Tuesday, 7 August 2018

How to Enjoy Your Single Life.

There are two ways to get things done in life, the good way or the bad way.
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Every single person usually wants to relish the adventures of their singleness but unfortunately, many get their fingers burnt on activities they explored which later destroyed them. There is a path you can tread to enjoy your single life: one comes with regret but the other has no regret.
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If you do not enjoy your single life, marriage will never become exciting. It is when you have mastered the proper use of your single life, I mean when you have groomed yourself to be complete, that is, maximizing your time, skill, brain, freedom, resources at your disposal that you can blend together with anyone you get married to.
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Learn to be complete as single before you think of going into marriage. You do not need anyone to make you whole as single. Be complete in all departments of your life before marriage. 
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Marriage is hard work and it comes with lots of sacrifices. In marriage, you no longer have the 24 hours to yourself, the money you earn is not yours anymore, it becomes ours and you do not have the opportunity to do whatever you want to do with your body, time, and freedom because you will be accountable to your partner.
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So how do you enjoy your single life before marriage comes? An elder brother of mine in ministry once told me to enjoy my single life and I was few years close to thirty then. I was like, what does this man mean? Shey ko mo age mi ni? It was much later that I understood his statement few years after.
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Sorry for preaching about marriage, but that’s the gospel truth. Now, let’s face business.
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There is a school of thought which has made singles to believe that to enjoy their single life, they must go partying, clubbing, keep scores of boyfriends and girlfriends, sagging their trousers, doing guy-manism, queen slaying, throwing jabs at others, painting their faces upandan, dressing anyhow, living the kind of life they want to live without giving a damn to who likes it or not or tries to correct them.
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See, the world will give you accolades if you tread her path but at the end, you’re on your own.
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Let’s be frank, how many people have you seen who treaded this path and later became a force to reckon with in life? There is a way that seems right to singles but the end thereof are the ways of death. Of a truth, you will pleasurably enjoy your single life if you toe this path but the consequence isn’t far-fetched.
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But lately, I have come to discover the best way to enjoy your single life.
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What regret would you have when you personally discover and explore God in this time that you’re single? I don’t mean that you’re full of religious activities but your soul yearns for more of God and He reveals Himself to you.
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How can you suffer heart break when God and Jesus dwells in your heart? Have you ever come to that point in your life when you are so overjoyed, not because you had your first kiss or sex but because you were filled with the overwhelming presence of God? Have you once tasted that communion with the Holy Spirit that even when it is Gari you are left to soak, you soak it with Jesus joy in your heart, not because you are poor but because you have not yet become that which He has destined you to be?
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How can your single life be boring when you have discovered God’s purpose for your life and you are doing something about it? If you were destined to be a singer, tap your inspiration from Him, not from ganja or Indian hemp. Groom your voice. Hone your skills as a singer. Tarry in the secret place to be endued with power so that your ministry will influence destinies and not entertain them.
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How can you be lonely when you carry His shekinah glory around you or that His voice becomes more audible in your spirit man? You cannot be lonely when the Holy Spirit begins to speak clearly to you on all matters of your life – the major, minor and moderate issues.
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Why will you even beg people to love you when you have discovered the incomparable love of God and it has fill your heart?
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Utilize your single life to the fullest by pursuing God. He becomes more real when you seek Him diligently. Of course, you will have to pay the price of separation from too many company of friends, frequent abuse of time on social media, purposeless relationship, unnecessary visits and so on. You will have to spend time to pray and to study His word, not because you want to become a man of God, but because of your love for Him.
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How won’t you enjoy your single life when you see your life in the light of how God sees it – a time to invest for eternity, your destiny and future before marriage comes. Acquire godly knowledge. Further your education. Develop yourself personally and career wise. 
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Be a responsible single – be Single And Not Stupid. Remain a Virgin Till Marriage. Be a Youth Walking With Jesus. Don’t bother yourself with Relationship and Marriage groups when you are doing nothing about God’s purpose for your life. Be single with a Godly Character.
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And don’t just wait for Mr or Miss Right, enjoy your life in a godly and impacting way before they come.
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The best way to enjoy your single life is to serve God and live for him. You don’t serve God by pursuing mammon. You don’t serve God by becoming religious. Serving God is first about making your body (life inclusive) a living sacrifice to Him in a holy and acceptable way. It is not just a lip service, it is in having a personal and consistent relationship with Him. 
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I have never seen anyone who served God in their single years and regretted it later. But ‘had I known’ has always been the fate of those who do not retain God in their knowledge when they are single.
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Now I present this to you, choose whom you will serve now that you are single, whether the God Almighty or the god of this earth because it will determine the kind of enjoyment you will have? But as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord. 
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Don’t just say it, do something about it!
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi

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