Wednesday, 27 February 2019

7 Habits That Ruins Successful Relationships.

Do you know that relationships that had potentials to become successful can be destroyed through the habits of one of the partners involved? 
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I've always stated this as a fact that the success of a relationship is determined by the persons involved and the principles they use to run their relationship. 
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If two right persons enter into a relationship but one of them uses the wrong principle, their relationship will be unsuccessful. And if the right principles was used but one of the parties involved had a terrible habit, the success of their relationship is inconclusive. 
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Are you in a relationship and you notice some character deficiency in your life or partner? Or you notice these few habits I'd itemize below? 
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Weigh your options before you regret the choice you'd make. 
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1. Insecurity 
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Insecure people have trust issues. They can't trust their partners seeing them relate with other people. 
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Insecure people want you to be with them throughout the day and they will monitor you when you're not with them. 
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Relationship isn't meant to be a prison. Allow your partner to relate freely with others, although you can guide them when you sense they're with the wrong people. 
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However, it's sign of emotional weakness that makes people insecure in their relationship and it's a terrible habit to come by unless they change. 
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2. Anger
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The Holy Bible stated that anger rests in the bosom of fools. A certain dose of displeasure can be expressed but when anger becomes a rage, results in domestic violence and destruction of properties; it's not ideal to live with such persons. 
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To overcome anger, you must allow God subdue your flesh through His spirit. Little can self-help methods do to cure anger, you need God to help you overcome it completely because it's a product of the flesh (Adamic nature). 
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3. Pride
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The oldest sin before disobedience that Adam and Eve committed was pride. It originated from Lucifer when he desired to exalt his position above the throne of God. 
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Trust me, pride goes before a fall. A proud partner cannot submit as a woman and as a man, he'd expect you to lick his shoes. 
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Pride has the capacity to make you lose the right person. Do you know that the will of God don't usually come in the package you want? But when you allow pride destroy you, you'll lose friends and suitors. 
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4. Unforgiveness
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Nothing steals a person's happiness or joy other than unforgiveness. There's no way you won't offend him or her but when you choose not to forgive, you'll personally destroy your relationship. 
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Unforgiveness makes you keep records of wrong and to remind your partner of what they did in the past. 
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5. Cheating 
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A fornicator is a potential adulterer. 
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If you can't master the art of celibacy when single, it'll be practically impossible to embrace sexual fidelity in marriage except there's a change of life. 
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Those who cheat on their partner destroys themselves than the pleasure they derive from such act. 
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Cheating isn't fun because every time you cheat on your partner sexually, something in you is reduced, something is acquired and you lose honor. In fact, the devil will himself accuse you before God for violating His word.
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6. Abuse
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When the purpose of a thing is not known abuse is inevitable. 
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Do you know that when you do not know the purpose of a man or woman in your life, you'd abuse them? 
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Some people are fond of verbal abuse which destroys the emotional stability of their partner. And the height of the abuse is domestic violence and sexual abuse. 
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If you find yourself using demeaning words to describe your partner or you name call them, you must desist from such act. And if at the slightest provocation you vent your anger by hitting them, you're not likely going to have a successful relationship. 
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No one stays where they're humiliated but prefers the atmosphere where they're cherished and celebrated. 
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7. Immaturity 
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When two immature persons enter into a relationship, their relationship can't be successful. And when one of the persons involved is immature, such relationship will only be endured for a short while before it hits the rock. 
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Immature people are emotionally weak, spiritual babes, mentally unsound and financially incapable to play their role in making their relationship successful. 
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They'll intentionally blame their partner for their own shortcomings or feel so intimidated by the success of their partner so that they can frustrated them. It's such a terrible habit. 
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Check out this habits in your own life and in the person you're considering for a love relationship. Love cannot be blind to these habits except you want to endure your relationship in the long-run. 
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You cannot be the right person if any of these habits finds expression in your life. Examine yourself critically and don't justify your wrongs. It's better to address an error than to look for ways to correct it when it's already late. 
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Which other habits I do not mention can pose a threat to the success of a relationship? Kindly mention them so that others can learn. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.

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