Friday, 30 November 2018

HOW TO HEAR WHAT YOUR MAN IS NOT SAYING.

Nothing is as annoying as when your man is worried sick but hides it, acts macho and even gets angry when you ask him what is bothering him. It may even be sickening to see him want something, yet won't ask!
As a rule, men don't like appearing weak, they will rather beat around the bush than tell you what is really eating them up! They may get angry when he is really weeping and may act indifferent when he is hurting bad, very badly!
WHY WON'T YOUR MAN TALK TO YOU?
1. He is scared of rejection. Nothing shatters a man's ego than being rejected at the moment he is vulnerable.
2. He doesn't know how to express himself. Men feel what we feel. They feel the love, affection, insecurities, fear etc but may just not know how to express them.
3. He doesn't want to appear weak.
4. You worry too much. If you are a kind of person who worries over little things, your man will find it difficult sharing his heart, challenges and weaknesses with you.
5. You are hot tempered. Men hate women with hot temper with passionate hatred and will always shut down instead of saying anything that may trigger your rage.
6. You gossip: gossiping women are not trust worthy. He can't trust you with personal information so he keeps mute.
Etc.
WHAT YOUR MAN IS ALWAYS SAYING BUT YOU ARE NOT HEARING
1. He wants quality, passionate, love making (for the married).
2. He wants affection.
3. He wants support.
4. He wants you to be his best friend.
5. He wants you to know he loves you and you mean everything to him.
6. He wants you to praise, admire, compliment and totally adore him.
HOW TO MAKE YOUR MAN TALK TO YOU
1. Show understanding and sympathy.
2. Speak his love language.
3. Let him talk when he wants to. Don't rush him and don't make him feel guilty when he finds it difficult expressing himself.
4. Be trustworthy with information. Don't be a local gossip.
5. Adjust fast when he corrects you.
6. Let him know you will always be there for him regardless of the challenges he faces.
Men can express their real feelings, they just want a safe environment they can do so. If you can prove trust worthy, understanding and mature in your dealings with him, he will open up, share his heart with you, connect with you at a deeper level and you experience real intimacy in your courtship/marriage. May the Lord grant you understanding. Thanks for reading. God bless you, cheers!

© Seun Oladele

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