Thursday, 14 December 2017


Don't allow anyone tie you down in a toxic, destructive, frustrating and sinful relationship because of their emotional plea...
Lots of singles are trapped in negative relationships because of those emotional, manipulative words.
You have your life to live. You are solely responsible for your own happiness. If someone choose to make your life unbearable and you choose to stay in such an awkward, destructive, energy draining relationship, you have yourself alone to blame!
Jesus said, "love your neighbour as yourself." Meaning, love yourself first, then love your neighbour. Take care of yourself first then you can take care of your neighbour. You can't be unhappy and make them happy, its not possible! If they are draining your happiness, your joy, your positive energy, which one do you have left to give? You need to get out and find your own happiness!
If they want you in their lives, they must stop hurting you. If they really, truly need you, they have to stop those habits driving you crazy. If they are not ready to change, asking you to keep wasting your time praying for their incorrigible, cold hearted, unrepentant attitude, you should take to your heels!
A person who genuinely loves you will seek your happiness above theirs even if it takes losing you. You read that right, EVEN IF IT TAKES LOSING YOU. Love is not selfish, it is selfless. It does not hold tightly to somebody against their will and happiness. Hubby lovingly told me while we were courting, "your happiness means a lot to me Seun. If ending this relationship and marrying another man will make you happy, I will gladly do it, I love you that much. " An immature mind will think that's pride in display! Why would you release her if you claim you truly love her? My husband has clearly displayed God's love to me.
God loves us so much, died for us yet will not FORCE us to obey him or spend eternity in paradise. That wouldn't be love, it will be selfishness. He loves us so much, he still gives us the power to chose (Deuteronomy 30:19). I told hubby countless times in the relationship he is free to go anytime he wants, I'm not tying him down in any relationship. What is yours will never leave no matter how you push (I'm not asking you to push your fiance/fiancee away, so many of you are too chicken hearted to trust God anyway). If they are yours, they will stay, if not, a little pressure will end the relationship. Never beg anyone to stay in any relationship with you, never! It is called desperation. If they want to go, they are free to do that and the door is wide opened. The Lord will bring your own man/woman who will never leave and stay loyal to you forever!
Bottom line, don't force anyone to stay in a relationship with you and don't be forced to stay if you really need to get out of a toxic relationship.
A little word is enough for the wise. God bless you. 


© Seun Oladele

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