Monday, 1 January 2018

HOW DO YOU HANDLE PRESSURE?

Since I said in my last article: "Enjoy Your Singleness," that I married 3 months short of my 30th Birthday, some have been asking me how I was able to handle pressure from my parents and peers.
To start with, I'm not asking anyone to marry at 30 please! That was my personal choice! Don't use anybody's personal experience as a yardstick for yours. You can learn from others, you can apply the principles that made their marriages work but do not force yourself to do things exactly the way they did theirs, people, situations, circumstances, life experiences and background are different!
I am a strong woman, I don't bow to pressure, pressure bows to me! I don't give a damn what the world think about me, I do what needs to be done whether you like it or not is none of my business. Until I hear God, I don't move and when I move, your personal contrary opinion is irrelevant! So when I was single, I didn't notice any pressure. Younger cousins were getting married ahead of me, it didn't disturb me. My immediate younger sister had married about 5 years before that time, it didn't pull a hair out of my head. I often visited her and her husband and we always had a nice time together.
My 2nd younger sister threatened to marry ahead of me if I didn't do quick, I smiled and told her to go right ahead. Unknown to her though, I and hubby had been seriously planning to get married that year. My dad later stepped in and told her she must wait for me. I didn't like my dad's idea at all. I honestly wanted her to go right ahead and marry at the time she wanted. Her time table and decisions have nothing to do with mine. Our dreams, visions and goals are different though we are siblings. Eventually, I got married on November 6th while she got married in March the following year, just four months apart.
If you must succeed in life, you must learn to handle pressure because pressure will always come. If you can't handle pressure before marriage, you won't handle it after marriage and more pressure will come after marriage!
Question on pressure concerning my ministry was posed at me at Tai Solarin University. I told them the same thing. I don't bow to pressure. I don't see it. I am resilient, It takes resilience to succeed in ministry.
I don't do things because everyone is doing it, I do it as led by the Lord. Lots of singles have been asking me to organize on land programme, God has not told me to. Let heaven falls, I'm just not going to! The day He asks me to start, no devil from the pit of hell can stop me. Same for whatsapp group, I'm not led.
The online vigil I conducted was organized by God Himself with people literally experiencing raw power and presence of God in their rooms. I wasn't the one doing anything. I'm just a vessel, He does His work. I am an itinerant minister for now. I minister at churches, campuses and wherever I'm invited while impacting lives on the social media. That is my assignment for now. That is what He asks me to do for now. You can't just push me to do what I won't do. I just won't do it, period!
My backbone is God. My strength is Jesus Christ. "By strength shall no man prevail" (1 Samuel 2:9) is what the Bible says. Human strength is not enough, temperament will fail, flesh will get tired. The Bible says "It is God that works in you both to will and to do His good pleasure" (Phillipians 2:13). It is God that gives the strength to withstand pressure.
The bottom line is this. Do you know God? Do you have a personal relationship with Him? Do you know His agenda for your life? Are you in tune with His timing for you? It is when you know your God and His plans for you that you can stand against pressure. "They that KNOW THEIR GOD shall be STRONG and do EXPLOITS" (Daniel 11:32b) but if you do not know him, you will be weak and exploited. It's as simple as that.
Get to know your God today and his plans for your life and your life will never remain the same again. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2017.

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