Wednesday, 14 June 2017

Things Love Doesn't Do.

It sometimes sound somehow to hear those who claim to be in love, yet they're violating what love is all about. Isn't that ignorance or foolishness? 
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Love is not a feeling, I have always voiced out this in my articles. Feelings will change overtime and cannot stand the test of time. Love is a decision, it's a responsibility and it requires an unflinching commitment. If you're not ready for all of these, please don't go into a love relationship. 
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More so, aside these, you need to love the right person otherwise your expression of love to the wrong person will ruin your life just as a permanent marker leaves a terrible stain on a white board. 
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It is often said that when the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. If you don't know what love doesn't do you will do the wrong thing believing that you're in love.
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First, LOVE IS NOT SELFISH. Can you read that again? Now read slowly. Anyone that wants you to please him or her always without doing anything to seek your own welfare doesn't love you.
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Lust is selfish, self-centered, domineering and everything you can call it. In fact, it is self-seeking. You must obey, respect, care, please, give and do everything for it without reciprocating. If he wants you to please him always without doing same for you and you're ready to loose your life to please him, my dear, you're in lust. And the end product of lust is destruction!
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When Jesus told His disciples to follow Him, do you think He was lording over His divinity over them? No! He went to the extent of washing their feet. He performed miracles for them. He gave them power. They were following Him like jobless men but He made fishers of men out of them. 
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If he or she is telling you to do this or that for him or her, ask yourself a sincere question, "What has he or she done for me to better my life"?
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Next is that love doesn't celebrate INIQUITY. You might not be familiar with that term but let me help you. Iniquity is a deviation from what is right. It is a form of wickedness and injustice done to a person. 
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The definition of what is right is not in your philosophy or psychology text book, it is the book of law (Bible). Great thinkers can tell you what they know about love but they never can practice love the way it ought to be practiced. 
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God has everything you need to know about love and it was well written in His instruction manual. But if you're to lazy to find what love is, you'll be vulnerable to the evils people do for lust.
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Love is not blind. It is not wicked. It costs a thing. Love is not sex. The expression of love is not with kissing, petting, caressing each other's sexual organs, erotic conversations and the likes. Those expressions are for the married. It is not right for singles to indulge in such act. 
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When you do any of these, you have violated the divine order and whoever breaks the edge, the serpent shall bite. Is that man or lady luring you to do what's not divinely right or encouraging you to do what is wrong? Love doesn't rejoice in iniquity. 
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LOVE DOESN'T FAIL. As long as you do what you're supposed to do, love never fails. Love endures forever! King Solomon in his wit wrote that many waters cannot quench love but lust die immediately it has fulfill its desire. 
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Ladies, when you give some men what they want, which is majorly sex, you'll begin to notice difference in their character. He might have been calling you three times in a day but after getting what he wants, he'll completely ignore you like a prison warder does to a prisoner. 
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So my candid advice to you is this, if you want a love that doesn't fail, don't induce it; let it come naturally. Don't force it, let it come softly; don't destroy your life to prove it, let time prove it.
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Finally, LOVE IS NOT PROUD. How do I even start? It is not love when he tells you he's doing you a favor by marrying you or becoming engaged to you. It is not love when she tells you you're not in her league. Love is not proud, but humble and accommodating. 
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Love is humble enough to submit to her head and a loving man doesn't lord his authority over his neck. 
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If the love you're experiencing in that relationship is selfish, tolerates iniquity, no longer exist, and it's proud; then your relationship is not a loving one but a lustful one. Or rather, you're in love with the wrong person. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi

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