Monday, 4 December 2017


Some singles believe a full time house wife is a woman who does not go to work but stays at home with the kids, that's not a full time house wife. A full time house wife is a woman who contributes nothing whatsoever to the society and the world at large. She only has sex, cook and spends all her life with the kids, no more, no less.
You can be a house wife and not go to work, you have sex, cook, raise the kids yet make impact around the word. That's actually a proverbs 31 woman.
Did I say you should not go to work? NO! Go to work if you and your husband agrees to that but if not, better settle that in courtship before you get married.
The following set of people are not full time house wives. People erroneously think they are. You can pick the one you want, discuss it with your fiancé and reach an agreement before you marry.
1. A BUSINESS WOMAN FROM HOME: In other to have time for the family, some women do business from home (Proverbs 31). They make their products at home and deliver to their customers especially when the kids are away at school and return before the kids get home.
This type of business is good because it affords you enough time to spend with the family yet make extra cash for yourself. Raising a family is very demanding. Now, as singles you have all the 24 hours to waste but as a married person you must maximize every second spent. This type of arrangement gives you the freedom of making money yet keep the family running.
2. A MINISTRY WOMAN: She is.not a full time house wife because she is making impact in her church and her society at large. Many women are called by the Lord to stop work and dedicate their lives to Him. She spends time with the family and when the kids are away at school, she spends the spare time doing the Lord!s work. Care must be taken not to abandon the family at the expense of God's work. Some women do this to their own peril.
3. THE ONLINE BUSINESS WOMAN: Her business is online and this allows so much flexibility. Lots of genuine businesses are being done online; from information marketing, to blogging among several others. She has enough time for her husband and the kids yet has time to make some transaction online without moving around. All she needs is her laptop, tablet or phone and a functioning bank account.
4. THE CAREER WOMAN: She uses her certificate to make money. She may be a banker, doctor, lawyer, accountant, nurse, teacher, a lecturer, journalist, auditor, etc. This one is actually demanding.
You leave for work very early, take the kids to school and return home after the kids have arrived or in the evening. The more demanding jobs like banking and medicine may require getting a house help who helps you run the home while you are away at work making money.
This type of arrangement is good if you are very spiritual, have an understanding husband, a godly, deeply spiritual house help and children who are well behaved otherwise you need to tighten your belt and sit tight.
Raising godly kids in this very corrupt generation is time consuming. Money is not enough to raise children, if it were enough, the children of some wealthy men won't be cocaine addicts and cultists. Going to church is not enough or else some Pastors' daughters won't be prostitutes.
Your husband also need care and attention. He needs your food and body and if they are not available, he may seek help from the house help, this is REALITY.
I will advise you to maximize your life as a single person. Work as much as you want, make all the money in the world but when you get married be flexible. There are some jobs you can't take anymore.
You can't be traveling round the world for months and years on end and expect your sexually starved husband to remain faithful forever or your neglected kids become godly overnight.
Get a flexible job. Get the one that allows you to spend time with the family. Family is important. After God, family should rank next on your list of importance.
Courtship is for talking and ironing out issues. Sit your partner down and have a tete-a-tete on this issue. Ask questions, answer questions. This is very important.
THE FULL TIME HOUSE WIFE: She spends all her time in the home, kitchen and children. If your husband is rich and very busy like he travels a lot and pays you monthly salary or personal allowance and you are very okay with it, why not?
Raising kids is very time consuming, house chores is not a child's play but a time comes the kids leave the home and you ask yourself who am I? What have I contributed to the world? Running your vision, working in your passion, making impact in the world apart from making money helps you feel good and have a sound, solid self esteem.
There is more to life than having sex and raising kids, you are here on a purpose, find out and work towards its attainment. 


© Seun Oladele

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