Sunday, 3 March 2019

How God Joins a Man And His Together In Holy Matrimony (A Question & Answer Session)

P.S: Quite lengthy, but you'd be blessed reading it.
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Her: Sir, is God interested in joining two persons together in marriage? 
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Me: Yes because He's interested in our affairs. And His thoughts for us is of good. 
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Her: The Bible says, "What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder" (Mark 10:9). Does God still joins two persons together in marriage like He did for Adam and Eve? 
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Me: Marriage is a mystery that takes spiritual understanding to unravel and to make the best of it. When two persons go into a marital relationship without understanding God's purpose for it, they'll mess up their marriage. 
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God joins a man and his wife together in holy matrimony. There's a joining that comes from men and you can also join yourself with whoever you want without God's input.
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God doesn't join His children together and they'll be put asunder through their irreconcilable differences except they allow a third-party interference. 
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Her: There are three questions I want you to please throw light on so that singles preparing for marriage and those engaged to be married can understand before they say, "I do".
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Me: Okay, no problem. 
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Her: Question 1, Why does God join together? 
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Me: For His purpose. 
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God's purpose for marriage is not primarily for us to make babies, you can fulfill His purpose as married couples without having biological children. Elizabeth and Zechariah had been fulfilling His purpose before they gave birth to John the Baptist in their old age. 
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God didn't institute marriage so that a man and his wife can be enjoying sexual intimacy two-four-seven, with all the styles they can think of. That's secondary. The greatest intimacy a man can have is when he intercourse with God. 
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He didn't make marriage as an escape route for loneliness or being single. He has more things in mind when He brings a man and his wife together. 
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If you don't find a cure to being lonely now that you're single, marriage won't cure it. And if you don't maximize your life now that you're single, you won't make the best use of your life when you become married. 
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The primary purpose for God to have created marriage is so that the man can continue his assignment for God and his wife would be his assistant, who fits him purposefully, now and in the future. 
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Adam was doing something for God before He brought the woman to him. Don't marry a man that's doing nothing for God. Being a chorister, an usher, a prayer warrior and the likes are good but he must have an understanding of why he is here on earth and he's doing the right thing concerning it. 
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Don't marry a woman that doesn't have the capacity to be a help meet. 
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Her: Hmmm, very well noted. 
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Question 2: Who do God joins together?
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Me: A man and his wife. Many make mistakes at this junction. As a child of God, you can't marry anyone without His guidance, except you want to lean on to your own understanding and there's a consequence.
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God doesn't join two immature persons together but they're not worse off either. He joins two right person together regardless of their background, education, exposure but He doesn't downplay their belief system. 
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Adam was a formed man and the woman was made before God joined them together. God doesn't join a believer with an unbeliever, nor does He join two unbelievers together in marriage for His purpose. 
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God joins a helper and his help meet together so that they can become one in fulfilling His counsel. This is why one shall chase a thousand and two shall chase ten thousand to flight. 
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You can join yourself with whoever you want but it's best to allow Him to join you with the man or woman He has prepared for you. 
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Also note that age is not a barrier in His joining, neither is your past an hindrance. God joins together His two children in spite of their denominational differences but He joins His children who are yoked together with Christ. 
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Not everyone that goes to church has been yoked together with Christ. 
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It is through the agency of discipleship that God forms a man and makes a woman. 
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Allow God to form you as a man He can use to carry out His assignment. Stay with God so that He can make you a help meet for the man He wants you to be yoked with in marriage. Stop "attaching" yourself to any man that God hasn't formed for you. 
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Her: Thank you for this insight sir. This leads us to the third question. 
Question 3: How does God join a man and his wife together?
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Me: He uses three different situations to achieve this. 
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1. Through circumstances. All things work together for the good of those who love God, nothing happens to them by chance. A man or woman can come into your life in a particular time or you meet them somewhere. Just be sensitive! 
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2. He sometimes uses people too. Angel Michael won't descend from heaven to lead you to your future spouse, He sometimes uses man to accomplish His purpose, even man's enemy. But be careful of being matchmaked by men when God's not involved. 
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3. When man is in a "sleep mode". This has been the ancient formula that God uses in bringing His children together. Adam fell into a deep sleep but his spiritual senses wasn't in a sleep mode. 
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Be in a total state of rest in your soul and stop looking for who to marry or worry yourself about it. This may sound contrary to your philosophy but it's the truth according to the Scriptures.
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Some relationship coach would tell you to sleep but open one of your eyes, but in the beginning, it was not so. 
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Put your complete trust in God. Pray to Him. Be patient and trust His timing. Don't run with the time of others, run according to God's timing for your life. 
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Importantly, discover your God-given purpose and be occupied fulfilling it. 
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Her: God bless you sir. 
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Me: Amen. 
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Her: Sir, let me be personal in asking this question. Question 4: How can I know that God has joined us together? Will there be a voice or an angelic visitation? 
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Me: Just the way Adam recognized the woman to be his bone of bones and flesh of flesh.
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It was through divine revelation and spiritual discernment. All the 101 ways to identify the right man or woman that many seek to know is a full-scale deception and confusion. 
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Only divine revelation and spiritual discernment gives you conviction and confirmation of who the right person is. 
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There is a knowing in you that silence doubt and confusion. There's a knowing in you that gives you two mutual peace, not the peace that comes from emotional bliss but the peace of God that passes all human understanding. 
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This is why the health of your spiritual life is very important in knowing the right person. Don't jump from Peter to Paul or be looking for Jane or Janet, invest in your spiritual life. 
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Spend quality time in studying and meditation on the scripture. Give yourself continually to personal prayers. Fellowship with brethren. Acquire godly knowledge and be intimate with the Holy Spirit. 
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God is still in the business of joining His children together, of those who put their trust in Him and do not lean on their own understanding. 
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It's better to revisit who and what has joined you together than to be joined on the alter. 
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Her: Thank you for this insightful exposition. 
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Me: Glory be to God! 
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Her: One last word for our readers? 
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Me: I'll cap it up with this statement: 
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"When God joins you together, no matter the raging of the storm, your marriage will stand because it was founded upon a rock". 
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© Oluwamayowa Adeniyi.

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