Sunday, 6 January 2019

Will it End Years After Your Wedding?

I spent a whole lot of my formative years in my local church watching several couples run their marriages with respect to life and the demands that comes with the marital life. 
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Think no contrary thoughts about this post. I'm not writing on issues relating to sex or extramarital affairs, I'm writing on an important aspect of your life that controls both the physical and the supernatural. 
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Will all your spiritual fervor or gim gim end few years after your wedding? 
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There are stories of firebrand brothers and sisters who a short while after wedding, like an Harmattan fire, all their spiritual energy and love for the things of God melted away like a snow before the sun. 
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Listen dear singles, if you're still struggling to build your spiritual life, it'll become practically impossible in marriage. Have you heard that marriage is hard work? The demands of your spouse, in-laws, parenting, issues of life and so many things which you never envisage would come up in marriage but if you aren't spiritually strong, you won't be able to cope in marriage. 
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Some of those sisters I observed while growing, ask them why they didn't come for midweek service, they'll say, "It's your daughter that caused it". Ask the brothers and you'd hear, "Work caused it". I'm not saying you should neglect your family for the sake of fellowship but will the fire on your alter be able to survive marital challenges? 
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As singles, this is the time you should care more about the things of God rather than bother yourself unnecessarily with who to marry, how to meet him or her or when to meet them. Seek His kingdom first and He'll add other things (including Mr or Miss Right) to you. Paul in his epistles said, "The unmarried cares for the things of the Lord but the married cares for how he or she may please their spouse".
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What do you care for now that you're single? 
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If they're still forcing you now to pray, fast, keep personal vigil, be consistent in your quiet time; is it in marriage that you'd be up and doing?
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It is often said that to know how truly spiritual a man or woman is, watch how they burn years after their wedding. 
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Gather spiritual stamina and consistency now that you're single. Many firebrand brothers and sisters have become cold spiritually. They have ended up as story tellers whilst they're still alive. "When I was still single, I do this and that for God", but how old are they now? 
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Let not your spiritual fervor be extinguished by marriage. Let not your spiritual zeal and activities end in marriage. Care more for the things of God. Gladly spend and be spent for God now that you're single so that in marriage, you'll fire on. If you're not on fire for God while single, it'll be impossible to burn for God in marriage. 
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Take note of this also, do not allow the pressure of getting married push you to marry just anyone. If that brother is not on fire for God now, don't think he'll change. He will pretend only but for a while and his real self will manifest in marriage. If that lady complains that you're too spiritual, understand that you're not just her type. See the handwriting on the wall and run! Don't allow love to blindfold you. 
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God deposited lots of talents and abilities in many singles but who they ended up marrying frustrated the grace of God upon their lives. 
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Are you in a love relationship and your spiritual life is going down on per second basis? Is that relationship dragging you away from God? Watch it! Anything or anyone that takes you away from God will bring you closer to the devil. Ask brother Samson. 
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Don't let all your spiritual energy and zeal end few years after your wedding. Gather enough wood so that your fire won't go out. Develop your spiritual life to a height that nothing can pull you down, not even the demands of marital relationship.
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Above all, don't be desperate to marry just anyone that comes your way. Until God says, "This is the one", every other persons that parade themselves before you are not suitable for your life and destiny. 
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Will all this your spiritual 'gim gim' end in marriage? Watch it! 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.

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