Friday, 20 July 2018

Mastering your Sexuality.

The most powerful sexual organ is not the sex organ but a part of you which you do not pay attention to - your mind. It is the mind that determines your mood, it dictates what you feel, it determines your response to touch and what moves you when you see what you see that triggers you for sex. 
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A mind that is not programmed for sex can never fall victim of illicit or marital sex. It is the state of your mind that largely affect your sexual life. A woman whose mind has been warmed up for sex will easily open herself up for sex at the slightest touch or whisper, the same happens with the male folk.
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When your mind is activated for sex, it sends signals to your brain and it releases a chemical substance that activates your sexual organs for sex. However, regardless of your sexual triggers, you can control what goes on in your body if you can regulate what is in your mind. 
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You do not lose the battle of sexual sin in bed, you were first defeated in your mind. Joseph did not run away from his master’s wife sexual invite because he did not like sex, the state of his mind made him flee. But unfortunately, it was Samson’s condition of mind that made him seek rest on the laps of Delilah. From these two instances, you can agree with me that it is not your physical strength that wins the battle against illicit sex, what makes you overcome is the state of your mind.
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Have you been having issues overcoming illicit sex? Do you rise and fall in sexual sin – you cry today for repentance but tomorrow you are rolling under the sheet of sexual defilement? Or perhaps you have not understood how you can avoid becoming vulnerable to sexual sin? I bring you good news.
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And the good news is not another gospel, but that you work on your mind. I can give you 21 ways to avoid pornography, masturbation, premarital sex and the likes, they can only scratch the surface but they will never uproot the major cause of your sexual problems. Taming your mind is the surest way to master your sexuality. How?
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‘’Do not be conformed to this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind’’ – Romans 12:2. Your mind is the engine of your life. If your mind is lustfully polluted, you will think sex, your words will be laced with sexual expression, your touch will be immoral and your relationship with the opposite sex will be for the gratification of your sexual desires.
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Two things that helps you to renew your mind: Accept Jesus and daily meditate on the Word of God.
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‘’O, I have been born again since 19… or since 20...’’ but the truth is that have you accepted Jesus? It is not about being a Christian, it is about becoming who God wants you to be through Christ. Many people accepted Christ with their old habits and lifestyle still remaining intact. It is impossible for you to live the life of victory over your sexual challenges if you do not totally accept Christ into your heart. 
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Transformation starts from the inside of you. Conforming to the world system and practice also starts from within. Jesus and the world cannot reside in you. When Jesus has taken over the seat of your life, it will become very easy for you to gain mastery over your mind (will and emotion). When He comes in, with your mind you will serve the law of the Spirit of life but when He is not there, with your flesh, you will fulfill its lust thereof.
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However, for as many as received Him, to them He gave power to become the son of God and when the sons of God are led by the Spirit of God, they will overcome and master their sexual life. So, when you ACCEPT JESUS into your heart of a truth, wholeheartedly, He gives you the power (Holy Spirit) to become the son of God and when you use the power He gave you, you will gain mastery over your mind and challenges.
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Another important way to master your sexuality is to RENEW YOUR MIND IN THE WORD OF GOD. The word of God, the Holy Bible is not just a historical book, it is a compendium of God’s instruction to mankind, written by men who are inspired by the Holy Spirit. Just like a car engine, if your mind is not ‘oiled’ with the word of God, you will be defeated from your mind before it becomes evident in reality. Don’t just study your Bible to fulfill all righteousness, meditate in it and let the Holy Spirit breathe life into what you read. 
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It is the Spirit that gives life, when you read your Bible with the flesh, it will either kill you or do nothing in you. If you do not renew your mind daily in the word, what you hear, what you see and what you think will defeat you and cause you to fall victim of sexual sin. It is with the renewed mind that you can master your sexuality. When your mind is renewed, you will fear (love and respect) God and depart from every appearance of evil.
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Lastly, GUARD YOUR HEART (mind) with all diligence because out of it are the issues of life. To guard means to keep or to protect. What you do not guard will be exposed to theft and vandalism. Guard what you see, what you hear and the thoughts that flows in your heart. That you have accepted Jesus does not mean you should live a careless life or focus your attention on everything that you see or allow what you hear seep into your mind. You must learn to discipline yourself and everything that makes up your life. An unguarded mind is a defeated life. 
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When the internet throws sexually explicit pictures at you, delete or close the site; when someone complements you sexually, shun it immediately before it gets into your mind and when sexual thoughts flashes through your mind, immediately replace it with what is true, honest and godly so that the thought doesn’t become an act.
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Other ways to master your sexuality are: Watch your company and bring your body under subjection (Self-control). You are not different from the kind of friends you keep, if they do not influence you positively, they will do so negatively. Who are your friends? All these that I have been privileged to reveal to you by the Holy Spirit are the surest ways to master your sexuality regardless of what triggers you for sex.



© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi. 

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