Monday, 25 September 2017

The Chase, The Chaser and the Chased.

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and they two shall be one flesh".
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"He that finds a wife, finds a good thing..."
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Man, in his quest to be married, looks for who to marry. Regardless of the several means that are available to him, he does the 'chasing' (wooing) until she accept. How does a man finds a wife? And what does it means for him to cleave to his wife? That would be a topic for another day.
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Trust me, men are like hunters. A hunter doesn't just hunt any game except he's foolish. And it's weird for the game to be chasing the hunter except he's chasing the wrong animal.
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When it comes to choosing whom to marry, men would carefully do all that it would cost them to marry the woman they 'deemed fit' for marriage. Note the emphasized word. A player will play around ladies to catch fun. A pretender will hide under the guise of reality or seriousness to get those he want. But a player will sample one or more ladies before he finally settles for the one he'd marry. But scarcely, only few men, I mean real men will seek God's face, get His guidance on the lady to marry and then ask her out. However, whichever way a man finds a woman to marry, I will call the process "The chase" (Wooing).
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There are several kinds of men in life, ladies please take note of this very well. There are few real men, lots of pretenders, many players and cheats both in the church and outside it. All of these men have their ways of 'chasing' the woman they'll marry.
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It's a man's thing to chase (woo) a woman when he's ready to marry. A man chase the woman he loves. It's uncultured for a woman to chase a man. Scripturally it is wrong. Culturally in Africa, it's wrong. And according to the divine order, it is wrong. That a thing is western doesn't mean it should be swallowed hook, line and sinker. Let's go back to the Beginning. 
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And before you quote Ruth and Boaz story in the Bible, Ruth didn't chase Boaz. She acted on Naomi's instruction - positioning because she was industrious. 
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A man doesn't chase what will never be of benefit to him. If he sees you look like a sex object, he'll chase you for that. And this is largely defined by how you dress. If you show him those things that are meant to be covered, he'll come after you to uncover them. Although there are some men, pretenders, whether you dress like a nun or not, they will still come after you. 
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However, this men can only be known, I mean the intent of their heart when you chase God desperately, not religiously. 
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Ladies, if you chase (woo) a man, you'll keep doing everything to keep him and at the end, you'll lose. A man's heart is naturally drawn to whom is in love with and he'll chase her. No wonder the Bible says where your treasure is, there your heart will be.
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If you like rub all the pancake, mascara or make down; if he wants you, he'll come. If you like cook for him, feed him or dance Azonto in his bed, if he's not going to marry you, your crying won't make him sober.
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Let a man who's chasing God chase God to get you while you're sold out to God. You can't fake having God. If you fake it, you'll fall into the hands of pretenders and players. Your genuine intimacy with God gives you an xray of a man's heart without falling into the hands of wolves in sheep's clothing. 
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It pains me when I hear that godly sisters fall into the hands of bad boys. Sisters, chase God genuinely! Don't just mark church attendance, have a track record of a personal walk with God. 
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If you want to serve God, serve Him passionately. If you want to have boyfriend, do it at your own peril. God cannot share your heart with your boyfriend. No, He's such a jealous God!
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My heart bleeds when I hear ladies who gave their all to the wrong man and he ended up messing their lives. Don't you think God's looking at you when you're giving him more attention than Him? You'll chat all through the night but when it's time to pray or study His word, you'll sleep off. Some of you, your mouth will become so heavy to pray during prayer sessions but when it's gossip time, your voice will be the loudest. Please I don't intend to insult you but let's be serious with our love for God. 
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If you don't take God serious, He'll take your matter with a pinch of salt. Get serious with God and He treat you like His favorite daughter. I'll re-echo this truth: if you place your emotions in the hands of God, He'll place it in the hands of the right man who will ensure the safety of your life.
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Know this, a man remains faithful when he genuinely chases God to get you. But when you're cheaply gotten, I don't mean you prove-too-hard to get, he'll chase other things. It takes a real man to pay the price to get God's guidance to chase a woman He revealed to him. Do you think it's easy to pray for days, including fasting and prayers and some waiting on God where He prunes the man, having revealed you to him before he finally swallows the confidence to approach you? My sister, it's not moi-moi o.
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A man can pretend to chase God to get your attention. They say if you want to catch a monkey, do like a monkey. But if you're sold out to God, only a man who's genuinely in fellowship with Him will get you. If he's pretending and you're not desperate, He'll reveal things to you about him so that you won't make mistake. 
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Real men chase the contents of their chase. They don't chase everything in skirt even if you have everything they wanted. They are under authority to act - who to chase, when to chase and you'd be surprised that He can even guide them on how to chase.
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Space would fail me to continue but I believe I have been able to convince you and not to confuse you that when you chase God desperately, only a man who's sold out to Him will chase you for marriage. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi

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