Monday, 8 October 2018

What Makes Him/Her Right or Wrong.

Marriage becomes successful when you marry the right person and you apply the right principle. 
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In the quest of finding the right partner, a lot of people do not know how to find the right person or know what to do to make themselves the right partner as some relationship expert preaches. 
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What makes you right for the person you want to marry or makes the person wrong is a function of two things: 
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1. How compatible in destiny he or she is to you 
2. The condition of their heart towards you.
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Oftentimes like Samuel, we look at the physical appearance of a potential spouse while we ignore the important thing. A lot of ladies prefer men who are tall, dark, rich and handsome without knowing whether such men will make their life worse than how they were when they were single. 
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And some brothers are mostly carried away by how beautiful, sexy and endowed some sisters are without bearing in mind if she will frustrate God's purpose for their life or be a help meet. 
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Do you know what you're destined to become In life? 
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To know the right or wrong person, know what you're destined to become. What you're destined to become is not what you choose to become, rather, it is what God wants you to be. 
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You can marry based on who you think you are but it's best you marry based on who God has destined you to become so that your partner will be able to accommodate whichever change that happens to you in the future. 
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See, your marriage can first be successful when you marry a partner that is compatible with your destiny. Stop looking for sexual or physical forms of compatibility. Discover God's purpose for your life. 
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It'll cost you a deliberate prayer for God to reveal it to you. You can't guess God's purpose for your life or assume that you know it. 
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When you don't know God's purpose for your life, you can't know what you are destined to become or who you should marry or who you should not. 
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First and foremost, pay the price to know God's purpose for your, this is the first important step you MUST take to know who you must marry and who you must not marry. 
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When you have discovered His purpose for your life, it'll be easy for you to know who is a partner or parasite in destiny without prayers but by careful observation. 
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Next thing you must examine is the condition of your heart and theirs.
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Why do you want to marry? Why do you choose that brother or sister to spend the rest of your life with? 
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The Bible says the heart is evil and desperately wicked, who can know it? Only God can! Even I myself do not know the heart of my best friend unless God reveals it to me. 
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Don't be carried away by words or profession, a man or woman that's promising you marriage or is head over heels in love with you may have a sinister motive behind their profession of love. No matter how wise or smart you think you are, you cannot know the heart of your spouse to be unless God reveals it to you. 
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This is why you must be connected to God so that He can reveal the secret intent of the heart of men and women to you. 
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There was a story of a sister and brother I heard that happened in a church. The brother was a choir master and he has proposed to the sister and their courtship was on going. The sister kept praying and God told her to visit the brother one day unannounced. 
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To the utmost shock of her life, she met her would be husband in active ministry in the bedroom with another sister. She doesn't need a counselor to tell her what to do next. Mind you, only God can reveal the true person a man or woman is to you. 
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Work on your heart and marry for the right motive. If your motive for marrying is not right, the happenstance of life will make you change your reasons for staying married. 
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So that you won't fall into the hands of cheats, pretenders and liars, abide in the secret place of the Most High. This is where He can reveal the secret of the heart of men and women to you. 
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It is simple to say "I love you" but not everyone can maintain that statement in the face of marital challenges in marriage. 
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Other compatibility checklist is irrelevant if he or she is not compatible with your destiny and if you have not worked on your heart by God, it'll be difficult for you to know the heart of who's right or wrong for you. 
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May you not marry your enemy as a spouse in Jesus name. 


© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.

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