"HE IS GOD'S WILL FOR ME, BUT I DON'T LIKE HIM!"

It may be his looks -physical structure, height, complexion, tribal or no tribal marks. Diction, spoken English, type of job, bank balance, educational disparity; she is a degree holder, he is an OND struggler, he is squatting, still schooling while she is ready for marriage, etc.

Guys have their own complain too. Not physically attractive, too "spirikoko", immoral past life, unwanted baby, bad character, hot temper, being too friendly with guys, over bearing, over demanding, etc!

Not all happily married couples initially liked their partners, in fact, some took to their heels! Omotola said she didn't like her husband initially. Late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya said Pastor Taiwo didn't look like the man of her dreams. Dr Emmanuella, wife of Damilola Mike-Bamiloye said, she didn't like him. I certainly didn't like my husband's mode of dressing when I first met him, it was too awkward and crude for me! Apostle Suleimon wasn't excited when God told him the extremely beautiful lady on his street was his wife. A friend of mine took to her heels when God revealed her husband to her! She ran 440! She flatly refused to obey God. The guy was not anything near her standard. It took the mercies of God to arrest her proud, stubborn mind. By the time she went back to the guy, ladies were already flocking around him. It took divine intervention to get them back, they are happily married today.

Dr. Mike Murdock said, "The greatest gift of God comes in the simplest packaging." Jesus is the saviour of the world, yet was born in a manger. The man/woman who will transform your life and help you fulfil destiny may not appear in apparels of gold and five star 6 piece suit! It takes humility to yield to God's will.

Watch out for peace of mind! No matter how you dislike them, if they are God's will for you, you will have peace, inner joy and their nature/temperament will please you. No matter how you like them, if you have no peace, joy and contentment, it is not God's will. If you don't like them and you don't have peace, let them go!

Regardless of your complain about them, deep down, you will know you are with the right person. If you heard God, you will have His assurance. If you don't know how to hear God. Read " How To Hear From God" by Joyce Meyers, it will help a lot.

Deep down, I loved my friend. I always had peace around him. His presence gave me so much joy. There were lots of other things I liked about him minus his looks at that time. Since he is God's will for me, working on his looks is a minor problem. It's something we could both work on. He has changed a lot. I'm so in love with his looks today.

If they are God's will for you, God will give you the ability to help them look better, make more money, further their education and with your encouragement, work on their weaknesses. If not, your relationship will get worse and your marriage will end in divorce! Hearing God is key!

Dislike is different from hate! If you hate them with passion, you can't identify with them in public, you so much despise them, opening their mouths make you want to vomit or you can't accept their past for whatever reason under heaven, loose them and let them go! That's an extreme case! God will not give you some one you hate. It's either you didn't hear God or you are under spiritual attack to miss God's will for you in marriage! Some people just develop hatred for their destiny helpers and push them away! If you don't know how to attract your soul mate or you are having issues keeping relationships or getting married and age is no longer on your side, my ebooks: "Overcoming Marital Delay" and "How To Attract Your Perfect Soul Mate" will help in that regard. They are available at affordable price. Inbox me for details.

Marrying God's will is the best choice you will ever make in your life. I thank God I married my husband! That guy is the greatest miracle of my life. Dewunmi is my dream come true. My best, my all after God. I love you so much my crown, Muuuuaaaah!

Make sure you marry God's will. Do not miss it for any reason in the world. You will be glad you did. May you not mis-choose!

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele.

YOU SHOULD OUT DO YOUR HUSBAND!

In this last days, God is out pouring his wealth on givers, whether you give to the poor, the church or your family. Every giving you do should be seen as a seed not a waste of money because its coming back to you in multiple fold whether you like it or not!

If there is any area you must actively outdo your husband in marriage, it is giving! Most women today are pathetically selfish. They want to collect everything from the man and give little or nothing! "Shebi it is his responsibility" is the usual chant.Yes, he should take care of you and the kids, it's his primary responsibility but you are there to help, that is why he married you. Give, help, be ready to be blessed, God rewards givers! Selfish people don't break out of mediocrity! They don't leave a level, they remain stagnant for a long long time, the secret to being blessed is being a blessing. Be a blessing to your husband, children and the people around you and watch God lift you!

Some women complain their husbands don't take financial responsibility in the home. All effort to get him change proved abortive. Great! Roll up your sleeves darling lady, get down to work and take his responsibility. God must bless the giver in the family, if you are the giver, he will open doors of opportunities for you and bless you beyond measures! Never see giving your family as a waste! It's an investment that will yield results in due time!

You don't need to sleep with men to get money woman! The same money making brain the Lord gave to men, he gave to you too. Pray for ideas, think, ask questions, open your mind, heart, senses and learn ways to make and multiply money! It will amaze you where you will find yourself in 5 years!

There is nothing I have given the Lord has not multiplied for me especially in my family! My husband takes his financial responsibility very serious and I seriously look for ways to be a blessing! I want to be a blessing! My antenna are always up to see where I can contribute in my home and of course, there are several ways to contribute! I have always been rewarded by the Lord.

