CONFUSION IN COURTSHIP: TO CONTINUE OR TO QUIT?

Every God ordained courtship will face challenges enough to make you quit! The devil knows once you marry right, he is in soup so he will do everything in his power to break your focus and marry someone else!

Are you confused in your courtship? Why do you want to call it quits? Because of any of the following reasons?

1. BOTH OF YOU ARE AS.
Some singles are 100 percent sure they heard God till they did genotype test and discover they are both AS and get confused. A lot ends the relationship! If you are really sure you heard God not your head, tell God to change your genotype to AA or have the faith none of your kids will be SS. I see godly, faith filled AS couples and have healthy children all the time. Some have their genotypes changed to AA by God before their wedding date. If you are very fearful and lack faith, then you didn't hear God, end the relationship!

2. NO PARENTAL CONSENT.
The devil can use anybody to stop your wedding including your parent. That is why you must spend lots of time praying together instead of having sex. Ask God to speak to and convince your parents and He will. You don't have to end your relationship because your parents are putting pressure on you to marry someone else. If you are sure your partner is the one, pray, stand your ground till you win the battle!

3. FINANCIAL MISFORTUNE.
Everything is going smoothly till you are planning for wedding and mysteriously, your finances went below zero! You don't need to call it quit. Both of you should join forces together and pray till that yoke is broken!

4. THEIR HORRIBLE PAST.
If you truly, really heard God, their past should be no big deal even if she has once been a whore with multiple abortions or he was once an armed robber or cocaine addict. If you can't accept their past, love their present and believe in their future, end the relationship, you didn't hear God!

5. THEY WANT TO QUIT!
Your partner may come under attack and wants to quit the relationship for no sane reason whatsoever. You don't need to follow that line. They are not in their right senses. If you are very sure you heard God and they are God's will for you, stand your ground, pray, seriously intercede for them till they come to their right senses and marry you properly.

6. YOUR EX SHOWS UP.
And says you are the one for them. Why did they quit the relationship in the first place? Didn't they hear God before proposing and quitting? Shun the distraction and focus on your fiance/fiancee, it is the distraction of the devil to make you lose your life partner.

7. THEY ALWAYS DEMAND FOR SEX.
Sit them down and let them know you won't have sex till marriage. Honestly discuss how long you can "hold body" and plan your wedding accordingly. If your courtship has no expiry date, you are both in school and still have a long long way to go yet he keeps demanding for sex, and won't take no, END THE RELATIONSHIP!

These are some of the reasons people run away from their God ordained partner and marry someone else. You don't have to quit that courtship if it is God's will. Just carry God along! Intercede for your partner. Both of you should pray together and never quit till you overcome your battles.

However, never beg anyone to stay in a relationship with you. If they want to go please, let them. God will never force or beg anyone to stay in His will. He will rather pick someone else. He has a better partner for you.

If they keep threatening to end the relationship, please, let them. Someone who appreciates, celebrates and honour you will come your way in due time.

May you not mischoose!

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele.

Going back to basics will make you different.

Tankiso Motsoeneng,
PR Intern at Weber Shandwick Africa    

It is generally accepted that creatives are in Marketing, Digital and Advertising industries, where else creatives are also in Public Relations too. Conversations with my fellow peers are often on how we can bring creative ideas within our agencies. My name is Tankiso Motsoeneng and I am a Public Relations and Communication graduate from the University of Johannesburg. I am ambitious, courageous and enjoy engaging with people either at industry events or social clubs on campus. I chose Public Relations as a career choice, given my love of engaging with people, my confident personality and the bigger goal, to inspire.

The journey to finding placement and becoming a PR intern was not roses and daisies as a final year student. I sent out my Curriculum Vitae to all the Johannesburg based PR firms that I thought would have this position for me. In third year we are required to find placement (Work Integrated Learning (WIL)) in order to pass our qualification and no interviews came. I followed up, made it to the interview stage but no placement still because of the typical approach I used. After this realization, I back tracked and started over again.

I went to the writing centre at the University of Johannesburg, where they taught me about compiling a great Curriculum Vitae, this encouraged me to read a lot about tips and guidelines on interviews. I learnt a lot during this process, as I realised that times have changed on how my parents would compile this, compared to how it is done today. I also noticed that I overlooked a lot of grammatical errors, the angle of selling myself, as I took what ‘’most’’ students did. I have always had the perception that a good academic record with a lot of distinctions is the only thing that would secure me placement, but I learnt that a CV with grammatical and formatting errors will get you nowhere.

After this research, I went back to the PR industry to request placement again, it was frustrating and painful to be rejected but a lesson streak and I am glad I went through it. I wouldn’t have learnt that, when applying for placement or a job, you must have the rare factor and that persuading employers is hard work. I secured placement at Weber Shandwick Africa, the Holmes Report Global Agency of the Year (2017) based in Sandton – the technology team I work closely with gave me chance to engage with the industry, demonstrate my confident personality and still aim to inspire. The Public Relations agency is recognised for good media relations, crises communication & Issues management, digital, health, technology, consumer, public affairs and corporate.

I support the team with media relations, research, sharing the ideas and taking calls in the office. I started at the agency two months ago with an aim to complete my Work Integrated Learning (WIL) programme. Work Integrated Learning is a programme that is designed to provide work exposure for public relations students who are on their final year. It is aimed at testing the practical abilities of the student and allows them to discover the strengths and weaknesses they may have in different categories of Public Relations. I am grateful for such a programme, as I get to explore what I am good at, what I can learn and whether or not I am in the right career.

I have always dreamt of working in a well- reputable global agency that would challenge my open-mindedness in an intercultural space, that would allow me to think outside the box.  To the final year students out there looking for placement, my advice to you is – find your rare factor before approaching your potential employer and work hard at showing them that you want to join their team.

By Tankiso Motsoeneng.