Tuesday, 6 November 2018

Survival Tips For Singles.

Being single has both merits and demerits, depending on the cause you live for: purpose or pleasure. You can determine whether being single will be to your advantage or disadvantaged. 
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Singleness is a period of your life when you fight the battles of sexual temptation, sexual urge, pressure to get married, the occasional feeling of loneliness, comparison amongst others. It's also a period where you learn, build capacity, mature, master good habits and grow to become a responsible adult.
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But the battle to remain sexually pure has its toll on every singles and most became casualties. 
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Lest I forget, suppressing sexual fantasies you periodically have when you read romance novels or watch movies where couples express passionate affection would also be a challenge. 
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You may not need to be spiritual to overcome those battles earlier mentioned but when it comes to sexual fantasy you imagine in your mind, you need to discipline your mind and be spiritual. 
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Do you think you'd never fantasize about sex throughout your single years? Don't form spirikoko. It'll happen once in a while but what you do with it shows whether you're carnal or spiritual, sexually pure or immoral. 
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Let me share few tips on how to survive sexual thoughts when they come.
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1. Watch what you feed your mind with. Your ears and eyes are doorway into your mind. Try as much as you can not to expose yourself to X-rated materials especially those ones that would set you in the mood. 
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It's very difficult to ponder on something that has never catched your attention or diffused into your ear. Be disciplined enough to turn off the movie when you noticed nudity or walk away from any conversation that's getting your hormones fired up. 
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Don't form voltron or Van Damme. You're only as strong as when you walk away.
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2. Guard your thoughts. What you think of has the power to determine what goes on in your mind. Do you know that sex starts from the mind? 
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When your mind conceives a sexual thought, it sends signals to your brain, your brain process it, then your sexual hormones activates your sexual organs. 
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When there is an available means of expressing those feelings, premarital sex happens but if there's none, masturbation or porn will take over. 
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Your thoughts will be unguarded if you concentrate on everything you see, think or hear. Be fast as you can to trash them out. The best way to achieve this is to replace those thoughts with something better. Think on what is godly, pure, honest and of good report. 
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3. Don't walk in the flesh. Your flesh, the human nature or the carnal mind has every means of giving you suggestions on how to please itself when you're sexually aroused.
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It can bring a flashback of your ex, past sexual relationship or suggest masturbation or porn to you. If you listen, you'll end up asking God for forgiveness after it has pushed you off sanity. 
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You can't live a victorious life or remain sexually pure if you walk in the flesh. Carnality destroys because it will make you God's enemy. 
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However, you can conquer your flesh when you crucify it on the Cross through the power of the Holy Ghost; starve it and renew your mind daily with the word of God. 
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Remaining sexually pure while single is a real deal. You must fight and win the battle everyday. Temptation isn't once and for all, it's an occasional battle you must win. If you're sexually loose or immoral while single, being married won't curb it. 
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Most people who had extramarital affairs in marriage were sexually loose while single. It's the battle of the mind. If you don't overcome it, it'll defeat you no matter your status or anointing. 
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NB. If you're married or single reading this, how were you able to survive those sexual urge, feelings or temptation? Kindly share your experience to encourage a soul. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.

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