Saturday, 17 June 2017

Whom To Marry: Do You Have The Peace Of God or Inner Peace?

While reading an article online about why you need to cooperate with God's choice for your life, especially in the quest for marriage, from a popular marriage blogger, the Holy Spirit impressed this thought upon me: Inner peace or the peace of God?
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I know many have read or heard about the need for inner peace when they're at the verge of making marital decisions in life or as a source for their conviction on whom to marry. Some people have mistaken inner peace for the peace of God and have been made to face issues with their marriage having proceeded further with it. 
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What does inner peace mean?
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Inner peace is a state of an inward feeling that comes from the mind which gives an assurance of calmness or safety.
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This peace flows out from the mind of anyone who sees from the physical when the external environment appears to be conducive. Why won't a lady feel at peace to marry a man who is 'ready' made on the surface? 
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She won't have anything to worry about him when he lives in a furnished apartment, drives a posh car, earns big and he appears loving and caring. Few years down the lane, she'll regret ever settling for that peace when he comes up with a different lifestyle from which she had known or lost all that made him ready made. 
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Inner peace does not come from God but from the mind of men, because the event that led to the peace of God is entirely different from the inner peace that most people experience. That you feel all is well to marry a man or woman doesn't mean it is a feeling of peace that comes from God. 
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What is the peace of God?
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The peace of God comes from a different source entirely. It is not a peace that comes from the mind of men but that which is instilled in the heart of men by God. 
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This kind of peace comes without worrying but having done much of prayer and supplication with thanksgiving to God concerning a particular request (Phil. 4:6-7, para). It is a peace that is beyond human description and definition. It is the kind of peace that thrives in the midst of storm or in the state of hopelessness. 
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Apostle Paul experienced this kind of peace in Acts 27 when the angel of God told him not to fear concerning the journey which they are to embark on. Prior to Paul's remark, the master and the ship owner told others that their journey is safe but Paul told them that it is with much hurt and damage to the ship, lives and properties, although there shall be no loss but they discredit his statement. 
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The peace of God comes even when the storm is raging at present or it looks like an intended spouse has no future. This is kind of peace you'll experience when the brother has only two faded shirts, a Jean trouser and a worn out shoe. Yet, you'll be much confident that he's God's will for your life. 
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How will you experience the peace of God concerning your quest for a marital partner?
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1. Do not worry or fret
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Oftentimes, a lot of people tend to worry about whom to marry when their biological age is rising fast. Pressure comes and desperation heightens when a partner isn't forthcoming. 
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When you worry about the need to get a partner, nothing good will come out of it but you'd only settle for what you seem best. The state of worry will never allow the peace of God to flow into your mind but would allow inner peace to dominate you when you have a mutual feeling with the other person you eventually found yourself with. 
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Inner peace comes from mutual feelings but the peace of God is inspired by God having done the needful. Inner peace is relative and subjective but the peace of God is objective. 
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2. Do the needful 
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To experience the peace of God, the needful you have to do is not in dating, cohabiting, catching them young or employing worldly gimmicks over an issue but you have indulged in the likes of prayer, supplication and thanksgiving. 
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How much of prayer have you prayed on that matter, especially of knowing whom to marry? It is not a prayer you offer sparingly or when pressure mounts itself on you but a prayer you offer persistently until you have a word or revelation from God. 
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Many people pray sparingly and expect quick result over a matter from God. Never! It doesn't work that way. Only deep prayers answers to deep revelations. 
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Having prayed to the point of getting revelations from God, you then need to begun thanksgiving. Thank Him for the partner He has brought or He's working on for you even though you haven't seen it manifest on the physical. 
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Thank Him because you're not going to marry outside His will and that He has given you a suitable help meet or brought you to the right man with which you'd together fulfill purpose. 
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It is when all these have taken their full expression that you can experience the peace of God that passes all human understanding when He eventually settles your case maritally. 
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Check that peace you're having towards your partner in that relationship. Is it the peace that comes from God or the one that comes from within which can be defined? 
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Only the peace of God that passes all human understanding ought to be the thriving point of your conviction concerning who to marry. And this comes when you do not fret or worry yourself on whom to marry but you have prayed and have given thanks to God. Inner peace can be induced but the peace that comes from God is divinely imparted.
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However, only the genuine children of God who have done the needful are allowed to experience the peace of God but others can live with their inner peace. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2017

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