Tuesday, 2 January 2018


Before that relationship/marriage ends, the guy/husband would have been dropping hints but you were not sensitive enough to pick it. For instance, "xoxo, I hate the way you scream at me in front of my friends." If you are naive, you may laugh, jokingly say "I'm sorry" and go your merry way but know that a man doesn't complain bitterly until he can't handle that situation any more or it's giving him serious headache!
If he constantly compares you with a particular lady after correcting you over and over again, it is not a joke, either you adjust to his correction, or lose him to that lady, I'm talking reality here, no sentiment!
One lady was fond of going on her two knees to greet my fiance while on campus. She would give him a big, mighty welcome each time he visits (they were platonic friends before we met) and would cook one powerful vegetable soup for him and his friend (he usually went in the company of his male friend).
She was respectful, loving and so adorable. My darling didn't see her beyond a friend but would casually talk about how he treated him. I would nod knowingly, praise the lady and encourage him to keep the fire of the friendship burning.
The next time he visited, I went on my two knees to welcome him, cooked a more powerful egusi soup killed with locust beans and the appropriate garnishes. Hubby soon forgot about his friend. That was the last female friend he ever had.
It's stupid to fight over a man. I see ladies go dirty in public over a fiance/husband who doesn't give a hoot if she dies of high blood pressure! You can't force a man to stay with you forever, you must find your way to his heart, listen to the hints, take the corrections and adjust appropriately before it is too late. Same for the man, you must adjust quick to her before someone snatches your fiancee/wife from you.
When I drop a hint some one is giving me attention, hubby doesn't scream mad or blow the roof unless the home breaker has the audacity to demand for what is not his. He will simply take the clues and work on it. The intruder is soon forgotten. We both take hints and adjust as soon as possible.
Some fights in the marriage are a complete waste of precious time and energy! Some affairs men and women are secretly having are totally unnecessary. If their spouses can take hints and clues, they will meet each other's needs and wouldn't think of having an affair.
If he is complaining about the missionary style, try another, spice up your sex life (I'm talking to married couples), try cow girl, rear entry or sitting, spice things up and let him stop fantasizing about his sec. who has been seducing him for ages but has not been giving her his attention!
If she keeps praising her colleagues who always look good and smell nice, you will do well to work on your looks and invest in good perfume! If she complains you don't give her attention when she talks, don't wait till you lose her before you adjust.
Courtship prepares you for marriage, adjust to one another! Take correction. Learn how to submit to a man, learn how to treat a woman with love, care and affection.
Don't be stubborn, rigid, proud, pompous, arrogant, rude and sassy! Be flexible, teachable, humble, meek and caring.
May the Lord grant you the wisdom to handle your relationship in Jesus' name. You will not lose your courtship/marriage in 2018 in Jesus' name. God bless you, cheers!

© Seun Oladele, 2017.

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