Tuesday, 30 October 2018

The Woman You MUST Strive to be: A Home Builder.

In this special series, permit me to do a few exposition on several Bible translations that address this issue. Kindly read and patiently understand.
.
According to the Bible, in Proverbs 14:1, "Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hand", KJV
.
"Every wise woman encourages and builds up her family, but a foolish woman over time will tear it down by her own actions", TPT
.
"A woman's family is held together by her wisdom, but it can be destroyed by her foolishness", CEV
.
"A wise woman makes her home what it should be, but the home of a foolish woman is destroyed by her own actions", ERV
.
From these four translations, you'd have discovered that the major building material you need as a woman to build your family is WISDOM. 
.
Wisdom is the application of the knowledge you understood. Without the information of what you should do as a woman and knowing the responsibility assigned to you, you won't be the woman you ought to be. 
.
A house is different from a home. It's the duty of a man to provide a house but the task of building a home or family is the woman's sole responsibility. 
.
Are you striving to be a wise woman that builds her home or the one that destroys it through her own actions? 
.
There are two kinds of wisdom, divine wisdom and worldly wisdom. You can't apply the wrong wisdom to build a successful home. This is one of the reasons why many marriages fail and parents couldn't train their children in the way they ought to go. 
.
The right wisdom you need to build your family as a woman is the wisdom that God gives (Prov. 2:6). Going to church without having a personal relationship with the God of the church can't grant you access to this wisdom. 
.
However, it takes wisdom to have a good family. It takes understanding to make it strong. It takes knowledge to fill a home with rare and beautiful treasures, (Proverbs 24:3-4 ICB)
.
You need wisdom in knowing how to deal with your husband, children, in-laws and friends. The kind of wisdom you acquire will reflect in your character. There is a kind of wisdom you have acquired from your education, exposure, experience and culture which won't help you build the kind of home you ought to build. This is why you must strive for the wisdom that God gives. 
.
The Proverbs 31 woman is a wise woman. Take your time to study the chapter and you'd discover all wisdom you need to glean from it. 
.
Strive to be a home builder and not a home breaker. Build your husband and your children according to what God wants them to be and it is very important that you choose the right man.
.
Don't wait till you get married to know how to build your home. Learn the rudiments of home building. Acquire the skills and importantly, be intimate with the giver of godly wisdom. 
.
Have this in mind, wisdom is knowing what to do, when to do and how to do things regardless of the situation you find yourself. Are you striving to be a wise woman who has all it takes to build her home? 
.
Dear single ladies, don't be like those ladies who can talk to anyone anyhow without minding whose ox is gored. They have their rewards. 
.
Strive to be a woman who speak with wisdom, who act wisely in spite of the situation she found herself. You need to develop this trait in you long before marriage. 
.
How do you talk to people around you? When you are angry, do you spit out fire or you calm your nerves? Or you give it to them hot when you are raging? 
.
The kind of wisdom you acquire will reflect in your character. You cannot have godly wisdom and be a nagging wife. Godly wisdom will teach you to be humble, patient and modest. 
.
Naturally, humans aren't born with godly wisdom, this is why the Holy Spirit spoke through Apostle James, "If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask from God who gives to all men liberally and upbraids not and it shall be given him" (James 1:5).
.
It is with your wisdom that you'd define the kind of marriage you'd have. Your wisdom will reflect in the lives you impact, especially your children. 
.
Ask God for wisdom. Study the Bible to know more about His kind of wisdom. 
.
The failure of most families is first traceable to the women in it, this is why women receives more blames than accolades when their children become wayward or morally decadent. 
.
If it's somehow impossible to have irresponsible fathers, it's definitely possible to have a wise woman. Be like Abigail who in spite of her husband's folly, she was able to manage him until she was liberated.
.
Now, let me ask you again, which kind of woman are you striving to become: a wise woman that builds her home or the foolish one that would destroy it? 
.
© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.

No comments:

Post a Comment