Men will do well to take their financial responsibility in the home serious so that God can keep blessing them. If you don't and allow your wife take over, all the blessings that suppose to go to you will be channeled towards her. In a godly marriage, both the husband and wife contribute in every way to the financial, spiritual, material and physical success of the home but the man takes the lion share. If you refuse to do your share and she does it all, don't be jealous if God starts blessing her.

Don't compete with your husband's authority, he is the head, he must be respected and honoured as the head. But if there is one area you should " compete" with him, it is in giving! Help your man, take care of your children if he refuses to. Work harder, start a business, diversify, think, pray, be hardworking and be a giver and watch God immensely reward you!

Do not wait for your man to do everything. You are bigger than that. Be a woman of substance, a wealth commander, a CEO, top notch consultant in your field. You can move from zero to hero. Start today and the Lord will lift you in due time!

May the good Lord grant you understanding. Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele.

CAN I TURN HIM ON?

One of the unspoken desire of a lady in courtship is to see her fiance drool over her, be sexually excited by her.

Of course, many ladies will deny this. Some will even swear by God in heaven, they are too holy to think such but the way she dresses for him, smooch over him, flirt and indirectly ask for sex says otherwise!

My fiance used to sit like statue and watch me go and come without making moves. Of course, he was madly in love and wrote me love letters like he was going to receive an award for the best love letter writer in the world! That guy is goooooooood!!! Love letters flew in right, left and center. I wrote it in abundance too. We were both "drunk in love!" But sexual attraction? No! Nothing. I one day asked for a hug on the road while seeing him off, he bluntly refused.

What kind of man is this one? I was worried. What will our sex life look like in marriage? Is that the way he would be looking at me like a cold dead statue??? Of course, both of us believed in No sex before marriage but there should be signs my body makes him shake with "holy fever". No! My fiance was too holy to behold the curves of daughter of Sarah!

Every lady wants to be sexually appealing. To have the capacity to turn her partner on but darling, wearing seductive wears, stylishly showing him your breasts, nipples and thighs to get him lose his senses is totally unnecessary.

There is a sexual lion in every man. A little turn on will turn it loose! Whether he says it or not, your body turns him on. A godly man who loves you and wants to preserve you till marriage won't talk about it, he may not even do like he notices. It doesn't mean he is dull, is a fool or impotent! Its a big sign he loves you a lot, he respects you and wants to keep you pure till your wedding night. You should appreciate him, respect him, honour him, cherish him, never abuse him, make fun of him or take it for granted!

My husband showed me his first sexual side on the wedding day! After the Pastor pronounced us husband and wife and we faced the congregation, he placed his hand majestically on my backside: thank God our back were not facing the congregation. From the wedding night forward, I realized I married a super sexual, romantic, super lover in marriage!

My husband looks at me a lot, he gives me lots of sexual and non sexual looks, sometimes I'd challenge him: "what are you looking at?" He would smile boyishly and in his gentle, super romantic tone (for me), tell me, " you have a beautiful body for a mother of two, I can't stop admiring you ..." O la la la...that guy knows how to get me into bed ready and hot for him!

Alright, daughters of Sarah, say NO to premarital sex and avoid anything that leads to it.

Your body is designed to turn a man on naturally. You don't need to work extra hard on it in courtship.

If you are both God's will for each other you will be sexually compatible and you will have a great sex life IN MARRIAGE.

I and hubby courted for five years no sex, we are both happy we waited, it is greatly paying off.

May the good Lord grant you the patience to wait.

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele.

10 REASONS KEEPING YOUR VIRGINITY TILL MARRIAGE IS GETTING DIFFICULT.

1. You believe it is difficult that is why it is. The Bible says, "As he thinketh in his heart, so is he..."

2. You move with friends who do not value virginity and makes you look like you have very serious problems. Change your friends. Psalm 1. "A companion of fools shall be DESTROYED".

3. Your smart phone is making it difficult because you spend all your time watching romantic movies, pornography and anything dirty instead of studying the word, watch godly movies and read goodly ebooks.

4. You engage in sexy, flirty, dirty chats.

5. You are highly sensual instead of "Walking in the Spirit and not fulfilling the lust of the flesh". (Galatians 5).

6. You are engaged to a guy/lady who talked dirty and seduce you all the time. End all relationship with sinful partners (Psalm 1).

7. You are of marriageable age and your hormones are raging like fire. Read my ebooks" Overcoming Marital Delay" and " How To Attract Your Perfect Soul Mate". They will change your story. Available at very affordable price. Inbox me to get your copies.

8. You have courted for a long time and your body is crying for sex. Get married, bikonu!

9. You wear sexy clothes all the time. They will make you feel sexy -horny! Stop wearing clothes that draw attention to your sexual side.

10. You have a spiritual spouse. People who have sex in the dream all the time battles whoredom, masturbation, and the crazy urge for premarital sex.

Alright. There you go my brothers and sisters. Go work on those points and have a sexually pure single life. Nothing is difficult. It is all in our mind set. Once you work on your mind set brother, sister! Getting married as a virgin becomes easy. Love you big.

Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele.