Friday, 6 January 2017

Looking For Whom To Marry On Campus (For Christian Singles)

One of the fears of believers of Christ, especially youths when they get into the campus is the issue of knowing whom to marry. Many are burdened with the thoughts of how and where to find whom to marry, whether they'll meet him or her in the university. 
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As they get to the campus, some, who wanted to serve God gave Him a divided attention so that a part of them does the finding while their other part would trust in God. 
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And many, allowed the words of men or the voice of fear in them to speak to them about the need to go into relationship on campus with the aim of finding the right partner. 
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Is a God incapable of providing all that His children needs at the right time? Permit me to tell you the truth. If you don't trust God enough to be your father, He will not attend to your needs as His child. 
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Why bother yourself about whom to marry when you have an academic excellence to pursue and serve God with an undivided attention? Mind you, it's possible to meet whom to marry in school but don't make it a priority when you get to higher institutions of learning. 
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Many children of God had missed it because they felt God is unable to provide the right spouse for them. Many couldn't wait for His perfect will but settled for whom they feel is right. 
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God's word remains true in all situations. If you trust in Him with all your heart and do not lean on your understanding, He will direct your path (Proverbs 3:5-6). Also, do not forget that there's time for everything in life, the time to build your career is different from the time of going into a love relationship. You can't pursue the two concurrently.
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Don't be afraid of what the society says or what the fears in you build up. If you know how God speaks to you, He won't lead you into a relationship on campus when it's not right according to His own timing. 
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Don't be carried away by your friends who claim to be 'children of God' who are in a relationship on campus. Not everyone you see around are children of God even if they attend church regularly. Being a child of God is to be led by His spirit and not by situations, feelings or going to church regularly. God doesn't lead His children astray.
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If you go into a relationship on campus, it will never help you to know the right person to marry because all you see, think and dream of would revolve around whom you're in a relationship with. 
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And God won't help you if you're capable of helping yourself, He'll only help those who totally depend on Him for all they need. Don't buy into the lies of 'Heaven helps those whom help themselves', it is anti-scriptural. 
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When you serve God faithfully on campus, you won't be exposed to heart break, emotional trauma, sexual immoralities and other consequences people face in their relationship. 
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When you serve God, He will guide you on whom to marry and whom not to marry so that you won't miss it. When you're closer to God, you can know the right person but when you're farther away from God, you can't know the right person. 
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If you'd lean on Him totally, stay clear off love relationships but maintain a platonic relationship with the opposite sex, so that He can direct your path. 
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Are you contemplating on serving God as well as seeking to find the right partner? You cannot seek God and a love relationship at the same time. Serve God diligently. Many brothers would come that look like a potential husband and you'll see sisters you admire or wish to have a potential wife. 
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Your best bet is to maintain an uninterrupted access to God that would enhance your ability to know who's right or wrong. But if you enter into a relationship with the aim of assessing who's right or wrong and you're not careful, it'll cost you your relationship with God, expose you to sexual immoralities or emotional trauma. 
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Don't worry about age, your age doesn't determine His divine timing. Just do what's right by seeking God, work on yourself and pursue whatever your hands find doing (your education) with all your might and at His right time, you'll be guided on whom to marry without stress, pain or regrets. 
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© Mayowa Adeniyi 2016

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