Tuesday, 1 November 2016

Don’t Nurse That Temporal Feeling To Suffer A Permanent Scar.


While growing up to become an adult, just after the peak of puberty, I began to notice that I have feelings and sexual fantasies for the opposite sex. At times it becomes so intense and sometimes it occurs as a flash. I imagine myself desiring intimacy with the opposite sex and one day, I made the move to play out the script in my heart…after all, it all started with a feeling.
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I met a lady in the neighborhood who became appealing to my sight. Now I understood why men are moved by sight. She had everything I wanted in a woman. And I got fascinated by the details in her body. I tried getting her to like me and shortly after my attempt, it was a yes. Our first meeting was ‘romantic’, though nothing happened because we’re still naive.
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It was a thing I enjoyed then but regretted later…a memory that lingered on. I learnt more on how to implement my feelings with her but unfortunately, mom became an unwanted ‘Messiah’ and she interrupted my plans. She enrolled me in a college to learn computer programs. What a bad thing!
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I hated her move but I had no choice than to obey. Though I thanked her latter. Hadn’t she become the Messiah, God knows the kind of adult I would have become – A certified ‘ogbologbo’ (a cunning and crafty man) in women matters.
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Since I became occupied, no time to nurse those feelings anymore. Even when it came, there’s no how I could see her because mobile phones hasn’t become so cheap and common those days. In fact, she moved away from our neighborhood and that became my saving grace…Tunde recalled his childhood experience.
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Is it wrong to have feelings to desire intimacy with the opposite sex? Definitely NO! It just shows how human you are. God made it so and has equally given you the ability to control it.
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What are temporal feelings? They’re feelings that flows through your emotions or thoughts to desire physical intimacy with the opposite sex. At times it becomes so intense that it changes your mood and body system while seeking for a means to satisfy the feelings. This is often the genesis of masturbation or pornography.
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If it’s unchecked, temporal feelings (lust) will make you excite yourself sexually or desire sexual intimacy with the opposite sex. This is one reason why many became victims of premarital sex.
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Your inability to guard against your temporal feelings will leave a permanent scar in your life and memory.
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Many people are not so lucky to have their feelings curtailed by circumstances or godly advice. Now that you’re beginning to have that temporal feelings for him or her, here’s what you should do with it so that it doesn’t leave a permanent scar in your life for flowing in its direction.
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What should I do with them when they come?
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1. You can’t bind and cast out the feelings, no, it’s not the devil, it’s just natural. All you need to do is to replace it with the thoughts that are good, pure and of good report. No matter how spirit filled you are, this thought would come, even if you’re married. But starve the thoughts rather than feed it with what it desire.
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2. Don’t be idle. It’s commonly said that the idle mind is the devil’s work tool. And that’s the truth. If you lay down idle on the bed and you nurse this kind of thoughts, it’ll end up becoming a reality as situations or events will work them out.
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Be busy doing something productive or beneficial to your life and destiny. And don’t let your mind be vacant so that it won’t gear towards the feelings of intimacy with the opposite sex, both of your present or past relationship.
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Whether you’re single, engaged or married, sexual feelings would come to desire intimacy with the opposite sex but guard your heart with all diligence. Feed it with whatsoever things are true, honest, just, pure, lovely and of good report.
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Feeding your mind with positive things will beget positive action. But when you feed the mind with sexual thoughts, you’ll birth sexual immoralities. Don’t nurse that temporal feelings that would leave a permanent scar in your life when you implement it!
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© Mayowa Adeniyi 2016

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