Sunday, 31 July 2016

25 Helpful Tips on Marriage and Finding Whom to Marry

1. Marriage is all about giving and receiving which must be mutually done. Give and don’t be the selfish partner!
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2. There’s no formula or hard and fixed rules on knowing whom to marry but there are scriptural guidelines.
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3. You can either trust in the Lord with all your heart in knowing whom to marry or you lean on your own understanding to find who suits you. The latter may take time but it’s the best and the former is usually quick but detrimental to your life.
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4. The easiest way of knowing God’s will in marriage is to become His child and ask. Don’t fret or scheme out plans for yourself but be patient until He answer your prayers.
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5. How quick you’ll find whom to marry according to His will depends on His own timing for your life and your own readiness for the married life.
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6. Don’t adopt how brother A met his partner or how sister B met hers. Learn what you can that won’t contradict His word and importantly, discover how He’s dealing with you. God may take you through the longer or shorter process.
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7. God still guides people on whom to marry and you can also ignore Him and lead yourself into marriage.
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8. There are no perfect marriages, a perfect marriage is made by two imperfect people who are willing to making it work and are obedient to the laws of a perfect union.
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9. Being single is the best time to prepare for the married life – work on your temperament, develop your spiritual, emotional, financial and moral life.
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10. Marriage is a place to learn, unlearn and relearn. It’s a place to work not only a place where you play. It’s not all about romance but a place where you face the realities of life – don’t learn so much about romance tips and ignore how to handle the realities of life.
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11. Who you marry determines whether you’d fulfill purpose or not; whether you’d make heaven or not; whether you’d grow or groan or whether you’d enjoy or endure the marriage.
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12. Are there marriages without any challenges? There are lots of them you’d encounter but the only solution in overcoming them is your willingness and determination to fight rather than quit.
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13. One of the ancient secrets of choosing the right partner is patience. Don’t get carried away by what you see today and ignore the unseen situation of tomorrow.
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14. Why do I lay much emphasis on waiting on God to choose right? It’s like climbing the rung of a ladder to see what He wants you to see and while the journey continues, you can go back to Him in case you experience any issue that may seem to be beyond your control.
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15. It takes patience to marry right and it takes patience to have a great marriage. Don’t forget to add it to your baggage as you anticipate for the married life.
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16. Apart from the cultural belief or reasons why people get married, there’s much of fighting to be done in marriage. You must be ready to fight those who want to ruin your home (friends, foes or parent) and the unseen forces that want you to be a failure in marriage.
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17. What makes a marriage an enduring one is when what you experience in there is beyond what you bargained for and you don’t want to quit.
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18. An enjoyable marriage isn’t that rosy but the parties involved strove to making it work without creating any reason to quit.
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19. In an enduring marriage, the responsibility of making it work lies on the shoulder of one person while the other doesn’t care. Meanwhile, an enjoyable marriage has its responsibility shared by the parties involved.
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20. Your perception about life and marriage and the kind of person you marry determines the kind of marriage you’d have.
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21. Knowing who’s right for you to marry doesn’t only end in what you know about the person, there must be what God says about your intended union.
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22. I have never seen a marriage where the bed is defiled before the union is established that God approve of it. That it worked out fine doesn’t mean God is pleased with it. You can’t violate His law and attract His blessing.
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23. Having sex before marriage doesn’t make you fit for marriage it only makes you a union of fornicators because when the foundation is destroyed, the house may not stand the test of time.
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24. You don’t win a race by running the race, you win by preparing, learning and exercising your body to make sure you’re very fit before you run the race. The best time to prepare for marriage is now that you’re single.
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25. What have you gained in all these points? Don’t just like or comment, save and master fully well.
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© Mayowa Adeniyi 2016

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