Friday, 28 September 2018


He's been hanging around you for years. He says he loves you, takes you out on dates and everyone thinks you are courting but he is not saying anything about the future, dear sister, ask him questions! No, no, no, no, don't propose! I'm not asking you to do that. What I mean is, sit that guy down and ask him to define your relationship before your emotions go hay wire. He can't keep blocking other guys from coming closer if he ain't gonna marry you so ask!
Tell him to define your relationship with him. Are you just a sister in the Lord, friend, best friend, casual friend, course mate, colleague at work, lover, girlfriend, fiancee, neighbour or whatever? The earlier you know his mind the earlier you will save yourself from shock, disappointment and pain!
Some guys are indecisive. They don't know what they want. They keep you occupied with their presence while stretching their neck to find another lady yet won't allow other guys come close to you!
Others are plain shy and don't know how to propose while some are simply being your friend and thought you knew.
It is emotionally shattering to be in love with a "friend" for 5 years only to wake up and introduce his fiancee to you. You may fall sick and not recover!
Alright sis. Please, learn to face reality, set boundaries and define your relationships as soon as possible. Don't waste your time on a "friend" who gives you all the wrong impression yet he is not ready to marry you. Ask questions as early as possible and clear the air on time. You will save yourself lots of heartache and pain.

God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele

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