Thursday, 23 August 2018

Kudos to Those Great Women.

I've come to discover in life that a woman is not a liability to a man but an asset to a real man that knows her worth. It is only those who knows the worth of a thing that can cherish and treasure it. 
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There are lots of women out there whom the society have made to believe that without men, they're incomplete even as singles or that they needed men to validate their worth. 
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But I write to the few great women out there. 
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This is not a post to rub feminist on their shoulders but to celebrate those few women, whom inspite of all that they suffered from the hands of wrong men, still rose up and toed the path of greatness. 
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Three gbosas to you woman, in spite of your broken hymen and heart, you picked up the pieces, allowed God to mend you and you paid the price to move on after you fell. Nice one! 
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I salute your courage my dear sister, it was quite unfortunate that the man you loved walked out of your life and marriage. You felt as though the world has collapsed on your shoulders, but regardless of that, you gathered yourself together and pursued greatness in your career and calling. Please keep it up! 
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I know how terrible it was when you naively fell in love with the one you love, only for him to deny responsibility for ever putting you through what you went through. Those tears, cries, agonies and hurt that crushed your heart made it seem as if you'll never rise again but you never allowed these to weigh you down; you forgave him and moved on. My dear, I celebrate you! 
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Kudos to those mothers whom their husbands weren't breadwinners but for the sake of their children, took menial jobs, denied themselves comfort, sold part of their belongings so that their children can be up and doing in the society. If no one sees or applaud you, dear mother, I give you kudos. 
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Kudos to those godly sisters who society made them feel odd for toeing the path few ladies trod. Rather than use what their mama gave them to get what they want or slay men, they awakened the man in them to fend for themself and became an object of envy for men. My sister, thumbs up!
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I cannot but forget those sisters whom in spite of sexual advances, temptation and assault, never allowed their emotions to make them sell their birthright for a temporal piece of pottage; even as the men were rushing them for sex, they resisted the pressure and through it all, they conquered it. My sister, abeg, chop knuckle! 
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And to those ladies who men thought they'd never get married because they were well read, financially independent, hard working and humble; yet, God gave you a good man in marriage, my dear, kudos to you! 
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I will not fail to mention those sisters whose price cannot be bought through sharwama, chicken and chips, pizza, cold stone or flashy things but men had to seek the face of God to find them suitable as a partner in marriage. My sister, chai, una wehdone o! 
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And to those single sisters who never allowed brothers to press do-reh-mi on their bodies because they want to satisfy their immediate sexual urge, honestly, you tried and God is proud of you. Please keep it up! Remain chaste, possessing enviable character. 
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Lest I forgot, to those sisters whom with Jesus joy, godliness and contentment soaked the Gari they could afford then but shunned the macaroni and cheese those men were tempting them with and today, their names were engraved with gold on a plaque of success; in fact, I trowey salute for una! 
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What makes a woman great is not because she had it smooth in life, but in spite of how unfavorable life treated her, she converted the lime to a lemonade and made a great story out of her past. 
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This is a challenge to every woman out there who believes they're incomplete until they have a man in their life. This is not to promote feminism, nor to make you remain single but to encourage women who thinks they cannot become well meaning in life without men to act like a lady but think like a man. 
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Get up! 
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In spite of whatever has befallen you in life, that's your past. Let it not define you or what you would become. 
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That a man walked out of your life doesn't mean God has forsaken you. That a man cheated on you, broke your heart or hymen doesn't mean it's over. Pick up the pieces he left. Gather up yourself and let God redesign your life so that when he sees you tomorrow, he'll regret what he ever did to you. 
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But if you still cling to the pain and the memory of the past, you'll give him a say over your life. 
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Once again, to every great woman out there and the ones in the making, I celebrate you all! Today might not be women's day or Mother's Day but in all sincerity, I celebrate you! 


© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.

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