Sunday, 15 October 2017


If you hate shifting, you can't compromise your life for anybody, you must get what you want to even if the world goes to blazes, I beg you in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, please, DON'T GET MARRIED!
Marriage is for shifters! You must shift, you must compromise, you must be flexible, teachable, humble and submissive if you want to have a good marriage.
No one stays rigid and have a good marriage! If your wife wants you to assist with chores, brother, no excuse is valid on earth to avoid those chores, you MUST do them, that is what marriage is about. You can't make your wife happy if you don't do the things that make her happy. She may shrug it off but deep within her heart, she is not happy with you and it soon begins to tell on her. Couples must learn to speak each other's love language.
If your husband wants you to watch football with him, my dear sis, you must make sacrifices to sit beside him and watch that football. No excuse is valid on earth to avoid it. Marriage entails sacrifice to make it blissful and enjoyable. When you make your spouse happy by meeting their needs, they will gladly make you happy by meeting your needs too.
Now shifting is not easy. It takes lots of efforts and sacrifice but with Jesus by your side, trust me, you can do all things through Christ that strengthens you.
I was a Bollywood addict before I got married. I enjoyed watching Hrithik Roshan, Preity Zinta, Aamir Khan, Sharukh Khan, Aishwarya Khan, Amitabh Bachan, Salman Khan, Kangana Ranaut and other Bollywood superstars! "Dhoom!"was my favorite movie and I deeply enjoyed those dancing steps but goodness Lord, hubby hates secular movies with passion! He hates anything carnal that glorify demons. Most of this movies are dedicated to their idols before showing the scenes. Hubby knew I have the call of God upon my life, I am an anointed woman of God and these movies will eventually destroy my spiritual and moral life! So secular movies including Hollywood were banned from our home. Did I agree immediately? Hell! No! It wasn't easy giving up an habit that has grown up with me. My dad loved watching Bollywood movies, I picked it from him but it wasn't an excuse. I had to yield to my husband. It's a different story today. Now I hate those movies too and do not watch them anymore. My husband is indeed a happy and lucky man!
I always want hubby to show me affection in public like hold my hands, give me a peck or steal a kiss in the dark, put his arms around me in day light, put my head on his shoulder while listening to a sermon in church, etc but honey wouldn't do that! He came from a strong moral background that is helping all of them keep their virginity till marriage. No public show of affection! A proper, moral, ethical, principled, disciplined man to the bone and marrow! In the bedroom, he was a super romantic husband, but public? hell! No! But I wasn't happy with that at all. With time, hubby learnt to adjust. He now shows me affection in public and admires me a lot, I am a happier woman today!
I had to let go of short skirts, late coming to work, and other things I did my spouse didn't like. He had to let go of his weaknesses too and I tell you, my marriage is far sweeter than it was in the beginning. We have learnt the power of compromise and sacrifice. We are very eager to take to each other's correction and adjust as soon as possible. We are both more in love, deeply affectionate and highly romantic than when we first got married.
I'm not asking you to compromise your good values, principles and standards but please, you need to work on your weaknesses if you want to make your spouse really happy and enjoy your marriage on daily basis.
I have a beautiful marriage. You can too if you will allow God to work on you and make you the best husband/wife to your spouse. You shall not regret your marriage in Jesus' name. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele

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