Tuesday, 19 July 2016

What You Think You Know About Love

When it comes to the subject of love, everyone has a say about it: those who understood and those whose understanding of it was influenced by their negative experience. Or better still, those who learnt about it the hard way.
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What’s the basis for your understanding of love? Who taught you what you know about love?
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Some people knew about love from what they learnt from the ‘woods’ (the Hollies, the Nollies and the Bollies), some had the understanding of love based on the wisdom of men (likes of philosophers, psychologist, counselors, life coaches and the likes). Some people’s understanding of love is subjective: what their friends or the media told them about it.
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But only few had the understanding of what love entails. Let me even ask you: what do you know about love? Does it rest on the wisdom of men or on your own costly or other’s experience?
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I know that there are several variants of love that we have come across in life, the likes of Eros, Phileo, Storge and Agape. But be it as it may, you can’t understand what love is really all about if you don’t know God.
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And when I say ‘know’ God, I do not mean theoretical or religious knowledge about God but an intimate or deep rooted understanding of Him that has reflected in your nature.
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Apart from the fact that God is a Supreme being, God has the personality of a person, hence it’s not wrong to say God is love (1 John 4:8). Love is God’s personality and not your own mood or feelings.
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Love is not that feelings that cause you sleepless night, it could be emotional intimacy. Love isn’t a strong desire attached to a particular object in your partner, it is lust. Love isn’t that unreasonable or attraction that makes you lose your sense of reasoning, it is infatuation.
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Although it takes your emotion to sometimes express love, but true love is God manifesting His nature through your emotions.
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How do I know that God is love? John 3:16 clearly spelt it out: “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son…” God Himself is love, it takes a wicked man to express a wicked act and it takes a loving man to express love. Remember, you can’t give what you don’t have.
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Why do we have heart break and relationship issues? Why do people suffer the likes of premarital sex and its consequences? Because most people pretended to be what they’re not or wrongly practiced what love is not.
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Your understanding of love goes a long way to define your experience about love. I’m not saying the variants of love isn’t good, but why not rather seek to have the nature of God imbued in you before you stock your heart with the wrong meaning of love?
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Show me a man that loves God and expresses God’s kind of love, whether he’s a Christian or not and I’ll show you a man who expresses love and understood it.
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I’d rather encourage you to unlearn all the wrong notion of love that you have mastered over the years and relearn what love ought to be by having His nature in your life.
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This can only be achieved when you allow His nature to be transferred into you through being born again and growing to become like Him. I don’t know how “7 Ways To Love” or other How-to can help you but one thing I’m sure of is that when you’re born of God, you can love like God.
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© Mayowa Adeniyi 2016

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