Saturday, 30 July 2016

"NOTHING PASS A GOOD ‪#‎MARRIAGE‬" - BUT WHY ARE GOOD MARRIAGES SO FEW?

As Martin Luther has said in one of his treatises on marriage, "There is no Lovely, Friendly, Charming relationship than a good marriage."
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Many will agree with this quote on first reading but over the year I have come to understand that they only do so mentally.
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We all want a good or great marriages where there is love, joy, peace and comfort, but most have failed in their methods or through their strategy to reach this point.
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Let me say this here and now: A happy marriage is not a STATE but a PROCESS.
** You just don't arrive there, you journey along it.**
Because if any of the parties involved dare to stop what they do to be a happy couple or to start experiencing Joy, Peace, Love and Comfort in their marriage, the 'State' will change quickly as the process changes tracks.
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**CHANGES IN WHAT WE DO IN OUR MARRIAGES CHANGES THE STATE OF OUR MARRIAGE IN THE PROCESS**
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In our society today, especially among the celebrities, we are more prepare to stay in other relationship apart from marriage relationship, even when they are living together (cohabitation) and making or giving birth to babies (Baby-Mama & Baby-Fathers).
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Why are there so much fear in turning this kind of 'love', 'special friendship', unusually charming, and beautifully 'romantic relationships' into a 'normal' marriage relationship?
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The answer are not few but the basic ones are:
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~ People aren't sure if what they feel is love, and therefore , they prefer to allow an exit option to hang over the relationship.
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NOTE: - whatever your feelings, Marriage demands more than romantic feelings... It demand COMMITMENT and hard work similar to the ones in the mines!
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~ There are alot of bagages and brought-overs in love relationships of many people... These are issues, hurts etc that are not properly dealt with. So the new or current persons that is in love with them are either not trusted enough for such commitment or they aren't ready to help them deal with bagagges.
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NOTE: - You might fall in love effortlessly, but making a marriage work & thriving demand the TWO people involve to be willing & ready to make Delibrate Efforts at succeeding!
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~ The Divine is not involve. Yes.
I remember a discussion I have with one of my buddy over a decade now, he just tell me factually that he only need to meet someone nice and when he feel good about her he will just take her to the pastor and inform him.
The question is Where is God in the Search and Finding? Yet we bring whatever we find to God to bless and Rubber stamp.
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Note: - I believe in Pray - Search - Pray. Pray when you are set to start a family; Search...allowing the Inner man guide you; Pray to confirm you finding is His Will.
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** There is no past that can't be undone by God, therefore I erase the past hurts and fears that is holding you back from enjoying your marriage; and in Jesus' name I launch you into marital satisfaction and Fulfilment.
** Receive Grace to turn your relationships to a standard marriage relationship. All sexual sin is forgiven as you take the step to have a sinless sexual life in Jesus' name.

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