Monday, 12 November 2018

The Kind of Man You Must Strive to be: A Transformational Leader.

There are men and there are men in deed. Some men are called players, gold diggers, irresponsible while some are called real men or great men. 
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All that some men are can be described with is based on their looks, masculinity, sexual prowess, gambling proficiency and womanizing skills; yet they go about bragging about these qualities they posses. 
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No man was ever born to be great in life, great men paid the price to become successful. If you're ever going to be a man in deed, you must strive to be a leader. 
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Some months ago, I was in a program organized by Deeper Life Bible Church for youths in Lagos, where Pat Utomi was a guest. He spoke on leadership and he opened my understanding to the types of leaders that exist. 
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A lot of men are transactional leaders, they have the mentality of "Do this for me, I'll do that for you". In relationship, they expect women to compensate their kindness with sexual intimacy or financial benefits. 
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In case you don't know, every man is a leader. You're either leading people to destruction or you're leading to transform their lives. Jesus was such a transformational leader who changed the course of mankind in less than four years. 
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Who is a transformational leader? 
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1. He leads himself. You can't be a leader without having led yourself. Through personal discipline, character building, purpose discovery, vision and focus transformational leaders develop themselves. 
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If all you know is to build muscles, argue about sports, politics, religion, dress nicely or gossip about celebrities, without doing the needful, you're not going to be a great leader. 
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2. He's a man that influences lives positively. A transformational leader does not destroy lives. What kind of influences are you creating in your relationships? David was such a leader who made men of valor out of those who lived with him (people who were distressed, in debt and that were discontented).
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You cannot be a transformational leader if all you do is to cheat, break heart, womanise, gamble with your life and resources. What influences a man is a function of the cause he lives for. Do you live for God's purpose or the pleasures of life? 
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3. He's a change agent. Add a little pinch of salt to an unsalted meal and it brings out its unique taste. 
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What kind of change are you striving to make as a man? What benefit is your life doing in the society, on social media and in your family? 
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There are men whose existence on earth will be remembered for the evil they did while some will be remembered for the change they brought. Look into your life, what change are you creating in your sphere of influence? 
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4. He maintains divine hierarchy. No man lived without being influenced by a spiritual force. Some are proud to disclose theirs while some won't tell you what governs their lives spiritually.
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Are you a man who's connected to God or you allow the god of this earth to influence your life? 
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You cannot be a leader without being led by something. Adolf Hitler's vision of destroying the Jewish community in his days was not ordinary. If you're not connected to God through Jesus, something else would drive your spiritual life. 
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Dear man, what kind of man are you striving to become? Will you be known as a man who transformed lives or a man who destroyed destinies? You don't need to be a governor or president before you become leader, every man has the innate potentials of leadership. 
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Wake up the good leader in you. Don't be known as a man who disvirgined or broke the heart of women. You cannot become a good husband if you're not a transformational leader. Marriage isn't for pleasure but for purposeful living. 
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Change your mindset. That you assisted women to become better does NOT mean you must be compensated sexually. Don't lead with your penis, lead according to God's purpose for your life. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.

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