Monday, 1 January 2018

Does True Love Exist?

Does True Love Exist?
(A long write up but worth reading)
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The subject of true love came into play when the world sees what the expression and outcome of love has become. Love expressed in the world was seen to be selfish, wicked, evil and full of lies and deception; hence there was a heart cry for true love.
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In the name of love, many were jilted, heart broken, hymen broken, became victims of premarital sex, single mother, abortion, unwanted pregnancy, relationship disappointment and so on. Yet, the souls of men yearn for a love that would be sincere, selfless and a kind of love that would be expressed in deed and in truth without hurting them or that would destroy their lives.
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Philosophers in their understanding classified love into four types: Agape, Eros, Phileo and Storge. This is true for the human understanding but scripturally, it's wrong. God's kind of love is true, real, genuine and sincere; anything else other than this is lust, favoritism, conditional or infatuation. 
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What is love? What is not love? Who is love? How do I know a love that's true? Do you want answers to these? Read on!
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Love is a decision. To love is a command but to relate is a choice. You are to love everyone but you choose who to relate with. It is who you relate with that you're in a relationship with and this can be in marriage, friendship, business, political and so on. God chose to love you and decides to relate with you in a Father-child relationship. 
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Love is a commitment and it is sacrificial. As an act, love requires that you're bound to the welfare of who you're in a relationship with. If he or she is not committed to making your life better but worse, then it's not love but selfishness. Love makes godly sacrifices and not foolish ones.
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Love is in giving. You can give without loving but you can't love without giving. What are you giving in that relationship? Love doesn't give what would destroy the other person. The likes of premarital sex, erotic conversations, kissing and sexual immoralities is not a godly way of expressing love among singles, that's lust and a violation of God's word. Hence, giving must be godly and mutual.
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You don't give your body for love, that's lust. You don't give your partner all your money and be drinking Gari, that's foolishness. 
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Love is not a feeling because feelings are temporal and it is susceptible to change. You can feel you love someone today and tomorrow the feeling has evaporated. There's more to love than feelings! 
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Love is not conditional. If you have a reason to love someone because of what you like about them (physical appearance or personality impression), one day when that thing fades, you'll have a reason not to love them anymore. 
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Your boyfriend or girlfriend is not a model of love. Romeo and Juliet are not examples of love. Love described in Mills and Boons, Hardly Chase and those romantic novels are not love. God Himself is love. If you don't know God or have a deep respect for Him, you can't express love that is true because your love will be conditional, impure and selfish. 
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God demonstrated what love was in John 3:16. He GAVE His only begotten son, that whosoever believes in Him should not perish but HAVE everlasting life. 
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Love that's true doesn't destroy you. Any expression of love that ruins your life or exposes you to the consequences of relationship issues is not true love. It is not love if you keep aborting for him or he keeps having premarital sex with you. He's destroying your life stylishly and pleasurably.
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Love is meant to make the life of the other person better. God didn't love you because He wants to destroy you or because of His selfish reason. He loved you so that you won't perish and that you would have life everlasting. 
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If you're in a relationship with the opposite sex and you're not getting anywhere better academically, spiritually, financially, mentally, morally and physically then you're in a relationship that would destroy you beyond repair if you do not pull out of it now.
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Check that love your so called friend is expressing to you or that you're expressing to him or her. Is it destroying their life gradually or exposing them to evil?
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God is love. Love is God. To know more about what true love is, read 1 Corinthians 13. Equally add the fear of God (A deep respect for) to your knowledge of what love is. If you love God, you will love your neighbor as yourself. If you love your neighbor (your closest friend or fellow human being), you won't destroy their life for your own selfish pleasure. 
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Remember, the love that is true is the God's kind of love. Do you have this kind of love in you or yours is selfish, sensual or evil or you only love those who belong to your religion, tribe, status or race? True love will only exist among those who love God genuinely. True love is not learnt in movies or seen in soap operas, you can only learn what it is from the Bible and when you have God's nature in you, or your partner has it; both of you will enjoy what true love is.
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Are you searching for true love? Seek God with all your heart. Do you want to express true love? Have God's nature buried in the fabrics of your soul. Would you like to marry someone whom you'd both enjoy true love? Then, trust Him to guide you to one of His children that would express true love to you and don't lean on to your own understanding when it comes to choosing whom to marry because if you do, you would end up disappointed. 
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Any 'love' that breaks your heart or hymen, cheated on you, exposes you to evil consequences is not true love but lust, wickedness or infatuation. 
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Does true love still exist? Yes it does! It depends on where you're finding it and whom you're looking to for true love. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2017

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