Monday, 15 January 2018

Understanding The Life of A Teenager

(It's worth reading, patiently read please) 
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The kind of adult you become is a function of the foundation you lay down in your teenage years except you were divinely transformed. 
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The life of a teenager is quite a complex one. It is interwoven with desires, influences, pursuits and biological patterns. It is a period when teenage boys and girls wants to explore, experiment and they're easily intimidated. And also, those who just barely escape their teenage years, between the ages of 20-25 years aren't free from these.
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At this stage, God is interested in your life and the devil likewise - through the society and your flesh. However, who you yield yourself to determines the servant of whom you become. Many teenagers whom have not been 'arrested' by God became Yahoo-Yahoo (Internet fraudsters), suffered the consequences of relationship issues and were exposed to youthful lust and exuberance. 
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A teenager that's sold out to the pursuit of drugs, abuse of substance, sexual immoralities, ungodly relationship and the likes cannot become a successful adult except he changes. Permit me to tell you this truth, teenagers live by the impulse of their emotions and external influences but matured adults live based on their experience (wisdom). 
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Why is the teenage life such a delicate one?
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1. It's a time you want to experiment.
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The curiosity to know how premarital sex and sexual immoralities feel is high. This is a period when you just want to see, know or feel but unfortunately, many became addicted in the process. No wonder it's commonly said that curiosity kills the unwise cat.
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In this stage, you'll become 'wiser and exposed' than your parent or guardian because of the results of the experiment you have been told. "Sex makes you feel like a woman", "If you smoke Indian hemp or you take codeine, you'll feel high" and so on are the experimental bait that is used to lure many teenagers into those destructive act.
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You don't need to experiment. Why should you experiment with sex when you can patiently explore its world in marriage without being exposed to to the consequences of premarital sex? 
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Because the release of your sexual hormone is strong or your sexual organs have reached puberty, you long for sex or emotional intimacy with the opposite sex, whereas what you need is how to master self-control and discover what life is worth living for. 
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2. You're easily prone to peer pressure 
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Show me a teenager who has not being influenced by his or her peer and I'd tell you that the right person took hold of their life.
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The teenage year is a period where your emotional life is highly susceptible to influence. How you feel can be influenced by your friends, family or relatives because you haven't mastered emotional maturity. That a teenager is physically mature doesn't mean they are emotionally mature.
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It is this period that some ladies are forced to dress somehow (model or celebrity), behave like someone (a highly cherished friend) or be in a relationship so that they can be adapted to societal forms. And guys too would feel 'downgraded' for not going to clubs, party or knowing how to toast a girl.
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3. You'll become naturally stubborn or disobedient 
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"Mom, don't tell me what to do! I'm no longer a kid! I'm 18 years old mom and I know what is right", Clara yelled at her mom.
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"This is how we do it dad, you're old-school and things have changed. What's wrong in hanging out with my guys in the evening?" John narrated.
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An average teenager doesn't take to correction because they feel they know what they're doing which they believe it is right, however, it's wrong. Can you be wiser than your parent who life has taught a lesson in what you're told not to do? He or she that is often reproved but hardens his or her neck will be destroyed without correction. 
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4. You're in dire need to hookup 
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This is a stage where the rush to be in a relationship is prominent. You want to be in a relationship either with the opposite sex or same sex. However, because many teenagers do not find a friend in their parent or guardian, they're forced to go out to a place where they are celebrated, valued, accepted and not tolerated. Unfortunately, many of them have their destinies marred as a result of this. 
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If all these influences and tendencies are not curtailed, the adulthood of such teenager will become a disaster unless God intervenes.
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What should I do as a teenager to overcome all these?
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1. Dare to standout 
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What would your generation benefit from you if all you live your life for is smoking, clubbing, youthful exuberance and the likes? Will your generation be grateful to God that you came into this world or cursed the day you were born?
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Dare to stand out! Daniel did. Great men who made positive and eternal impact did and God is raising young men and women, including teenagers to be among them.
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Don't join the company of those who are using their bodies to get what they want. Don't bow to the god of civilization, westernization or of new school mentality. Don't be like them but stand out for God. Determine in your heart that your generation will bless God that you were born.
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2. Pursue God 
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Whatever you pursue in life determines the outcome of your life. You can't chase shadows and catch substantial things. You can't pursue the vanities of life and expect that your life will count for good and for God. 
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Pursue God. Be a God chaser. Pursue a personal relationship with Him and not religion. Seek to be known by God and not in church. Seek His power and glory and not the material things He gives. Chase God, not His gifts so that your life can be a blessing to God and your generation.
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3. Discover God's purpose 
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When you don't know God's purpose for your life, you'll abuse the purpose why God created you. No wonder Myles Munroe said, "When the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable".
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The best time to know why God created you is in your teenage years. Why? You're yet to be faced with distractions if you seek Him early. Those who seek God early in life finds Him much better than those who wait till they're older.
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It is wise to know God's purpose for your life so that you can pursue what is most important for your life and to know what life is worth living for.
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Dear teenager, I know that your hormones are raging and peer influence is becoming unbearable, lay a good foundation for your life now so that your life will not be a waste to God and your generation. 
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If this material blesses you, please share with a teenage friend or parent. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.

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