Thursday, 5 July 2018

WHO SNATCHES WHO?

"Make una run come oh...Ewo!
Husband /boyfriend snatcher,, I go kill you today. Idiot, you nor go go fine your own." 
This is the most common exclamation in Nigeria about two ladies fighting over a man.
The question I am asking is, WHO SNATCHES WHO?
Many a time when such things happens, the ladies fight themselves while the guy feel cool about it. One of the ladies feels she is the landlady while the other is a tenant as such need to be given a quit notice.
Now I have some few things to tell ladies..
BEFORE YOU FIGHT:
1. THINK DEEP.. if the guy is truly in love with you and find you worthy, why is he dating another girl. To the extent of showcasing her not minding how you feel? Love is not in the hundreds of words he tells you just to make you smile or get you in bed. Love is the Action surrounding his relationship with you whether in secret or open. He should respect you in all ways.
BEFORE YOU FIGHT ANOTHER GIRL,...
2. ASK YOURSELF WHO ARE YOU TO THIS GUY?
Ask yourself, where do you really stand in his heart. The words he has told you that you are all he has are not so true. Seeing another girl shows that you ain't all he got he Just enticing you. It is time to ask yourelf who are you to him. what if you are the boyfriend snatcher? Do you really think he belongs to you or place you in high esteem like he said? His Actions speaks louder than his words.
BEFORE YOU FIGHT AGAIN, ..
3. THINK OF THE AFTER EFFECTS...
Many have fought other girls thinking they are the "landlady" in the guys heart but at the end they where dumped for the other girl. Think about the after effects. Wouldn't it be painful after disgracing yourself in public you were still dumped at last? What about if the other lady is stronger than you? What if she has diabolical powers?
Is any guy really worth risking ones life for? Remember, the relationship is under probability, he is yet to become your husband.
AM STILL SAYING, BEFORE YOUR ANGER LEADS TO A FIGHT..
4. THINK ABOUT YOUR WORTH..
Are you not worth more than fighting over a man that doesn't value what you shared? Think about your self esteem. If he doesn't value who you are, then he ain't worth fighting over. Follow a man that knows your worth and he is ready to give up everything just to have you.
AND TO THE MARRIED..
BEFORE YOU FIGHT ANOTHER WOMAN....
1. EXAMINE YOURSELF... : Though there is no excuse for a man to commit adultery, but nothing happens without a cause. You just have to examine yourself if you have changed negatively. If you have made the house uncomfortable for him. Many women push their husbands out with their sudden change of attitude. Some deny their husbands sex for a long time. Wanting the husband to always beg or pay them before sex. No man can stand this for long, except he is genuinely close to God. So, you need to search for the loop hole and close it before thinking of fighting.
EXAMINE YOUR HUSBAND..
was your husband like this before marriage? What suddenly went wrong? Could it be the new friends he is associating with or could it be a spiritual attack?
You just have to think deep about the situation before you act.
2. TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND : you don't have to beef him. Communication still remains the "life Blood of every marriage" . Have a heart to heart talk with him about what is going on and how it's affecting you. Probably, both of you might come out with tangible solutions .
3. THINK ABOUT YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN..
The Bible says, the strange woman is a hunter.
.Proverbs 6:26 For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.
Many ladies out there are ready to wipe out a man's family just to stay with him. If you defeat her physically, you might not be able to defeat her spiritually. Will you put you family life at risk because of your husband.? What if your husband use your fighting his concubine against you and file for a divorce?
What if you die in the battle, can you marry him in the grave? What will become of your innocent children when she finally move into the house after you death?
You see, in as much as we should protect what rightfully belongs to us, we should apply wisdom.
Instead of engaging in physical battle, FIGHT YOUR BATTLES ON YOUR KNEELS, CRUSHING THE ENEMY UNDER YOUR FEET.
TO ALL SINGLE AND MARRIED MEN, PRIOTIZE YOUR LADIES. SHUN DOUBLE DATING AND ADULTERY.
To both married and single ladies, it suffices to say that you should THINK BEFORE YOU ACT, SO THAT YOU WONT END UP IN A REGRETTABLE CONDITION. WISDOM IS PROFITABLE TO DIRECT.

By Mrs. Josephine Aremo, 

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