Thursday, 25 May 2017

9 Ways To Clearly Identify Boys And Men

"When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things" - 1 Corinthians 13:11
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The transitional point from boyhood to manhood is a period that has to do with maturity, mental development, discipline and experience. Much is not to be regarded with the physical maturity but a lot has to do with other forms of maturity that distinguishes a boy from a man.
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Some men seem to have grown but they still haven't outgrown the boyish attitude. They have the physical stature of a man but they think, behave and talk like a boy.
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Men are more mature than boys because they have outgrown childish attitudes which boys manifest. Boys don't have the ability to make a relationship successful if you have one with them unlike men who knows what it takes to keep a relationship.
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Here are some distinguishing factors to differentiate between men and boys.
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1. It's only a man that can leave to cleave to his wife, boys cannot
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Boys are tied to their mother's apron, acting childish and display acts of irresponsibility. They're not strong enough to make decisions for themselves. While married, they still depend on others to run their relationship.
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Their parents or friends still has an influence in their relationship. Instead of making things work with their wife (fiancé), they depend on external influence.
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When married, men care for their wives but boys care for themselves only without considering their wife and children. Once you're married, cleave to your wife and don't cling to any woman - your mother or female friends.
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2. Men invest but boys 'spend' money
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It takes a man to plan on the little he earns and maximize it but boys spend the little they earn lavishly without making plans for it.
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The monies boys make is used for immediate gratification but men delay such gratification to a later period in life until their investment begins to yield increase.
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Drinking, smoking, popping champagne or living a materialistic life are what boys do with the money they make.
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3. Boys depend on people but men are independent
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Men struggle to work things out for themselves financially but this is often not so with boys.
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Boys depend on one cousin or relative to help them financially. Rather than take the lead role spiritually, they choose to allow their wives get closer to God while they become so lazy or shows no concern on spiritual matters and growth.
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4. Boys blame others for their own mistakes but men take responsibility
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A man is bold enough to admit his own mistakes and make corrections where necessary but boys are so immature that they blame people, the society or situation for their problems in life.
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A boy shy away from owning up to his fault but rather shift the blame on others as he flex and brags on his egotistical prowess.
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5. Men have mastered their emotions but boys have not
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When anger issues come into play, it's very easy to identify men and boys. Boys react negatively to emotional issues, they vent their anger on people or things, they end up abusing either physically or verbally.
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But men are calm to allow the issue drift before they act. Instead of getting angry, they walk out of the scene so that they won't lose their temper. In fact, they're able to manage they're emotions rather than allow it to influence them.
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6. Boys keep many relationships but men keep meaningful relationship
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It takes a man to keep relationships that matters or to influence lives positively but boys keep relationships for the fun of it and mess up the lives they encounter.
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Boys keep relationships to brag and for the fun of it because they're driven by pleasure but men only maintain purposeful relationship.
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7. Men think future but boys are interested in the now
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The future is all that matters for men and they're doing something about it now. They save and invest to have a better future but boys are driven by the pleasure they can enjoy now.
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Men has future plans and do all it takes to get there. This is not so with boys that appear as men, they're concerned at the immediate and temporal benefits that life could offer them.
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8. Boys are driven by pleasure but men are purpose driven
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There are two sides to pleasure in life: destructive and luxurious pleasure. Boys invest in the likes of partying, clubbing, smoking, gambling and the pursuit of sexual immoralities in relationship. Their ideologies about life is 'fun' and nothing less.
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A man knows the purpose he's to live for. He has a reason for living and he's doing something about it. He knows the pleasure that is good for him and would pay the price to achieve it.
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9. Boys rule but men lead
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When it comes to leadership both home and in the office, boys rule by enforcing their authority on their subordinate. They become bossy and are driven by their ego.
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However, men lead by example. They make great boss or husbands. They make positive influence in the life of others regardless of who they are.
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Are you a boy or a man?
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Grow to be a man. Don't move with 'boys' but learn from men who became something from nothing. Groom yourself in becoming the man that would make a great husband or men that influence their world positively.
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Now is the time to man up if you're still a boy mentally, spiritually, financially and in other departments of your life. It is not your age that makes you a man, it's a function of your maturity, experience, discipline and your priority in life.
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© Mayowa Adeniyi 2016






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