Tuesday, 7 February 2017

Don't Relive Your Past

The difference between your past and your present life is the kind of life you live now. 
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Everyone has a past - whether good or bad, painful or awful. Your complete victory over it depends on what you do now and how you live your life. Oftentimes, many singles hardly come out of their past but relive it because they believe they have gotten over it or are able to help themselves. 
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For instance, living a past life of sexual immoralities or premarital sex would occur again if you haven't nip off the root cause of the act in you. 
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Most times, some ladies or guys repeat their past in their present relationship because they fail to do what is right. Believing you are healed, yet you went back into the same mistake is an indication that you are yet to be healed. 
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It's not about making determination or new year resolutions when the nature of sin is still in you, it's about doing the right thing that destroys the nature of sin or the tendency for the past to reoccur. 
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How not to relive your past
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1. Don't enter into a relationship yet
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It's better not to be in a relationship when you're still in the bondage of your past than to be in one where you'd have your past played to you again. 
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You that you haven't mastered the act of self-control, sexual purity and the fear of God, you don't need a relationship yet until you have fully developed what won't make you repeat such. 
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You need to stay away from relationship until you're able to get back strong on your feet. If a guy or lady just hurt you, going into another relationship would open your heart for a hurt. But when you stay out from relationships and find healing, you won't repeat the same mistake. 
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2. Don't repeat the mistake 
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Mistake helps us to learn and to grow. When you made mistakes in the past, you're meant to learn from where you got it wrong. 
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For instance, maybe you're a victim of premarital sex, if you won't repeat such, don't open your legs to any guy. Shut the door of your heart to any emotional relationship until you're sure you are with the right person and you're capable of handling emotional issues. 
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Learn from your mistakes and don't repeat them.
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3. Be healed
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If you won't relive your past, you need to be healed from your past. 
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Many years ago, I was once a victim of pornography, masturbation and sexual immoralities. In fact, I almost crossed the line of purity in those days but thank God for Him that wouldn't allow us to be tempted more than we can bear. 
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How do I got healing from those terrible activities?
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1. I allowed God
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God is the ONLY reliable cure to any kind of life you might have lived in the past, no matter how terrible it may seem. If Paul, a blasphemer, a persecutor and an injurious fellow could be used by God, He can heal you from your past and use you for His glory. 
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How God helped. 
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A. I hated the act and cried to him for forgiveness. Psalm 51 was my favorite scripture. I prayed with it. 
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B. I paid attention to the voice of the Holy Spirit within. After your genuine confession and the restoration of the Holy Spirit in you, you'll be able to discern the voice of God above the voice of the flesh. He'll sometimes tell me to quit watching some movies that has explicit content and convicts me of the desire to masturbate. 
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When conversations with the opposite sex is becoming sinful, He'll nudge me and I'll try and obey. The more obedient you become, the stronger you get and vis-a-vis. 
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2. I fled
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You can't overcome your past if you embrace the activities you did in the past. 
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You can't be smarter or wiser than the devil, no you can't. And you can't be more knowledgeable than God. Your victory over the kind of life you lived in the past is to flee every appearance of evil that looked like what you did in the past. 
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If a guy is telling your jargons about premarital sex, you'll help yourself by stopping the conversation than to allow him stuff your emotions with the nonsense and later get you in bed. 
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Don't be afraid of losing him but be afraid of losing your worth, purity and messing up your destiny. Flee every appearance of evil that looked like what gave you a terrible past or has a tendency to destroy you. 
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3. I allowed time
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Time is one of the best cure to any pain or hurt one must have suffered in the past. It is medicinal if you allow it to heal you. 
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Withdraw yourself from the relationship. Let time heal you. Use your time to engage in something else that would fast track your healing process. Spend more time with God and His things because it is only in the arms of the Savior that you can find true healing and victory from your past. 
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© Mayowa Adeniyi 2017

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