. Anger should not lead you to do anything spiritually, physically and socially unacceptable.
I'm not asking you to always get angry at your spouse. What I mean is be real, be honest, be down to earth, be original with your feelings. Don't fake anything so that you and your spouse will understand each other better and work together to improve on your relationship. What are the things they do you don't like? Start talking about it today and see the changes you want. You will be glad you did. God bless you. 

Cheers!

© Seun Oladele