Friday, 30 November 2018


We sometimes marry hoping our partners will become all romantic, loving and caring overnight, there is that. It takes patience and hard work to have a good marriage. You just have to work at it. You must work it out!
PDA (Public Display of Affection) wasn't easy for my husband after marriage! He wasn't used to being all romantic, grabbing and groping a woman, he married as a virgin. While that is good for helping him stay sexually pure before marriage, it was a zero in my affection bank.
At home, he was all romantic of course but public? Heck, NO! He would stylishly remove my hand or head from his shoulder and acted in a proper "Omoluwabi" way, gosh! I hated that! I wanted him to show me abundance of affection in public!
Patience, punctuality, endurance and politeness were my major weaknesses. It took lots of patience on his part and lots of hard work on my part to overcome our weaknesses and have a great marriage.
He is very relaxed with me in public now. He lets me put my head on his shoulder, play with him and show him PDA. I am more patient with him, enduring and trying to get things done on time.
Don't marry expecting your spouse to be all you wanna want them to be in a day. It takes time. Give them time to grow, change and adapt to you.
Don't condemn your husband because he is not doing what other men do to their wives. Give him time. Rome is not built in a day for God's sake! Don't compare your husband with other men! He is not other men! He is different! Celebrate his uniqueness!
Don't criticize or judge your wife because she is not moving up to your expectation. Give her time for crying out loud! It takes time to change! And while correcting in love, practice 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, it will give your home abundance of peace, love and joy.
Unrealistic expectation is the reason so many couples are divorced today. Stop focusing on your spouse's weaknesses, they are not as bad as you are imagining them to be. If others tell you what they are going through in their marriages, you will thank God for your own.
Appreciate their strengths! Praise, celebrate and admire them. What we appreciate, appreciates (increases) in value.
As you celebrate, honour and show gratitude for their good sides, they will be happier, glow more and be very eager to change and adapt to your needs.
You will not fail in your marriage in Jesus' name!
Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!

© Seun Oladele

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