Monday, 4 February 2019

Why Men Behave The Way They Do.

(The picture depicting a man)
Frankly speaking, this post will be strictly addressing men and the entire male folks. I'm a man but the level of issues tied to the males folks when it comes to parenting, leadership and relationship is a far cry. 
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Trust me, there are few good men but the opposite outnumber the good ones. Why do men behave the way they do, both the good one and the bad ones? 
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Why are there so many irresponsible fathers? Why do we have men who make life miserable for women in marriage? Look around the polity, how many women became bad leaders? Bad governance, poor and corrupt leadership, criminality, thuggery and fraudsters all have men taking a large percentage of them. 
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If you as a man take this post as a gender-based thing, then it shows you're among the ones I'm writing about. 
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The church too isn't spared. Fake pastors and prophets, rebellious members, carnal elders and deacons are mostly men. Why? 
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Here's what the Lord told me, "Until a man's head is correct, that is, connected to the right source, everything else about him won't be right".
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A man is to function in four offices: a leader, a priest, a father and a husband. All these are affected based on the head he's connected to. When Adam was connected to God, he was able to reflect God's image and likeness but when sin came, he lost his dignity and manhood. 
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Some men are connected to occultism, sorcery, fetish practices, carnality, worldliness and black magic but very few are connected to Jesus; hence, this influence their lives. 
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That a man goes to church doesn't mean he's connected to the Head of the church. Ladies be careful of the man you say yes to because automatically he becomes your husband, father and the father to your children. 
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Why men behave the way they do is traceable to just one thing and that's the head they're connected to. 
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A man that's connected to carnality will lead and influence you carnally. He'll tell you there's nothing bad in anal, oral and ungodly sexual styles. A man that's culturally driven will lead you based on the pattern of what is culture dictates.
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How do you expect a man who's occultic to become a great leader in the society? If he doesn't go into full-scale occultism, he'll be fetish. And if you marry such, don't be surprised if your underwears are missing. 
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But men who are connected to Jesus as their head will manifest the life of Christ in the offices they function. I respect the temperamental philosophy but I believe anyone that's in Christ and consistently renews his or her mind will reflect the personality of Jesus. 
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Men, wake up and become responsible. Be a transformational leader and not a transactional leader. Be a priest that's connected to God and don't leave spiritual matters to women alone. You don't need to have children before you become a father, how you take responsibility over your siblings and those who are not related to you by blood will tell of the kind of dad you'd be when you have children from your own loins. 
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Becoming a husband is not just by giving her money or good sex, be a man that would nourish and cherish his wife. Love her as Christ loved the Church and the way you love yourself.
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Being a man is not just to live but to live with a sense of purpose, responsibility and dignity. Don't be among the notorious men, don't be among the men who made women to say all men are the same. 
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Who are you connected to as a man? Is your head correct? I don't mean your physical head but the head where you draw strength, purpose and direction from. 
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Here's what Apostle Paul said about the headship of a man, "But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God" (1 Corinthians 11:3 KJV).
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When something else becomes the head of a man and not Christ, he can never function adequately as a man, take note of the word "never". Ladies, if your man's TDRAH (Tall, Dark, Rich and Handsome) but doesn't have Jesus Christ has is head, you won't have a correct head and you'd never enjoy what it is to be married to a man. 
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Don't look for men who have what you want, prayerfully seek for men who have what you need. If he doesn't have Christ, he'll man over your life with what becomes his head. 
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Many men behave the way they do because they are sick and their head is not correct. You can know who and what a man is connected to by how he leads and relate with you as a lady. 
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If you're not yet married as a lady, count yourself lucky because whatever rules the head of a man is what drives his life and relationships. If you're married to a man who's head is not correct, you'll have to submit to him. A woman has the power to determine the kind of man she marries only if she can wisely, prayerfully and patiently choose the right one. 
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Any man that you see misbehave or failed to become the man he ought to be, know that his head is not connected to the right source. Dear men, are you connected to Jesus Christ? You can become anything you want to become in life but if you're not connected to Jesus Christ, you cannot become all that God wanted you to be, regardless of your seemingly earthly success and achievement. 
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I pray that the generation of our young men will learn so that they won't repeat the error of their predecessors. May you become the man who God wanted you to be and you will save young men from the degradation of manhood.
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi 2019

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