Saturday, 24 September 2016

Before You Make That Costly Mistake, Think On These!

Some mistakes are avoidable in life, some are costly and many are regrettable. It’s often a matter of choice in life to determine whether you’d make mistake or not, although they are sometimes inevitable but you can choose the ones you’d make.
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Due to the choices many people make in life, the consequences of their action oftentimes lead to regret but because they are myopic, they blindly make the decision that would lead them into regret, hereby calling it a costly mistake.
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For instance, in a relationship that’s heading no where, when you allow a man to defile you sexually or you spend your resources in building a life with him when he’s planning none with you; later, you then discover that he’s getting married to someone else someday. This is a mistake that could have been avoided.
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How do people make costly mistakes in their relationship?
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1. Yielding to premarital sex
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I seem to be like a town crier on this issue of sexual purity but the truth is that it mostly affects lots of singles in their relationship and life.
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Because many do not know the truth that would set them free or allow their emotions to determine their actions, many have made the mistake of loosing their sexual purity to ‘dogs’. I can them dogs because they can’t cherish your pearl.
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Think twice before you use your body to prove love to him or her on a platter of sexual immorality. Think twice before you allow your emotions set the tone of ‘lust’ or think in the direction of your erection.
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After all, you won’t die if you don’t have sex until marriage. You may lose the relationship but it’s better than losing your destiny and value on a futile relationship.
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2. Marrying someone without God’s guidance
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“I wish I could be single again” is often the lamentation of many people in life that had a bad marriage.
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Marriage is God’s ordained institution, without Him, you can’t get the best in the union. That two people who weren’t spiritually sound got married happily doesn’t mean it’s going to be a successful marriage.
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The devil doesn’t disturb the union of his children because he knows they’re going nowhere other than to end in his kingdom.
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Don’t act on the impulse of pressure, desperation or impatience to marry someone whom God doesn’t guide you to. And what made you think you’re capable of changing them as most people say?
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That the relationship seems rosy doesn’t mean the marriage will be blissful. Two God chasers who married still have issues in their marriage, how much more marrying an unbeliever.
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It’s better you pay the price to know God’s mind concerning who you want to marry than to make the mistake you won’t be able to correct in life.
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3. Wasting their time and resources on someone that doesn’t plan a life with them
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“How could you do this to me? I picked you from the gutter, sponsored your project, gave you money and my body. Is this what you’d pay me back with? She expressed bitterly”.
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This is not a movie script, it’s a reality that occur in most relationship. It’s not a crime to help a friend in need financially, but it’s worse when you go the extreme and give what you’re not meant to give.
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There’s no point wasting your time with someone you’re not fully sure he’s going to marry you. Why become ‘just friend’ when you think you mean so much to him or her?
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Before you’d regret your actions, then there’s need to get wisdom and in all your getting, get understanding. See the signals before you put all your eggs in their basket. If he or she doesn’t talk about future plans with you and you’re sure God’s involved, retrieve your steps before you regret making such mistake.
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4. Entering into a relationship without defining it
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It’s commonly said that when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is definitely inevitable. This is true for relationships with the opposite sex.
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Before you get carried away by the euphoric moments in the relationship, summon up courage to ask where it’s heading so that you won’t go too far emotionally, financially and physically.
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It’s not a crime to ask questions like:
1. What’s this relationship all about?
2. Who am I to you?
3. What does this relationship thrives on: purpose or pleasure?
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But when you fail to define the relationship from the onset, making costly mistakes will be inevitable.
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And just before you’d conclude that you wished you have never taken the relationship serious, think twice and let God guide you. Some mistakes can be avoided rather than committed due to ignorance.
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© Mayowa Adeniyi 2016.

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