Tuesday, 18 October 2016

Steps To Knowing God's Will When You're Looking For A Life Partner.

One thing about life is that you're either in God's will or you're outside of it. When you're in it, you'll have His backing, though challenges would come, but you'll be sure of victory.
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To be out of God's will comes with regrets and difficulties. It's better to pay the price to be in God's will than to seek for His help when you're outside His will. The same also applies to the choice of a partner.
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The will of God is the best choice of partner that God intends for your life and destiny. He knows the end from the beginning and He knows who would be suitable for your life, not only today but also in the future.
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The best that a man can find for himself is to find a good choice of partner that would or might suit his life now. And that God allowed the relationship to work doesn't mean that's His perfect will for your life, you might have only settled for His permissible will or you're out of His will.
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Your experience, exposure and education cannot help you in knowing God's will, in fact you cannot inherit God's will in marriage. You must do and avoid certain things when you want His will.
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What are the steps required in knowing God's will?
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1. Have a relationship with Him
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If I were to be all that you need in life, how can you know the plans I have for your life if you're faraway from me?
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No one can ever know God's will for their lives if they're not intimate with God. Just as a father cannot cater for a child whom he's not responsible to, God cannot reveal His best to you in life and marriage when you don't relate with Him in having a consistent prayer life, purity, obedience and studying His word.
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There are no hard and fast rule in getting close to God - repent from your sins, accept Jesus, love Him and ensure that you live daily for Him.
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It's in doing this on daily basis that you can know His will for your life on both major and minor issues in life.
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2. Don't lean on your own understanding
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You can't help yourself and at the same time would expect God to help you. If He must help, ignore your plan A or B and wholly lean on Him.
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Doing the likes of dating, cohabiting or using a trick to woo a man or woman's attention to yourself are just your plans of finding whom to marry.
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If you must marry according to His will, do away with all those worldly schemes people employ when choosing a life partner. You cannot combine God and your plans together, it's a sheer waste of effort. So if you wouldn't lean on your understanding, then trust Him wholeheartedly (Proverbs 3:5).
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3. Be patient
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God doesn't work according to your own set goals or plans. You may be ready to marry at age 25 and God deemed it fit for you to marry at 29 or 30.
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When you rush, you'll miss His will or settle for what's good in your own sight. Don't rush or allow desperation or pressure that people mount on you to drive you into a relationship that's not God's will.
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Don't allow the expectations of the society push you into a relationship that's not approved by Him. He makes all things beautiful in its time. That all your mates are getting married doesn't mean you should be the next to marry.
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And you can't know His will when you're impatient
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4. Know how He communicates to you
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Do you know how He talks to you? What has He said to you concerning your marital life?
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You cannot expect to hear God speak concerning His will for your life in marriage when you haven't hear Him clearly in other areas of your life.
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Develop your spiritual senses to be able to clearly discern and recognize His voice. And this comes through prayer. If He doesn't speak to you in dreams prior to marriage, He won't employ that means when you're choosing a partner.
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5. Eliminate idols
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Idols are objects you worship or that you so much adore which you can't do without due to your affection with them over the years.
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Some people have idolized a particular tribe, denomination or physical appearance as to what God's will must be.
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God works in mysterious ways. And there are many of His children whom He can deem suitable for your life and destiny regardless of their tribe, background, denomination or physical qualities.
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Don't limit yourself to a particular tribe or denomination, God can bring him or her from anywhere, provided that that's His will for you. You can't be praying for His will and would expect to box Him inside your own preferences.
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The steps outlined here are not hard and fast rule as to knowing God's will but principles you have to imbibe over and over now that you're still single. God's will in marriage cannot be known through dating, cohabiting or doing other things the world does in search of a partner.
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Remember, a partner gotten when you're spiritually minded brings life and peace but the one you choose carnally would result to death, if not now but later in the future (Romans 8:6, emphasis mine).



© Mayowa Adeniyi 2016

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