Thursday, 14 June 2018

ON FIRST TIME SEX, ORGASM, SEX POSITIONS AND SEXUAL PLEASURE.

With more distressed, painful and confused calls on sex from just married virgins, I'm addressing this issue again.
Sexual pleasure is a reality. Orgasm can be a daily experience if you so wish. Romance in marriage can lead to a sexual encounter that makes you wish all we are born to do is have sex and go to heaven. But you won't experience anything called sexual pleasure if you are not married to your best friend.
Sex is more than "open your laps, let me go in and get out!" Sex is the sweet, affectionate, heart-to-heart conversation that has gone long ahead of the intercourse, the hugs, the pecks, the embrace, the kisses, the romantic words, the sweet promises. Intercourse is just to round off your expression of your love. That's by the way.
As you are preparing for wedding, prepare for sex as well. It's so shocking that almost all the couples who sought my counselling on sex had not read a single book on sex, how in the name of God do you want to enjoy what you don't know anything about? I'm recommending these books again, get them before you get married or your wedding night will be a very big disappointment.
1. THE ACT OF MARRIAGE by Tim Lahaye.

2. ANSWERS FOR YOUR MARRIAGE by Bruce and Carol Britten.

3. SEX IN MARRIAGE by Funmi Akingbade.
Not getting these books to read for any reason under heaven shows you are not serious!
70% of the sexual enjoyment for the woman lies on the man and most men don't ask for help till they find it difficult deflowering their weeping bride. Listen, if she doesn't enjoy sex it's your fault. It's easy for you to enjoy sex with almost zero encouragement, not so for her. You have lots of work to do to help her. This is where your true love, patience, sacrifice and self control is tested. Read the books, practice what you read especially THE ACT OF MARRIAGE by Tim Lahaye.
Talk about sex! How would anyone want to get married and not talk about your wedding night? That is the problem of marrying a stranger, someone you can not share your heart with. If you are marrying your best friend, that should be the easiest thing to do.
I remember boasting to hubby I was a lioness and would devour him in bed. I had read some hooks so I thought I knew more than him so I boasted a lot. I told him to get prepared for me. That we will do different styles from rear entry to standing to sitting to missionary. It was on the wedding night that I discovered I scored A1 in theory but F9 in practical. I knew next to nothing. Hubby couldn't help shaking his head at his super boasting bride. We had to learn together from the scratch. He is the one "devouring" me now.
If you know talking about it will lead to sex then at worst, wait till a week to wedding. Make sure you trash things out sexually.
If you are afraid of penetration, let him know so both of you can read books and seek help together. If you don't know how to gently glide through her holy of holies, in the name of Jesus Christ I command thee, get a lubricant! Ask for K.Y Jelly from the pharmacy. Let your fingers create a map for you, you shall get there in Jesus' name!
Start with missionary but non-virgins may try other sex styles on the wedding night. The easiest one with minimal pain is the missionary for virgins. God is not against different sex styles please! No where is it written from Genesis to Revelation it must be man on top only. Do what gives you both pleasure, don't allow religion blind you puleeeeaaaze! God is not going to vacate his throne because you try spooning or faint when she comes on top or rain fire on top of your head because you try sitting or reversed cowgirl. Just enjoy each other and derive maximum pleasure from each other's bodies.
NOTICE: SEX IS STRICTLY FOR THE MARRIED. If you make your private part cheaply available to him outside wedlock you have just shown baby that you lack home training, no morals, you are cheap, not a good wife material and a candidate of hell fire, so zip up!
If you carry your manhood up and down looking for a naive girl to dump your colossal problem on, you have created problems for your daughters to the fifth generation. Generational curses are on men who go about destroying innocent women. If you don't know before know it now before your children's children suffer for your carelessness!
A little word is enough for the wise. This post is for mature singles who understands Abstinence Till Marriage. I see you enjoy your honey moon beyond your expectations in Jesus' name. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele

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