Monday, 9 July 2018

Do You Understand Your Sexual Triggers?

Numbers 2, 3 and 9 may be yours! (Quite lengthy but worth the read)
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No one would ever fall victim of sexual intimacy if their sexual triggers haven’t been pulled, consciously or unconsciously. Except in the case of rape, one or two things usually triggers people for sex. When you fail to understand and guard what triggers you for sex, you will be vulnerable to it, no matter your fasting and prayer.
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Below are the things that often triggers people for sex.
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1. Sight: God gave men and women eyes to see, hence what you see affects your sexual drive and passion. Research as claimed that men are attracted by sight more than women, this is true also for the women but it is more prominent in men. Men are attracted to beautiful women than the ugly ones, men are attracted to endowed women, women with noticeable breasts and buttock catches the attention of most men. Women on the other hand are also attracted by men with good appearance, personality and status. Which aspect of a man or woman are you attracted to? Knowing this will make you understand your sexual make up when it comes to the issue of what and who you see.
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2. Mood: Our sexuality as humans is affected by our mood. A man who is happy or an excited woman can easily become vulnerable to sex. On the contrary, someone who is lonely or depressed may also fall prey into sexual immorality. Your mood often determines your reaction to sex in most cases. Studies have shown that men are more in the mood for sex than women, this is why a woman needs to be sexually prepared before she’s involved in the act. A man is readily accessible to have sex more than women. More so, during ovulation, some ladies feel the need to be sexually intimate than any other period of their life. If it is at this state you roam carelessly around a man, he may take advantage over your sexual triggers. Which mood sets the tone for sex in you? You must understand this.
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3. Touch: Humans have sensory nerves all scattered all over their bodies. Your reception to touches varies as humans, either male or female. Some body parts are more sensitive than the others while in some, what becomes a sensitive part in others is not the same with them. For instance, I remember playing with my male friend in the University and I touched his ear lobes, he began to giggle and he told me that part usually get him sexually excited. Is he weird? Nay! He understood what triggers him. Do you know yours?
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4. Age: Our sexuality is affected as we age, it is like a rising and falling curve in most people. You tend to be more sexually active and agile during your youthful age but as old age sets in, you will obey the law of diminishing return. Your present age is not the time to explore sex but to master the art of sex control in sexual and other matters. Although some people’s sexuality is not affected by sex, but these kinds of people are very few in numbers. Do you ever thought about sex or understood sex when you are a toddler? But the moment you hit puberty, sexual desires and urge begins to run through your body like an ocean surge. Puberty exposes your sexuality but discipline, keeps them in check.
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5. Exposure (social): How exposed you are and what you are exposed to affects your sexual personality or sexuality. Some people have been exposed to sex when they were young while some were only exposed to sex when they got married. Some weren’t involved in the main act but curiosity has led them to be sexually exposed, hence it led them to sexual stimulating activities whenever sexual urge comes. A woman who has had sex when she was much younger may likely have a higher drive for sex than someone who hasn’t been exposed to it.
Mind you, your first-time exposure to sex does two things to you: you either hate sex or love it. Those who had a mind-blowing, pleasurable and unforgettable first-time sex usually become an addict to it while those who had a painful experience about it becomes frigid in marriage.
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6. Religion: The religion you practise affects your sexuality to an extent that you are involved in it. Some religion believed in the practise of polygamy, hence, their teenage children are early exposed to the sexual world than those whose religion forbids such. More so, some people’s religious belief borne out of their conviction of their religious leader, helps them to suppress any sexual urge they have. This people practise celibacy or abstinence than those whose religion allows them. However, what you believe in affects your sexuality. Do you believe in abstinence or sexual looseness?
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7. Environmental factors: Research has shown that children who grew up in the ghettos has more chances of becoming sexually active all through their adult life because of the environment they lived in. However, an undue exposure coupled with a sex promoted environment will influence the sexual drive of most people. It takes discipline and the fear of God not to be influenced negatively in a sexually polluted environment. Does your environment expose you to an undue passion for sex? Examine it!
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8. Marriage: Many do not know much about their sexuality until when they are married. Those who prior to marriage were sexually exposed usually becomes dissatisfied with keeping one partner when it comes with sex. More so, a man who has a high libido for sex and he is married to a wife with low sexual drive will have his sexuality affected, unless with patience and discipline, he understands and accommodates his wife, he will become frustrated in the marriage. Marriage opens you up to a world of sexual intimacy but self-control keeps you check.
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9. Words: There is power in the spoken word. As much as it can create or call forth those things that do not exist as though they exist, it can also trigger a man or a woman for sex. Ladies are more vulnerable to erotic conversations than men, this is why a woman that is lavished with compliments and sexually expressive words from the opposite sex can easily let loose for sex if she does not understand her sexual triggers. What kind of words do you allow the opposite sex say to you? Do you smile when he often tells you that you are sexy, you’ve got kissable lips, a beautiful curve and all of that? Be careful! Words have a way of clouding your emotion and will open you up for sexual intimacy.
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10. Friends: There are some friends you will keep and all they would often tell you is the kind of latest sexual position they have just practised with their boyfriend or girlfriend. Some would even tell you of the performance enhancing drugs they recently discover. If you keep friends that all they discuss is about their sexual escapades, one day you would be influenced to give it a try. Who are your friends? He or she that follows wise men or women shall be wise but the companion of fools shall be destroyed.
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Have you discovered what triggers you for sexual intimacy? Guard your heart with all diligence because out of it are the issues of life – including sexual sins.
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 

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