Friday, 15 February 2019

Before She breaks Your Heart (For Men Only).

Have you ever seen a man who was heart broken in his relationship? It may sound weird but it does exist. 
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Trust me, I've once been a victim of heart break by the woman I love. But unfortunately, she went after another guy who's got more swag than I. Then, I haven't learnt how to keep a lady you love glued to you. 
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After the experience, I almost concluded that I wasn't going to fall in love with any lady, thinking all of them are the same. But thanks to the ones who proved me wrong. 
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Men are emotional being. A man may fake been strong but when he's dealt with in the hand of the woman he set his heart to love, you'll be shocked to know that men also cry. 
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To avoid being heart broken, there's something you must do in your relationship before you find yourself in a tearful situation. And before that happens, do these... 
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1. Define your relationship with her
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When a man fails to define his relationship with a woman, he will end up been taken as a "friend", "uncle" or an elder "brother". In this case, he becomes friend-zoned. 
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Don't think she's thinking what you're thinking or feeling what you're feeling. Don't assume she sees you from the same lens you view her. Communicate your thoughts and intents with her once and for all. Know where you stand before she takes you as just a friend. 
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Talk. Ask questions. Don't assume. Or think she's considering you to be her future husband. Until she's building the future with you, don't invest your life into her. 
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2. Know who she is
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It's easy to identify a woman who's a wife material from a materialistic one. By the fruit of her character, you'll know who she is. 
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A woman that's worthy of becoming a wife won't be materialistic, pleasure seeking or carnal. She'll plan, build and encourage you to be a better person. But if she's the "chop and go" type, you'll know. 
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Don't be fooled mister. A woman who won't break your heart won't play with it like a kite. She won't be the superficial type, but rather, take your serious and build her life with you. 
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Know her materially, physically but not sexually. Know how she treats others and you also. There's also a knowing through cognition. Adam knew who Eve was when he saw her. Look deep beyond the mascara and foundation. Women too can pretend. Be spiritually minded and don't be carnally driven. 
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So that you won't invest in the wrong person...
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3. Know who you are 
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This is very important. 
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Who are you? I do not mean to ask you about your name or personal details. Who are you in terms of the discovery of your God-given purpose? 
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When you know who you are, you'll know the kind of woman you should be in a relationship with or not. You'd have done your assignment better in the place of prayer. 
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When you know who you are, you won't easily open up your heart to the wrong woman who would use you and squeeze you dry like a wet towel. 
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Not all women are "chop and go", you've only got to meet the wrong one. Not all women are materialistic, you've only lavished her with the material things you've got to offer. 
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When you meet the right woman and you treat her right, she won't break your heart but when you meet the wrong one and try to make her yours while her mind is elsewhere, she'll leave you heartbroken. 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.

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