Thursday, 15 December 2016

I Want To Marry: When Does It Become Right?

There has been several school of thoughts regarding what time it feels right to get married. Some projected age twenty-five and above for ladies while men, twenty-eight and above. Is there a fixed age that makes it absolutely right?
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Although my opinion may not fit into what you must have known over the years but the truth is this, age is just a number and how old you are doesn’t make you ready if certain things aren’t ready in your life or that it is right in His timing.
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For those who wants to get married, do you feel you have reached a particular age that makes marriage inevitable? Or perhaps because you’ve been told that you’re old and you feel marriage is the next thing to do, does that make it right?
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I know you have read lots of books and articles regarding marriage and all of that but you need to know these truths I’ll share with you before the quest for marriage.
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And these truths are self-evaluation questions. Are you ready to face reality? Ask yourself these questions!
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1. Have I found the right partner?
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Marriage is not difficult if one could marry the right partner. And there’s no one specific person you must marry, anyone could be right for you so far He endorse him or her.
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And you can’t know the right person with your discretion except He guides you. But if you care less about it, and you go pick anyone and marry them off, such marriage hardly last.
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It’s not proper to marry if you haven’t found the right person. Being right isn’t a function of looks, swags, possession and the likes, all lies in God’s confirmation and conviction. What is right in your eyes isn’t the right thing before God.
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God gave you a brain, yes He did! But you still need to depend on Him for guidance in knowing the right person, but if you go your way, you’ll never get it right – but you might be lucky to get His good, permissive will or you miss it completely.
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2. Am I a right partner?
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Marrying the right partner is one step towards a successful marriage. But you can’t get it right if you’re not the right partner.
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When a right partner marries the wrong partner, the marriage can never be successful. If you want God’s best or His will in marriage, you must be His best and do His will.
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You must ensure you work on yourself in becoming the right partner otherwise you’ll impact whosoever you marry negatively. Work on your mind, develop every aspect of your life that would affect your marriage such as your spiritual, emotional, financial and moral life.
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Having evaluate yourself, this would then take you to the last question.
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3. Has God given me the go ahead?
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This fact would be so much argued. What has God have to do with my life or with me getting married? Some Christian singles also neglect the place of God in their relationship but would only involve Him when they’re in a fix.
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You may feel you’re ready: having a good job, enviable character, furnished apartment and so on but God may not have granted you the go-ahead. It’s better to start a journey with God than to involve Him when issues comes up in the future.
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The latter is mending and the former is having His guidance. It is better to have God journey with you from the beginning to the end than to invite Him when the foundation has been destroyed. 
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Allow God speak to you and don’t allow the voices of pressure or internal ones push you into marriage when you are not thoroughly prepared and doing it right in His time.
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When Adam was made, it got to a point in his life before God discovered that it was not good for him to be alone. Have you gotten to that point?
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That point is a situation you get to in life in your walk with God that He personally endorse you for marriage. Don’t get it twisted, not everyone would be bothered about it. In fact you can by-pass the creator of marriage and move ahead on your own.
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It’s a point of purpose fulfillment. Some hasn’t discovered their purpose let alone fulfill it. Some has discovered theirs but unwilling to submit to His lordship because of their personal ambition.
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The best marriage you can ever have in life is the one in which God becomes the Alpha and the Omega in the course of the journey. Any challenges you face there would become His but if reverse becomes the case, it becomes your problem.
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Is it now right right for you to get married? Think on these!
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© Mayowa Adeniyi 2015

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